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18/09/2013 at 13:05
Can I just have a moan, for a bit.
Oh my god the next person that tells me it's time for number 2, I think I might slap them!!!
We've had two unsuccessful months so far, and now AF has shown her face again. (I know two cycles is nothing but we got no.1 without trying so yes I'm struggling a bit and I'm hormonal, please just bear with me).
I'm fed up of everyone telling me its time for me to have another one. I'm *** trying ok? Now piss off! (Is what I actually want to say).
Why do people do this? Have I gone mad or am I just being oversensitive?
18/09/2013 at 13:13
No you're not oversensitive, people just think they have the right to warble on at you without any thought to what your circumstances might be. Before we decided to start trying I was sick to the back teeth of hearing people chelping on about how why wasn't I having kids and that my clock is ticking and so on. I could get right on my soap box about it grrrr
18/09/2013 at 13:31
honestly, what would be wrong with saying, 'not to be rude, but i don't think that's any of your business'? it certainly would be as rude as they have been. (always loved it when my sister in law turned to her mum and said 'trust me, we're exhausted from trying'. shut her right up.
18/09/2013 at 14:44
You're not mad! It is very very normal to feel this way after a little while of trying.
18/09/2013 at 14:52
People just don't think. It's like they HAVE to fill the time by saying something, even if that something is inappropriate or insensitive. I think when you're ttc you/we/I are extra sensitive to everything baby/pregnancy related. I know I'm much more aware of the stupid things people say than I would have been a year ago.
18/09/2013 at 15:18
My work are driving me mad also. They think its my given right now K has carried for me to get on with it. Its constantly "so when is it your go then" "are you going to try soon".....its none of your effin business jog on.
FWIW we havnt even started yet, arrrgggghhh.
18/09/2013 at 17:52
I often want to slap people too. So annoying.
18/09/2013 at 17:59
They just don't think when they say these things or mean any harm. I was chatting about one of my puppies today and a colleague at work said oh you really need to have a baby! Lucky they didn't say that to me yesterday on BFN day or I would've implodded!!
18/09/2013 at 21:01
I feel your pain.
I am TTC but only a couple of very close friends at work know that, But since I have been married since april 2012 I am openly asked "when is it your turn then" and "aren't you trying for a baby?"
18/09/2013 at 23:42
How frustrating. I had a few people at work mention it (more the very nosy, loud gossipy caretaker). I think there are people who sail through ttc & assume others just have to click their fingers to get pregnant. Hope you don't have too much longer to wait x x
19/09/2013 at 08:20
Yup it just seems "the norm" for people to ask. I had people asking me when was I going to have number 2 just after my mc, wanted to slap them/burst into tears/tell them it was none of their effin business. One of my friends has been unsuccessfully trying for six years now, including failed fertility treatment and every time I hear someone say to her "are you not wanting one?" I want to shake them and tell them to shut up. People are just oblivious or insensitive, sometimes a combination of both
Ignore and make a mental note to avoid if possible
19/09/2013 at 08:21
It is very frustrating.
Obviously slightly different but there are a few people who know our our problems and even know that we are being referred to a fertility specialist, but still continue to ask each time we see them if there is any news. Whilst i am happily open to very close friends/family about what is happening with us, its very insensitive of them with knowing that its obviously not as straight forward if we have been referred.
I hope you get your good news soon x
19/09/2013 at 13:48
Thanks everyone, you make me feel so much better!
It's so hard not to feel over sensitive when its such a big thing in your life and all you get is constant reminders from friends. It's mostly work colleague and its just bloody annoying. I didn't realise I had to have no.2 within a time limit.
It doesn't help that now I've got an underactive thyroid since having N, my bloods have to be right or I can't get pregnant or if I do there's a risk I'll miscarry if I'm not managed properly. It's a whole new world of stress that no-one is aware of. And I'm absolutely paranoid it's not going to happen.
19/09/2013 at 20:54
I honestly don't think people mean any badness when they ask they just don't think.
I wasn't as sensitive to stuff like this until I started TTC. Now I would never ask anyone any questions about family plans.
The way I see it is it's all perfectly normal.
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