Right, I'm back

I'm propably going to forget half the things I wanted to say but here goes,
Firstly, ignore your friend and her 'perfect' child. The fact she listens to her mum has nothing to do with the way her mum says no, and is all about her personality. I can say no to Millie and she stops, I say no to Barney and he sniggers at me and carries on.
Secondly, Dee is right, she is FAR too young for reward charts. When I did the Wondernanny article for Prima Gitte told me that before 3 reward charts just don't work, if they seem to then it's pure fluke.
Thirdly, would you really want Daisy to sit and need spoon feeding at every meal? Sounds like my idea of hell :lol: how would you eat your own dinner?
Fourthly, (is that a word :lol: ) Toddlers poke each other, they push each other, in the case of my two they even occasionally head butt each other, all tottaly normal. Your friend is unrealistic to expect them to share their toys and play nicely at that age, toddlers just don't do that.
It seems to me that Daisy is the sort of child who likes to do everything herself (just like Barney) and I think the key is to find a way of accepting her individuallity (easier said than done), I also find that Barney behaves much better if I can wear him out, so I take him to places that are enclosed and let him run off! I obviously keep him within sight, but he loves 'escaping' and the excersise wears him out.
With regard to Daisy's eating I would really try and ignore it, toddlers won't let themselves starve, but at the minute meal times have turned into a great big game of wind up mummy, something toddlers love to do. If it were me I would put food down in front of her, stuff she could eat with her fingers and leave her to it. If she eats it great, if she doesn't then she can't have been very hungry!!
Please don't beat yourself up. Daisy is a tottaly normal, and I suspect very bright, little girl who is pushing boundrys because she wants to explore and experience everything. She will get more sensible as she gets older but she is at the difficult stage where their ideas far outstrip their capabilities!
Big hugs hun, hope you're feeling a bit better today.
xx