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20/11/2013 at 12:47
Background: I’ve been working in my company for just over 7 years, and although I’ve changed roles a few times they have always been sideways moves, whether by choice or due to reorganisation. I joined the team I work in now in September 2008, although between April 2011 and December 2012 I was seconded onto a special project based elsewhere. People in my team don’t tend to move around very much, it’s been basically the same for the last 5 years. The only difference being when I went on secondment, someone else was taken on to cover my work and he’s been made permanent – and when I returned to the team I kept my job title but took on different responsibilities.
I hope you’re keeping up!
Anyway, today the woman who I used to primarily assist has announced she’s been offered a promotion in a different area of the business. She’s also told the guy who replaced me that he’d be stupid not to put in for her job. Nothing has been said to me. I’m (probably unreasonably) annoyed that I’ve been overlooked, with 7 years experience in the industry compared to less than 2, and I’m extremely frustrated at the timing because I don’t feel I should consider applying anyway given that we’re so close to starting IVF and I should be avoiding stress.
I don’t know that I’m looking for answers with this post, I think I just needed to rant and get it off my chest!
20/11/2013 at 15:15
I totally understand why you feel you have been over looked and I think I would feel annoyed as well. Rant away on here, I hope you feel better xx
20/11/2013 at 18:01
I'd be peed off too. You shouldn't have been overlooked and I think you should apply anyway. You could always turn it down! x
20/11/2013 at 19:34
I'd apply anyway too. Even if nothing comes of it at least you'll be on managements radar and they will know you want to be promoted.
20/11/2013 at 20:40
21/11/2013 at 09:15
Thanks ladies. My rant did make me feel a little better, and I had a massive rant to H about it and he agrees it's rubbish that nobody has even mentioned to me about considering applying. I could well be jumping the gun totally here, there's no guarantee our manager will be allowed to recruit and fill her role once she vacates it - but her work will need covering and I'd bet my house on the fact that I'll be asked to assist the other guy, at least in the short term. When she goes on leave I'm expected to drop ebverything and help out (not by him, to be fair, but by her). The thing is we all report to the same line manager, and he already knows we're starting IVF next year - so if it did come down to a choice between me and the other guy, I think it would go to him becuase he isn't going to be vanishing for appointments, and he isn't going to be hoping to get a year off on maternity leave. If only all this had happened 6 months ago, I wouldn't have hesitated then!
21/11/2013 at 11:25
just one question, because we've been having discussions around this kind of giving someone the nod stuff at our work. do you know did she randomly approach the guy and say this or did he ask her should he go and she replied? the gender stuff around can make a real difference. men are so much better for asking that kind of question and certainly in our work place, women can be poor at even realising that they should be encouraging others, unless asked. my point is simply if he asked and she answered then you haven't been overlooked but could simply ask yourself (and why not anyway?). But if she just said it to him then that's not on.
21/11/2013 at 11:36
Veecee, she said it to him. Currently his role is mainly assisting her and basically being her minion, I know because it was me for long enough - she delegates the tasks she doesn't want to do. He sits next to her, and I sit opposite her so heard every word. She was talking about when she goes, and then said to him her job will be vacant and he'd be stupid not to put in for it, and is right now teaching him how to use one of the systems she uses and he doesn't!
21/11/2013 at 11:54
ST I don't think you should rule yourself out on those grounds. They aren't allowed to discriminate against you for that! I know you think you're out anyway, but you just never know so why not apply? They can only say no. How friendly are you with the person above you? Could you have an informal chat with him? x
21/11/2013 at 12:35
I know he's not allowed to Browny, but there's no way he'd completely push that knowledge aside and as a manager, he's bound to want someone with complete stability to fill the role isn't he? Someone that's definitely not going anywhere. And that someone happens to be the assistant of the person leaving now, so he's probably in with a better chance anyway. As much as I dabble now and again in helping her out, he does it every day and things have changed since I was in that role.
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