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03/09/2014 at 11:20
I am new here, me and my OH are due to get married in July, I start my primary PGCE this month.
OH has been desperate for a baby since we first got engaged and nov-jan we did just let nature do as it pleased but didn't conceive, then I got onto my PGCE so had to use protection again.
Anyway, I am utterly broody and really want to start trying on honeymoon, my PGCE would be complete however my NQT would not and I can't see many schools being happy about me becoming pregnant and leaving them with maternity pay (plus the stress of an NQT year wouldn't be good on baby and I would have to leave to give birth before the summer). Or I could get my NQT year out of the way which would end July 2016 then start trying but I am just so desperate to become a mummy now I don't know if I can wait two years to even try.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated :)
03/09/2014 at 15:27
Hi MrsMtobe and welcome to MD!
I'm sorry I haven't really got any advice for you as I have no idea about the course you are doing and what would happen if you fell pregnant. I'm now a bit biased as I've been trying over a year so always say if you're ready then start trying as you never know how long it will take ( hopefully you won't have any problems though). I'm sure there was someone on here who did your course so hopefully they will be able to help you.
Good luck and do come back and let us know :-)x
03/09/2014 at 15:40
Thank you so much for replying!
The course is basically teaching so it's hard gruelling and have seen on student/teaching forums people really advise against pregnancy and the NQT year (the NQT year is a pass/fail year and if you fail you can't teach) so I wouldn't want to be pregnant in my NQT year so I'm thinking try and have baby before starting so essentially have a year between the PGCE and NQT.
My other half would have one today if I said yes lets do it but I've worked hard to get onto my PGCE year so want to complete that before trying (plus I don't want to be pregnant for the wedding or honeymoon!)
I really hope it doesn't take us long but I know these things sometimes do, my mum fell very easily with me and my sister and my sister fell in the first month of trying but that's not to say I will be the same.
I think we will try on honeymoon onwards and just put my NQT year on hold for a year. Just wondered if anyone had done this/has advice :)
This seems like a lovely forum for the nose I've had today!
03/09/2014 at 16:36
I'm sure Saffron who is on the BT boards was TTC whilst doing her teacher training, but I think she did have a few months off TTC as well if I recall correctly. Hopefully she'll be along to share her experiences.
Good luck with everything though!
03/09/2014 at 16:37
Ha! This was exactly me a year ago. I am now in my NQT year and pregnant, I finish up at Christmas to have the baby. I will have all of 2015 off and return in January 2016 to complete my remaining NQT time.
You are entitled to the time off as it falls under sexual discrimination laws. Some girls got pregnant during their PGDE so took a year out and will be completing this year before continuing on to NQT year next year.
For me it's worked out perfect, I was off for summer through the tough 1st tri, and am enjoying teaching and feeling fine now. It's a very personal decision but if you get pregnant at all during NQT you could be too ill to complete. On the other hand you could have no problems at all.
Any questions you think of, chuck them my way!
03/09/2014 at 16:41
How did your school react to you becoming pregnant? I could (hopefully) secure a job for next September and if I was to fall straight away I would be 2 months when starting my NQT year. What would your advice be as you understand it all? X
03/09/2014 at 16:55
Also, sorry lots of questions...
Are you on a perm or temp contract and receiving mat pay? And do you return to the same school after your mat leave? I'm so confused on how it all works. I would love to complete it all then have a baby but we really are so desperate to have a baby and waiting two years seems like an infinity to us haha!
03/09/2014 at 18:06
It's a bit different up in Scotland as we are placed for our NQT (probation) year, so basically we are handed a one year fixed term post. I was pregnant prior to starting work so am not entitled to any maternity pay, this would be the case for you also by the sounds of things.
The school seemed a bit taken aback, as it's not the norm, but I've worked hard this first month and seem to be impressing people, this proving that pregnancy doesn't need to mean that I don't gig the same as everyone else. I must admit than in 1st tri I was useless, so would rather be in my position than early pregnancy during NQT. I am employed by the local authority, not the school, so they will place me for 2016, hopefully in the same school but not always possible depending on staffing levels.
We were TTC for 2yrs so to me this is more important than my career, although I am driven my desire for a family overrules everything else just now. I must say that for me doing NQT year pregnant seems like a much better option than doing it with a baby under 1. At least I can do long hours and stuff just now, without missing out on anything at home. Your Uni is obliged to give you an extension to complete your PGDE, so that's always an option too.
04/09/2014 at 09:19
While I'm not in the same situation, if you were to fall pregnant during the PGCE year - would you consider supply teaching to get you some extra money and experience
before baby arrives, if you didn't want to break up the NQT year?
Good luck with everything though!
04/09/2014 at 10:25
Hi sapphire, thanks for your reply.
My PGCE year ends 5th July and I get married on the 11th, we would try before the wedding but our honeymoon is in Yosemite national park and Florida (theme parks) so I couldn't be pregnant beforehand or the honeymoon would be wasted.
We had a chat last night and decided to try on honeymoon and after and I'll apply for jobs ready for September and just see what happens, it cold take my whole NQT before I fall so were just going to let nature take it's course and deal with work after. Hopefully it will all work out well, I also need to speak to uni about what happens if I had to miss part of my NQT year and doctor appointments and stuff as I'm clueless and I'm sure its different in England to Scotland. :)
04/09/2014 at 11:40
As an NQT are you not entitled to a reduced timetable? Up here it's 0.82FTE so I use my NCCT for appointments. Not ideal but a good compromise.
04/09/2014 at 12:11
I believe you do yes, I'm unsure if it's a full day or half day a week. I hadn't thought of using that time for appointments that would work really well. Thank you so much for all your help, hopefully I'll be back in 10ish months saying we're TTC and then have good news for you all!! Good luck with all of your journeys x
04/09/2014 at 12:14
You will get the time, yes. I'm a secondary school teacher so my time was spread over the week but I'm sure you'll work something out when you come to it. Good luck with the plans for you wedding and ttc when the time comes. I hope you enjoy the PGCE as much as you can.
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