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20/10/2014 at 09:25
Morning all, how're we doing?
ST - best of luck today - iirc, you're having an appointment re the FET? Lots & lots of vibes x
AFM - Had a good weekend, our team won the rugby, we got most our stuff in Ikea and my mum's coming tomorrow. In TTC news, things aren't good there, I don't really want to go in to it but I'm starting to feel like my enthusiasm is waning and all I'm doing is in vain... Sorry, didn't mean to bring the thread to a negative start already!
Hi to all who follow x
20/10/2014 at 09:31
Tayto - Please don't feel that you can't open up on here, this is what we are here for. Rant and rave as much as you want because sometimes it really does help. You are in no way bringing negativity to the thread so please don't think that. You are bound to start feeling like this it's all normal but you must talk about it even if it's just to us, we will try our best efforts to make you feel better and put a smile on your face xx
20/10/2014 at 09:33
Hope you all had a good weekend.
ST - Lots of luck today - vibes as ever heading your way. x
Sorry you're feeling rubbish tayto - anything we can help with?
AFM - nice weekend, got my Xmas cakes made - and had a nice chilled time. Ov due towards the end of the week so just working towards that really. Off to Norfolk for a week on Saturday so I'm only working 4.5 days this week.
Hi to all who follow xx
Cross posted with Claire (hope you're ok lovely) - you are right of course, it's always good to get it out tayto. x
20/10/2014 at 09:47
Tayto - Glad you had a good weekend. Like the others said please don't feel you can't open up on here or that you're bringing the thread down, we all have down days and that is what we are all here for. You have been so great on my many rants so please let us return the favour. I hope you feel better soon x
Claire - How are you feeling?
Sally - Well done on the Xmas cakes and yay for a short week!
ST - Thinking of you got everything crossed!
AFM - A bad weekend as my lovely Grandma passed away, I'm gutted and going to miss her so much :-( it happened quite sudded so I'm trying to get my head around it still.
Hi to all who follow.
20/10/2014 at 09:55
Sally - How lovely, sounds like a great weekend, and I would love to have a holiday around this time of the year! 4.5 day week, lucky you!
LuLu - I am so sorry to hear the news of your Grandma :( I think it's so much worse when it's unexpected because as well as everything else you're dealing with the shock. Sending you lots of love and hugs. xxx
ST - Keeping everything crossed for you xx
I'm fine thanks ladies. Just on countdown until Friday x
20/10/2014 at 10:36
Lulu - I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandma. I think the speed these things can happen always makes it much worse as you are so unprepared (not that you're ever prepared). Lots of hugs for you. xx
Glad you're ok Claire - it's scan day Friday right? We always go every year with my side of the family, it's a lovely chilled week.
20/10/2014 at 10:46
Yes Sally, safe to say I'm a nervous wreck but hopefully everything will be ok.
20/10/2014 at 11:15
Tayto - if you can't be open here about your feelings, where can you? This is where people who will understand are, and like Claire says we can be sympathetic, supportive and maybe even help you feel better x
Claire - Hope you're feeling OK today. Scan this week, yay!
Sally - Ooh I bet you can't wait for Norfolk! Sounds lovely.
Lulu - So sorry to hear about your Grandma, I know how hard it is when someone goes so unexpectedly. Sending you lots of hugs x
AFM, I've been over to have my blood taken for the test and I'll get the results this afternoon. But I did a HPT (alright, I did 3!) yesterday, and the wonderful, magical CBD declared me pregnant! I honestly never thought I'd see that word without the "not" in front of it. I'm also pleased to report that since Thursday I've been feeling decidedly dodgy, and I even had to give the evening do on Friday a miss and crawled into bed!
20/10/2014 at 11:17
Claire - fingers crossed for Friday. I'm sure it'll all going to be great.
ST - I am so happy for you! That's amazing news!
20/10/2014 at 11:20
ST - I am so thrilled for you xx
20/10/2014 at 11:36
Claire got everything crossed for Friday.
ST that is amazing news so happy for you!!! xxx
20/10/2014 at 12:16
Sorry for not returning lovely ladies, was in a meeting and got distracted when I got out! I'll go into my troubles at the end of this post....
Claire - how're you doing my lovely - loving your ticker & lots of vibes for Friday xx
Sally - well done on the xmas cakes - have you a flash for us? That's nice you have a short week too - I have a day off Wednesday - it's so nice to have something to look forward too instead of the usual drudgery of a full week!
Lulu - I'm so sorry to hear about your grandma - lots of internet weirdy squishy hugs from me x
ST - that is without a doubt the news I was looking forward to since last week - I'm so so thrilled for you
AFM - my problem is about myself & H's low s3x drives. We've never been the types that can DTD more than 2/3 times a week (work stress, differences in sleep patterns, etc) but, since we've been TTC'ing, a new issue has developed. Because of my knee op, I was keen to go into this gung-ho, ready to make up for the lost time hence why I temp & track ov with the opks. However, since we started, we tend to run out of steam and, because I'm still not able to accurately estimate ov, we've had a few cycles where we've only dtd 1/2 times in the fertile window which has frustrated me and H knows that. It's getting me down this cycle because it came to a head last night with H not being able to finish and then remarking that I was right in what I had said previously about us not dtd'ing enough. It was an off the cuff remark I had made and I didn't mean it but I now feel pretty sh!tty about it. Since I posted on here, I was chatting to my bestie who also had ttc issues and her advice is to take a break (I had already mentioned going to a s3x counsellor to H but he's not keen on the idea) so I think we will take a break. I'll put away my thermometer and hide my opk sticks - probably the best thing for our relationship at this point
Sorry for the rant & thanks for making it this far - you guys are the best
20/10/2014 at 12:18
Hope everyone had a good weekend.
Tayto - definitely let it out on here. Feel free to email me if you want. I'm also feeling pretty sh!t about this ttc lark so I don't mind x
Sally - very jealous of your hols!
Lulu - so sorry to hear about your grandma. Sending hugs x
Claire - it's officially this week!
ST - that is fabulous news! Congratulations!
Afm - well as alluded to above, feeling pretty crap at the mo. Af STILL not arrived. Upto day 51. Also despite taking strong antibiotics last week I think my uti has turned into a kidney infection. Couldn't get an appointment at the docs either. Oh moan moan moan :-(
20/10/2014 at 12:32
Tayto - Some time out is exactly what I was going to suggest. I would do away with the temping and maybe just use one of those ap things that tells you when you are due to ov, take some of the pressure of you both. H never had a huge sex drive and it was something we had to battle with before we knew I had issues, I've said some awful things in the past to H, almost blaming him as to why we weren't getting pregnant each month :( Once you start to feel like that it's time to say enough is enough now before it spirals. You have got so much time but we feel so pressured when TTC that it has to happen now when in actually fact, would it make any difference if you fell now or fell in 12 months time even! x
20/10/2014 at 12:34
Holey - So sorry to hear this. It's not what you need is it! Can you not try and get an emergency apt?
20/10/2014 at 12:45
Holey - really sorry to hear this - as Claire says - can you get an emergency doc appt? Re the long cycle, have they always been this long? It sounds a little like pcos to me so I'd suggest mentioning it to a doc if you do get an app? Or at least some sort of an explanation as to why it's so long. Thanks for the offer of email - I'll return the offer too! :-) x
Claire - That's where I'm getting to now, almost blaming H as to why we're not pregnant which is stupid really as we've only been ttc'ing a few months. I'm a control freak though and I like to know what's happening with my cycle so it'll be difficult to stop tracking but it's definitely needed now.
20/10/2014 at 12:46
I think you need to T, it will be hard but you can do it. x
20/10/2014 at 13:42
Glad to see the lovely news for ST hoping its super sticky and sending you lots of vibes, Will be thinking of you Claire on Friday.
Tayto - I truly understand your issues with your partners lack of sex drive, my husband could quite happily go months without and not be bothered in the slightest. The first time round the pressure got to him and he had the same issue in completing the task, i would end up getting bored and dry and tell him to give up. We now have an agreement that for a week around OV time attempt to do it every night, more likely every other night. Once I had the +opk we do it once the night after and then he is free to choose for the rest of the month. He just can't sustain "the want to" for longer lengths of time. Maybe chat to him and find out what he know re fertility and what he thinks is workable?
Sally Lou- Which recipe do you use for christmas cake? Enjoy the rest of the week. Where in norfolk are you off to? Are you doing a boring holiday on the broads?
LuLu - Really sorry to read your sad news
Claire - hope you have a morning scan so you are not waiting all day
Holey - Sorry you are not feeling well can you request a call back from the doctors, I often do this when told there are no appointments and then get seen as an emergency appointment. Maybe you need different antibiotics?
AFM - Well holiday was lovely once we got over the sickness bug. Husband surprised me and we dtd whilst staying at a friends house as it was OV time Wed/thurs last week so now in the dreaded 2ww. Got the best news that one of my friends who lost her miracle baby early in the year is pregnant again. Finding going to toddler group difficult at the mo as there are loads of pregnant women and babies and I am so broody I could burst with envy.
20/10/2014 at 13:58
tayto - will get a flash of the cakes. They'll just be "fed" brandy for the next 8 ish weeks, then will ice them. Do you have anything planned on Wednesday?
I'm sorry you are struggling at the mo - I think a break could help, just clear your head and take a step back. We put so much pressure on ourselves don't we, its just such an unpredictable minefield it's hard to lose focus I guess.
Holey - sorry you're having a tough time too! Do you have a walk-in centre you could go along to?
Hi lovelygirl - glad your holiday was good once the sickness was out of the way. I just use Delia's recipe, but I add in extra cherries. (http://www.deliaonline.com/recipes/cuisine/european/english/classic-christmas-cake.html) I've used it the last couple of years and it's been fab. I was a bit late making it this year. Holiday wise we go to a place called Caister-on-Sea, which believe it or not is right next to the sea. There are dogs, toddlers and babies, so it's just a nice chilled week, walking, eating and drinking!
20/10/2014 at 14:03
Tayto - hope you feel better for sharing. I think you've got the right idea though.
I wondered about pcos but literally the only symptom I've got is the long cycles. I might mention it when I go. I went on the pill at 17 and my cycles weren't regular then but I only started my periods at 15 so just assumed it was taking time to settle down. I think they say it can take 2 years to regulate.
I phoned the docs and explained but can't get an appointment until tomorrow. Until then I'll just dose up on paracetamol.
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