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18/07/2010 at 18:35
My 15 month old daughter has suddenly decided in the last few days that she doesn't want to eat proper meals any more. She will eat her breakfast and that is about it. No matter what I offer at she refuses to eat it. I have tried her favourite meals and also things she's never had before but she either throws it at me or on the floor (the family dog thinks it's great!). Its had me in tears and it's worrying me as she is quite small for her age and can't really afford to lose weight. I'm starting to dread mealtimes and I don't want to turn it into battle time. She's always been great in the past and has eaten whatever had been put in front of her. I've tried everything I can think of to persuade her to eat but nothing works. At the moment I'm not offering her any snacks because (A) I'm hoping that it will make her more hungry for her proper food and (B) I don't want her living on nothing but snacks. Am I doing the right thing? She's got another tooth coming through at the min which has been causing her some problems. Could this be the reason? Should I take her to the doctor's or am I just overreacting (my partner thinks I am)? As a first time mum I really would appreciate any advice as I'm at my wits end! Also if you're in the same boat I would love to hear from you!
Many thanks X
18/07/2010 at 23:09
First of all,you're not over reacting.You're worried about your baby.
Teething could be a reason your daughter won't eat,one of mine didn't eat for a couple of days with cutting teeth,while most of my others weren't worried by it.
Do you feed your daughter or does she feed herself.I have noticed my nearly 14 month old getting stroppy if I try to feed him now.He eats most things including dinners with his hands,but I still do yogurts and cereal.We have to comprimise now,one spoon each and I hold the dish or pot.
Still feed her at the same times you always do.That's the routine she's used to and if you're both happy with that,don't change itObviously give long enough between meals and snacks that your daughter will be hungry by her proper mealtimes.If your daughter will eat snacks,just make sure they're the things you want her eating.My son still thinks blueberries and raisins are sweeties.Dry cheerios are another favourite.He'll also eat things like cheese ,ham,cooked veggies,bread,potatoes,pasta.I don't put his dinner in a bowl in front of him because he throws it,instead just a few pieces of food on his tray at a time.
Maybe have meals together so she can see you eating might help too.
Hopefully it's just a phase so try not to worry.If only healthy foods are available you won't have a child growing up eating just crisps and biscuits.Don't let it turn into a battle though,try not to offer an alternative each time.Most children will eat if they're hungry,if it's all going on the floor just clear up and leave it for that meal time,start again next mealtime.Try not to let your daughter see you're upset by this.Try to keep it all a happy fun experience
19/07/2010 at 09:07
Thank you so much for your reply. I'm pleased somebody understands what I'm going through. Sounds silly I know but I sometimes wonder if she'll ever eat anything again!
She loves to feed herself and hates it if I try to help. She's happy with finger foods too so I think I might give her finger foods (bread, carrots, toast, fruit, cheese) for lunch then a hot meal at tea time.
I might start having my main meals with my daughter as previously I have always fed her first, then waiting for my partner to come home before having mine (he works funny shifts and sometimes doesn't get home until 7pm).
I don't know if its just her little way of stamping her authority because she firmly puts her spoon in the dish, throws the dish at me (or on the floor) and then laughs and grins at me. She can be very stubborn and when she digs her little heels in she digs them in!
Oh well she's just woken up so we'll see how today goes.
Thanks once again x
19/07/2010 at 10:35
I was thinking of you this morning.My little man insisted on his own spoon,not so he could feed himself but so he could plaster himself,his chair and me with weetabix.He threw his toast on the floor,and after being all excited to see his milk threw that too.All he ate was the few spoonfuls of weetabix I sneaked in,and a dozen or so blueberries.He went off to play so I put his cup of milk on his side of the kitchen gate.While he thoughtI wasn't looking he came along and drank the lot.
Hmm,moody little monster,but I did notice a huge front tooth just cutting today.
Every day's a new day,hope today's a good one
19/07/2010 at 19:26
20/07/2010 at 21:54
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