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18/10/2013 at 12:35
I've been around for a while trying to build up the courage to post.
I hope you don't mind that my first post is asking for advice.
My husband and I had been trying for our first baby for almost a year and were delighted when we finally got a positive result. Unfortunately, at 8 weeks I started bleeding and eventually was told that I had a blighted ovum. I had a managed miscarriage at home 3 weeks ago and yesterday got a negative pregnancy test (really not a nice sight).
The hospital have told us to wait until my first cycle before trying again. I really want to start trying straight away, especially as I have read that I would be very fertile. Have any of you been through this experience? Also, I was given mifepristone as my first tablet and have read online that I must not get pregnant if taken this. But I have ready differing things about how long it stays in your system.
Sorry for the rambling, just feeling very low today and don't know what to do for the best .
Thank you in advance.
18/10/2013 at 14:06
I am so sorry for your loss. Loss affects everyone differently and I can understand your need to ttc straight away, I was exactly the same.
I can't help with regards to the medication I'm afraid, and I wouldn't take a chance on it- so I would make a gps appointment to ask them. It's not worth taking a chance on something like that.
I sadly had a mmc in Feb, had an erpc and then had one period before falling pregnant again. Sadly that didn't turn out well either, but we have been told that we were just unlucky- rather than anything we did etc.
Massive hugs for you. We are here of you want to talk.x
18/10/2013 at 14:08
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, big hugs!
I don't know about blighted ovums or mifepristone but I also had a miscarriage at 7 weeks before I had my daughter, horrible time, I had to have a D&C in hospital and was also told to wait at least one cycle before trying again but I couldn't, emotionally I had to try straight away to get me through and I fell pregnant with my daughter that first cycle, no period in between, so it was difficult to work out my due date initially but I had no problems with my pregnancy at all.
I know the doctors insist you wait but I know that's easier said than done!
All the best for you xx
18/10/2013 at 14:35
Thank you both for your replies. So sorry to hear about your losses. Hope you are both doing okay.
I think I know in my heart that I just need to wait until my next cycle, but it just feels like the last year of trying has been for nothing and we'll have to wait another year for anything to happen.
Just feeling so lost at the moment. Don't know what to do or what to think. My husband is amazing and being a complete rock, I'd still be a crying wreck all day every day if it wasn't for him keeping me sane. Need to kick myself and just wait for my cycle and try again and stop googling everything!
18/10/2013 at 14:48
It's totally understandable to feel like that. I remember some days the sadness was just all I felt. It's a huge cliche but time is a great healer, and eventually you won't feel sad all the time, and then even further down the line you'll still feel occasionally sad but mostly you'll feel "normal" again.
Perhaps it's worth a phone call to your gp to ask about the medication? If they say it's safe to try again then you know you can. Otherwise if you're anything like me you'll drive yourself mad thinking about it.
18/10/2013 at 21:09
So sorry for your loss, its such a difficult time. I have also had a recent loss and had blighted ovum diagnosed. However I had an ERPC so I have no experience of the medication. I was advised on my hospital discharge form to use protection for one cycle but I arent going to. I'm desperate to get pregnant again and I'm going to trust my body that if its ready its ready. I've also read that you're at your most fertile, whether its true or not I dont know but after trying for close to 2 years for this BFP I arent waiting to try again. I wish you lots of luck with which ever path you decide and please post on here for support, so many of us have been through or are going through a loss xxx
18/10/2013 at 21:37
Thank you so much for your replies. Well we've talked again tonight and have decided to do as the hospital said and wait. Just have to stay positve, which is easier said than done. I really hope you all have happy results soon. I will definitely be around more, your advice and support is amazing x
18/10/2013 at 22:23
Fudge, I'm going through the same at the mo. I lost my baby at just over 7 weeks last weekend and in hell at the moment. We are desperate to try again straightaway for many many reasons, i just need to stop bleeding. I can accept not trying actively, as in temping and charting, until I get a proper period in a few weeks, but we won't use contraception since we don't want to prevent a chance. Any time you need to talk, I'm happy for you to mail me xx
18/10/2013 at 23:13
Barefoot, so sorry to hear that you're having such a crappy time. It really does suck! Hope the bleeding stops for you soon. I only bled for a week. We've been using protection since, which I hate. Just feels like we've taken a giant step backwards. If I hadnt read on the NHS website that I must not get pregnant until cycle after taking that medication as it may affect the baby, we certainly would be ttc now! Never thought I would be willing my period to arrive, for the last year I've been wishing it would dissapear. I really hope everything happens quickly for you.
If you need to chat let me know. It is an emotional rollercoaster in the first few days/weeks and from reading the other ladies comments that can last a while. So glad I'm ahle to talk things through with you all
19/10/2013 at 14:19
Sorry to read about your loss, I've no personal experience but I hope things get easier for you
20/10/2013 at 14:46
Sorry for your loss.
I also had a blighted ovum in March but I had an ERPC so I'm slightly different. For myself, we started trying straight away but unfortunately we are still waiting.
I'm not sure for yourself and because of the drugs whether you should wait for a cycle but you do what you feel is best. Might be better to just wait one out for peace of mind if nothing else.
Best of luck xx
20/10/2013 at 17:15
Thank you all so much for responding! Seems like there are a lot of us going through a crappy time. Really hope we all have good news soon.
Quick question, its been just over 3 weeks since my managed miscarriage and the last few days I have been exhausted. No matter how long I sleep or rest, im always exhausted. Also, been having strange feelings in my lower stomach, its not cramping, dont know how to explain, just feels strectched. Has anyone experienced this?
20/10/2013 at 18:36
Feeling exhausted is pretty normal after a mc. Your body has gone through so much and your hormones will be all over the place.
I've felt all sorts of weird pulling, stretching pains since mine and I still do. I'm presuming this is normal?!
Do you have a follow up appointment to check things?
20/10/2013 at 19:20
No, havent got any more check ups. Had my negative test a couple of days ago so they have said they dont need to see me again. Good to hear exhaustion and stretching feeling can be normal. Thanks candy apple
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