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15/02/2010 at 22:30
i have a 4 year old and a 18 month old who both think its ok to hit, it started with mainly hitting each other and occasionally me, they also fight with my 2 year old nephew who is a tad agressive, but i took them to a party the other day and my son (18months) kept smaking the other children and even to my great discust and embarressment smacked my friend 8 weeks old baby on the hand. i really dont no how to deal with it, i never hit my children so i dont no why they both hit, my 4 year old i can send to her room or use the naughty spot, but how do you dissapline a 18 month old? im at my wits end with it, feeling like i cant take them out incase they do it as it is so embarrising!
If anyone has any advice please help xxx
15/02/2010 at 23:23
i really dont know what to do either, My two are 31mnths and 15mnths and theyre the same, Jack darent hit strangers but lola will and she gets a huge grin on her face to, its so sooo embarassing, at the moment i just tell her sternly it is NOT nice and she must say sorry, at the moment thats just a pat/hug or a kiss, and then she has to come away and sit with me a while then she isnt allowed back near them after!
Jacks got better as before he was the same, Now he hits lola in retaliation or anger, the same with me or daddy its frustration, hes getting better after realising 2mins in the hall isnt alot of fun, and Also we removed what ever toy caused the row in the first place as thats the usual thing, or we dont take him out as promised/ no treats biscuits etc!
Heres hoping it passes soon!
15/02/2010 at 23:39
All you can do is tell them no,take them away.Would be a good use of the naughty spot,making sure they apologise to the victim after.I've used the naughty spot for Matilda for a while now,she's nearly 23 months.If you see a certain situation sets it off,a particular toy or something try to remove that before it gets to a fight or maybe at that point you have to be the one that gives one a turn,then the other.
If you're out you just have to remove your child from the situation,without giving them the attention for their bad behaviour.If you're at a playgroup,or in the park,bring them home if you have to.
I think they learn to hit whatever you do.Lots of children do it,don't be embarassed by it,at least you're trying to fix it.
18/02/2010 at 11:45
i found some useful advise abotu general misbehaviour on parentchannel.tv - its a website, lots of short videos on parenting
19/02/2010 at 21:41
11/06/2010 at 22:43
22/06/2010 at 13:53
22/06/2010 at 21:01
We have a lot of hitting going on in our house.I can't police it all,I can't get to the root cause of it all.We never had any hitting till my eldest started school,but he learnt to be nasty there and the others seem to have learnt off each other.
I usually remove the hitter with the little ones,and make them apologise.If there's an injury I show them,so they know what they did,and make sure they understand they hurt that person and how must that person have felt.I want them to respect other people as people rather than just don't do it cos Mummy says so.
Older kids get their priveleges taken away.We have a naughty spot for younger ones.
23/06/2010 at 13:26
24/06/2010 at 22:09
i have a new BIG problem atm with my nearly 2 year old son. He seems to really have it in for my 1 year old neice,me and my sister see each other every day, and he constantly pushes, hits, kicks but the worst is pinching/scratching her face,i feel awful as at the moment she looks like she has chicken pocks as she have so many little scraches on her face, he is genually a kind boy and says sorry straight away if he does anything to anyone else, hes suffering from real gelousy issues at the moment and get so upset if i hold my neice or cuddle my daughter, he crys my mummy.
i have tryed taking him away to his room if he hurts her, which didnt work, i have tryed just saying no and walking away, i have also explained to him constantly how bad it is to hurt her, i just dont no what to do, and i dont no why he has to pick on her all the time.
i have tryed all the ideas everyone on this post has had on smaking issues and sometimes they work for a little while then the next day he'll start again.
i dont no if hes to young to understand that its him making the marks.
please help xxx
08/07/2010 at 13:35
09/07/2010 at 21:00
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