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07/11/2009 at 21:35
07/11/2009 at 22:43
The less fuss you make I think the sooner they'll find it themself.You can encourage them to use the utensils but I'd rather let them get on and enjoy their food than fight with them how they get it to their mouth.My 19 month old still does a lot of this,she's recently added drinking out of the bowl to her not so charming table manners,but I do try to get her to use a spoon.
Different children learn these things differently,I also have a nearly 3 year old who's very good with a knife and fork and has always been a clean eater,while my nearly 5 year old can still not use a knife,but prefers a spoon and fork.My now 10 year old didn't feed himself till 3 years old(entirely my fault) while my 7 year old fed herself with a spoon at 9 months.
I'm sure by 2 1/2 a child is able to use utensils,they're doing all sorts of things with their hands.She may just need a gentle reminder to use the spoon,but I think it's something you don't want to get too stressed about,you don't want mealtimes t become a battle
07/11/2009 at 23:24
Jack suddenly used utensils at around 1.5 its took him almost a year to eat competantly with them like you or i, its hard when theyre messy but making a fuss makes more issues, just saying can you use your spoon like me? and make a game copying each other maybe?
Jack became fiercly independant when lola reached weaning age and hes always loved to feed her!
08/11/2009 at 21:37
09/11/2009 at 14:00
My 3 yr old has alway hated getting messy hands while eating and is currently extremely pleased with herself for managing to use a knife correctly. She spent a lot of time with people spoon feeding her once weaned while I was trying to get her to feed herself more as was pregnant with no2 within a couple of months of starting weaning.
No 2 is now 2yrs old and from day 1 of weaning refused to be fed from a spoon and preferred to pick the food up and do it herself. She is now very independent with a spoon, but does still pick up some foods to put them on her fork and uses her hands more than I'd like her to. We have found making a fuss makes it worse but if we appear to ignore her using her hands but praise her when she uses the fork and spoon she will use it more for our reaction. Unfortunately she has spent a lot of time with my in-laws for the last couple of months while no3 was born and since we came home and her grandma babies her a lot and her grandad over reacts to messy eaters and we seem to have taken a step backwards while at their house to be the baby while insisting on being a big girl at home and at my parents house!
Personally I think a lot of it is down to the people they are around - if parents don't eat with their children (or have bad habits themselves) good table manners cannot be learnt by copying, set a good example yourself but don't make a fuss and they'll pick up on it. My 7 yr old nieces have terrible table manners at my in-laws house but are very good at home and at my house!
15/11/2009 at 01:00
15/11/2009 at 11:55
I think there's a place for all ways.I trained as a nanny,some of the things I learnedwere useful,some don't work when it's your own children and you've a household to run.My Mum worked in a Barnado's home in the 60's and then went on to do children's nursing,so her childcare ideas are very 60's.I find some of those ideas work,some don't.I think she fusses far too much over the details and things would be far too regimented if we did it her way.The eat everything on their plate idea is the worse example,it's taken the best part of ten years and my Mum is finally seeing that's not the way we do it,the idea that a newborn was to be fed every four hours was the other big one.I know she only fusses cos she cares and lots of her ideas work,her wrapping the babies in a sheet idea has meant I 've had very few sleepless nights with my babies,they're all very settled.We do have rules,but I suppose we're a lot more relaxed about things than Mums were when I was a baby.There was a TV show a couple of years ago,"Bringing Up Baby" I think that was the title,3 very different ways of bringing up babies but there was something that could be taken from each .
Must be hard being a mother in law,but you obviously care a great deal about your Granddaughter.I hope your daughter in law isn't too upset for long.I only know from being at the other end,and I wish my mother in law showed half as much interest in my children.
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