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08/12/2014 at 09:10
Morning all - how're doing? How was everyone's weekends?
AFM - Had a busy Saturday - was at H's cousin's baby's 1st birthday party followed by his Scuba Club's xmas party where I got completely trollied! Have my work's xmas party this Thursday but can't drink too much as have dental appointment the next morning at 9.30! In TTC, I think I ov'd on Sat/Sun so in the 2ww now!
Hello to all who follow & vibes for those either testing or in the 2ww!
08/12/2014 at 09:25
Morning all, hope you all had lovely weekends.
Sounds like a fab weekend tayto! Good luck in the 2ww!
AFM - Niece was perfect on Saturday and really well behaved. Works party was a bit of a bust, it was in a bar in Sheffield but not many people turned up! I live 20 miles away so drove in and couldn't participate in the free drinks! Had a super lazy day yesterday though which was amazing. Definitely needed.
Gearing up to ov this week - highs on OPK's yesterday and today.
Hi to all who follow. xx
08/12/2014 at 09:42
Good luck for ov this week Sally! Good to hear you had a nice weekend too x
08/12/2014 at 15:37
Tayto - good luck with not getting hammered at the work do! I had similar intentions on Friday and got absolutely hammered. Fingers crossed for your 2ww!
Sally - glad you had a good weekend and could relax with a lazy day! I was stupid enough to agree to meet a friend for lunch the day after my work party and was terrible. Oh, my need to please people ... I will never learn. Good luck for ov!
AFM - AF arrived yesterday, three days late. Feeling a tiny bit sad because it confirms that 2014 was not our year. I've felt down since around June about it all, even when going for tests, and last night I had a bit of a cry. Husband really doesn't know how to talk to me and is convinced I am not normal in my reactions, even though I'm the one who has spoken to a lot of people and he is the one who reads up on nothing. I got really angry with him too as he doesn't even seem to want to try to improve his sperm. This might sound out of order - but HE is the one who has the problem yet it is ME doing all the research, all the reading up, all the trying-as-much-as-I-can-to-get-this-baby. I know it's not his fault and I don't blame him, but I did say that if it were me with the problem I would be trying everything I could in order to improve our circumstances as IVF isn't a guaranteed path. His excuse was that if anything would work, the doctor would have just said it but he doesn't even ask (it's always me). Anyway, after a lot of crying, arguing and eventual making up, he is now taking a multi vit plus an extra 200mg folic acid. He's also going to buy omega 3 tablets, as suggested by our doctor.
I've also lost all interest in sex. I know it sounds horrible but our sex drives were naturally low and now that it doesn't result in a baby I'm finding it really hard to find the motivation or get in the mood. We both promised to make more of an effort so we'll see how that goes but I just don't enjoy it anymore. I find it hard to unlink sex and trying for children. Any tips would be much appreciated!
08/12/2014 at 16:57
Evening Enjayee. Sorry your AF has shown up - huge hugs lovely. I don't know how you are coping at all with your H's attitude; I really would lose my temper with him. At least you've got him to take the multi vit/FA anyway so well done with that! Regarding your sex drive - how about sprucing things up a little in the bedroom? Nice underwear for you, some toys maybe? What about a nice romantic meal out with some sexy aphrodisiac type food? I got some fab lingerie in Ann Summers last weekend and wore it last night in bed so, even when H couldn't, erm, finish, I still had really sexy underwear on and still enjoyed myself... I am planning on bringing it up with H again re going to a sex counsellor - he was absolutely against it when I first suggested it but it's happening too frequently now so I'm going to try my persuasive powers again....! Would you try that maybe? Or even going to a couples counsellor to discuss the TTC issues? Even as a coping strategy?
08/12/2014 at 21:38
Tayto - sounds like a great weekend!
SallyLou - sorry your work party was a bit rubbish. A lazy day is definitely needed sometimes!
Enjayee - I don't blame you for feeling fed up and uninterested in sex. Could you take a break from TTC until Jan and just reconnect, start having sex for fun again rather than because an OPK tells you to? I'm glad your H is taking the vitamins now. Any chance it's a male pride thing that he's embarrassed that his sperm is the problem and is projecting on to you for being upset about struggling to conceive?
AFM I got a positive OPK yesterday so hopefully ov is imminent. Had a nice weekend - Saturday was a bit of a write off because H was hungover from his work Christmas party but on Sunday we went to Spitalfields Market, got some presents and Christmassy bits and put our tree up. Starting to feel festive now!
09/12/2014 at 08:41
Morning all, how's everyone today?
Peanut - great news on the +opk, enjoy baby dancing!
AFM - FF has confirmed ov for Saturday but we only managed twice so, going on previous cycles where we had 3 min, I'm not feeling too hopeful. Have tomorrow off work to do some beauty treatments so looking forward to that!
Hello to all who follow x
09/12/2014 at 09:00
Enjayee - I'm so sorry AF arrived. Lots of hugs for you. I'm glad your H finally agreed to take the vits, I'm sorry he's still being an *** though. You know perfectly well your reactions are normal, so don't doubt yourself over that. I like Tayto's suggestions of some nice undies and toys and maybe take a step back from feeling like you HAVE to have sex, perhaps just spend some time just the 2 of you to reconnect.
Peanut - fab news on the positive OPK. Fingers crossed for you. x
Hi tayto - positive thinking remember lovely? It only takes the one. (I know how hard it is though - I have fingers and toes crossed you did it).
AFM - I may make it back this afternoon but I'm in and out of meetings all day again today. I do have a festive lunch with my team though which will break it up nicely. Still flashing on the OPK, expect the peak Weds or Thurs. Which means end of the 2ww just after Xmas.
09/12/2014 at 10:12
Tayto - Sounds like you had a good weekend. I hope you can stay relaxed in the 2ww it does only take one so fingers crossed.
Sally - Enjoy your festive lunch today! Hope you get positive opk soon!
Enjayee - Sorry af turned up, I'm glad your h is now taking the vitamins as they really can make a difference. I agree that as you have your doctors appointment in Jan maybe try to take the pressure off ttc for now. Try getting things back on track with your h and I'm sure your drive will return and things will get better. TTC is such a massive stress that I think now and again a little break away from everything ttc related can be a good thing although I do know it is easier said than done. Lots of hugs to you.
Peanut - Great news on the opk!
AFM - Still struggling on and off, one minute I'm feeling positive and the next back in the black hole again. Had a pregnancy annoucment from a good friend last week which stung a bit as they haven't even had to try really but of course pleased for them as well. I'm trying to focus on our plan for IVF next year but it is still hard and I'm petrified of going through it. No other exciting news really, put our tree up at the weekend and it looks really nice, got work party this week and a party with friends on Saturday ( one of the girls is pregnant and I'm waiting to hear another annoucement before sat) but will still be good and I'll down lots of booze lol!
09/12/2014 at 13:01
Thanks all. I've stopped using OPKs now but I still have no interest. We tried to reconnect a while back and it worked for a while but then both of us really want a baby so it still remained clinical. I actually wanted to stop trying for a bit but he gets so upset if I suggest that as he says it's like I'm giving up. Which of course I'm not but I'm sick of trying when I know it's not going to work naturally, I'm not sure who he's trying to kid. Could DEFINITELY be a male pride thing. I told him that he shouldn't feel like he should be the strong one as I AM strong - just don't think he realises as I showcase my emotions instead of brushing them off (that would be impossible for me to do). Anyway - am glad he's started to take vitamins. I'll try to persuade him again for this month and January to go to NTNP. It'll mean that the frequency of sex will go down but hopefully the quality will go up. I can't do toys as they just make me laugh instead of being sexy but I will try the lingerie thing. I need to buy some new stuff, it would seem that since we got married I live in my cotton pants! Whoa, sorry the essay - it would appear that it is impossible for me to write an MD post which isn't a novel!
Lulu - sending you massive hugs. I soooo know how you feel, I really do. I'll be here to hold your hand via here through IVF, seeing as we're going to be IVF buddies :-) 2015 will be our year.
Peanut - enjoy! I love Spitalfields at this time of year, it's so beautiful and Christmassy <3
Sally - hope you get your peak soon! At least Christmas will be a nice distraction from the 2ww, although I know it's impossible to be completely distracted :-)
Tayto - it only takes one. I have my fingers crossed for you.
Am about to go into meetings for the rest of the day and then am in all day meetings tomorrow and Thursday so will catch up with you all on Friday!
10/12/2014 at 08:51
How are we today? I'm having a mare already - I drive to work in my trainers and change into shoes/boots when I arrive. I forgot to bring either. D'oh. So my trainers and stripey socks are on show today. Ace.
I did get my peak today though - not sure if we'll manage to DTD tonight as we both get back late on a Weds - we did last night and will tomorrow so hopefully that'll be enough if we don't get chance.
Hi lulu - sorry you're still struggling. I'm not surprised your petrified, I'm sure the other ladies who went through IVF will answer your questions, and we're all here for handholding. Like Enjayee said, next year is your year. x Hope you enjoy your party.
Enjayee - its hard isn't it? Even the NTNP in the back of your mind you are always conscious about TTC. 2015 will be your year. x
10/12/2014 at 16:13
Enjayee - Thank you for your lovely words and I'm glad to know even though IVF will be tough I'll be in good company. I know what you mean about ntnp that's what I want to try but I can't help but know where I am in my cycle.
Sally - Oh dear on the trainers lol I hope your day has got better! Sounds like you've got it covered this month.
AFM - Feeling better after my meltdown yesterday thanks to some lovely words and good friends. I felt awful as I thought a good friend who is also struggling ttc was going to announce she is pregnant but she isn't. I felt so bad for worrying about it as I would have been so happy for her but I knew it would hurt hearing it as well, feel awful now for even thinking it. Work has been so crazy today can't wait to get home! H had some good news at work as well so I'm happy for now lol.
Hope everyone else is doing ok xxx
11/12/2014 at 13:05
Afternoon all! How is everyone?
Enjayee - Defo get some new lingerie - I spent almost £100 in Ann Summers last week and all pieces have been worn so far!
Sally - sorry about the trainers! Hope your day panned out better in the end! How're you feeling today?
Lulu - Glad to hear you're feeling better. I know what you mean about not being able to do NTNP - H and I couldn't manage it either! Sorry work has been crazy - any better today?
AFM - I have a really bad cold :-( And my work xmas party is tonight. And I'm going to Ireland tomorrow so I'm all doom and gloom. On the plus side, I'm up for an award at work!
Hello to everyone xx
11/12/2014 at 14:38
Glad you are feeling a bit better lulu. I get what you mean - last month I tried to be all relaxed and I think I was worse than ever!
Hey tayto - I'm all good today, and I have boots! Sorry to hear about your cold, I hope it clears up soon. Whats the award for? Sounds exciting!
AFM - not much actually! Managed to not get too wet at lunch. Looking forward to the weekend now we are on the final stretch. When does everyone break up for Christmas (if you do)?
12/12/2014 at 11:51
Morning all! How is everyone?
Sally - my award was for a project I've been working on for a long time & I got the email today saying I've won - I get one of those red letter days so will have great fun picking it! I break up for xmas on the 23rd so bit late but that was by choice! How's you today? When are you off for xmas yourself?
AFM - had my works do last night and feeling very hungover. Also had to go to the dentist this morning to meet with the specialist who will be doing my implant. TTC wise, 6dpo and nothing to report.
Hi to anyone else around!
12/12/2014 at 13:02
Congratulations tayto! Have fun picking your Red Letter day - any thoughts on what you'll go for? Was your works do good? Hope your hangover clears up soon.
I'm all good - I don't break up until lunchtime on Christmas Eve - the wedding wiped out most of my holidays!
What are people up to this weekend? I've got the car in tomorrow morning for a part to be replaced after it was recalled, then decorating the house for Christmas and wrapping pressies. I may do some baking as well.
Hope you're all well. x
12/12/2014 at 14:14
Congratulations on your award Tayto let us know what you choose!
Sally - Your weekend sounds nice and festive enjoy!
AFM - had work party last night and ended up very drunk! I'm a bit embarrassed today but I've been told I didn't do anything stupid I was just funny lol! Got another Christmas party with friends tomorrow which should be good hopefully I'll be a bit more careful with the drinking! I've decided to give up alcohol completely in Jan see if it makes a difference ttc.
Have a great weekend all! xx
13/12/2014 at 15:12
Afternoon all, I'll try for personals later when I'm not on my phone.
I appear to finally have an opk today (Cd24) and as it's so late, we're trying this cycle (if I do ovulate soon and if I did get pregnant, it would be due September.) So wish us luck!
14/12/2014 at 16:13
Catching up on personals...
Only 1ww now Tayto, when do you think you'll test?
Enyajee, I'm so sorry 2014 hasn't been your year, but 2015 will be :-)
Peanut, excited about your 2ww as well!
Lulu hope you had a good party last night and are not suffering too much today!
Sally, hurrah for another 2ww-er! I guess that means you'll be 14dpo on Christmas day... Will you wait until then to test or test early?
Afm, 3 working days left before breaking up for Christmas (working Mon, Thurs and Fri this week.) I have a ton of stuff to sort for Christmas, we're prepared in our heads but haven't got things like wrapping paper. Big fail. Ttc wise, positive opk yesterday and negative today, lots of cramps yesterday night so I'm 90% sure I ovulated around 1mm. Dtd yesterday afternoon so I guess that's us in the 2ww as well. If af hasn't arrived already, I'll test on Christmas eve (10 or 11dpo) but I'm not very optimistic as last time we dtd 5 times within my fertile 6 days so one shot.on ov day seems a bit short of the mark.
14/12/2014 at 17:39
Hi all, sorry I haven't been around much this week.
Mrs 50s - wishing you lots of luck, it does only take one so you never know!
Lulu - glad you enjoyed your Xmas party!
SallyLou - what have you been baking?
Tayto - congrats on the award!
Enjayee - hope you've been doing OK, I've been thinking of you.
AFM: Had my work Xmas party on Friday, went to Borough Market earlier and had my first mulled wine of the season! It's my 2nd wedding anniversary on Tuesday so we're going away for a few days which I'm really looking forward to. When I get back it'll be 10 DPO, trying to hold out from testing as long as possible but I don't think I'm going to be able to wait!
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