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07/01/2015 at 23:32
Over the past week I have read through all 130 pages on a diiferent thread and it was lovely to hear the positive outcomes from the heartache that people have experienced. I fell pregnant in october 2014 with my second child but unfortunately we suffered a mc on 10/12/14
It has been an awful four weeks and I'm currently waiting for my first period. Even though I know these things happen for a reason I still felt like I needed to know why. When I had my scan on 10/12/14 the lining of my womb was very thin and everything had gone so I never found out how pregnant I actually was. I thought I was 8 weeks. I am currently waiting for test results from vaginal swabs to see if there are any infections. I've found reading all the posts reassuring that we will eventually have a postive outcome. My husband and I are the only ones who know what happened so its nice to get my feelings off my chest. Thank you x
08/01/2015 at 12:38
After reading everyones story and all the other forums on ttc after miscarriage I thought I would add my own comment.We fell pregnant in September after 1 week of ttc. I had only had the nexplanon implant removed and by my dates had conceived 1 week after removal so we were very shocked and delighted when we got bfp.I didn't really have a lot of symptoms no nausea at all but my mum had advised she never had any with me or my other siblings. We had scan on 27th November at 10 weeks. seen the Midwife first and she confirmed a viable pregnancy but when we seen the Consultant he advised scan was showing no HB and i was measuring 6 + 4days. We were told to prepare for the worst and to come back in 2 weeks for another scan incase we had got our dates wrong. We were devasted, after 2 very long weeks of tears and sleepless nights we returned to hospital on 9th Dec and the consultant confirmed we had a missed miscarriage. I had a feeling it would be that as the night before i had some brown spotting. it was strange as when the MMC was confirmed i felt a huge weight had been lifted and we could eventually move on. I had ERPC the next day as i was 12 weeks and baby had died at 6 so Docs advised it would take a long time to miscarry myself. I got my AF today, 4 weeks after ERPC and was so delighted and relieved to get it. Its quite heavy which i was advised it would be. Cant wait now to try again as my body is returning back to normal. My MMC was my first pregnancy so im hoping it was a blip and a one off and very positive about the future. has anyone else had any problems since getting implant out? thanks and good luck to all TTC x
08/01/2015 at 15:16
Didn't want to read and run...
I think the worst part of those early days of finding out is the not really knowing or having confirmation. I totally agree with lmcp14 that I felt a huge weight off my shoulders when they actually confirmed my miscarriage. I actually didn't appreciate all my friends and family saying "well you never know, maybe your dates are wrong"; I know they meant well, but I just wanted to face facts and get on with it.
Keep the faith though ladies - my miscarriage was in Nov 13 and we managed to conceive at the end of May 14. 5 weeks to go for me : )
Good luck xx
08/01/2015 at 19:37
I have had a very emotional day today. I would have been 12 weeks so the thought that I should be having my scan soon has suddenly hit me. I think my struggle has been not sharing this news with anyone apart from my husband who doesn't ever talk about it. I also think I am due on sometime soon so that is not helping. I wish you well in your last 14 weeks peeweesmum.
Lmcp14 sending you lots of baby dust! We will be tryinh again once period has arrived.
09/01/2015 at 15:24
Ahh only 5 weeks left, that's so exciting peeweesmum. wishing you lots of luck for the rest of your pregnancy.
hopefully you get your AF soon smith0108 and you can start trying again soon. Were you trying for long? im sure it must have been hard yesterday, i have wee days like that, and when we got pregnant i signed up for all the usual websites, got an email on Monday saying wk 15 of your pregnancy and have to admit i did cry when i seen it coming through, have now unsubscribed from them all xx
14/01/2015 at 09:25
I have taken a few days off from the forum while waiting for my period but with horrendous stomach cramps since Saturday it finally arrived yesterday, not as heavy as I thought but very sore stomach and a very heavy feeling down below. I'm starting to feel a bit nervous as when this finishes I know we will be TTC.
How is everyone else? lmcp14 for this pregnancy we had only been trying for a couple of months but with our first we were trying for 9 months but my little boy was worth the wait (he is now 4)
Fingers crossed that everyone has a positive month x
14/01/2015 at 10:25
Ah that's great news Smith0108, your body is getting back to normal, but yes I know what you mean about being nervous about TTC. My AF only lasted 3 days, was very heavy but I kinda expected that.
nervous and excited about ttc but im feeling very positive for us all x
14/01/2015 at 11:07
I definitely feel happy about my AF returning as like you say my body is returning to normal. I was starting worry. Normally it would last 3-5 days so we will see. Look forward to hearing how we are all getting on! x
15/01/2015 at 14:04
Hi, how is everyone today?
Im having a really bad day, 2 of my closest friends have just announced their pregnancy with due dates only a few weeks from mine would have been.
Im so emotional, cant stop crying I actually thought I was coping really well after MC but clearly not.
I am so happy for both of them but also jealous? is this normal? x
15/01/2015 at 14:27
Lmcp... Im so sorry you are having a tough day today. I wanted to just tell you that how you are feeling is perfectly normal. I've had 2 miscarriages myself (no babies to bring home yet). I promise you that as hard as it feels right now it will get easier with time.
in the early days I was exactly the same... Just crying (sobbing / screaming / wailing infact) a huge amount & for a long time found it difficult when other people announced their pregnancies. Infact I had to unfriend a couple of people on fb who were due around the same time as me as it was so hard seeing their scan pictures being posted... Reminding me that that's where I should've been too. I went to see a bereavement counsellor after the second loss & although I knew she couldn't answer... What I told her I needed most was to know when I would be able to think about my babies without crying. It hurt so bad. I am now 7 months since my last loss & can tell you that only very occasionally do i cry about it now... I feel so much stronger. I think about them often & will never forget them but I think of them now as being a part of my life rather than thinking about their deaths.
i hope you don't mind but I thought I would share some things that helped me in the hope you may gain some comfort from it too:
1) i made a memory book with scan pictures & a letter to each of my babies explaining how I felt about them, when they should have been born, when they were 'born' etc. It was very hard to do... I cried a lot but I now cherish the previous keepsake I have.
2) whenever i used to get so sad & think why me... Why twice... An image of my sosters would pop into my mind. I love my sisters so much & would never want them to go through this... I know fate doesnt really work like this but I would tell myself that I was strong enough to take it & I would be the one to 'take the odds' (given how common miscarriage is) for my family so my sisters don't have to. I know that sounds silly... But it helped me through the tough moments & remind myself how strong I could be.
3) i don't know if you believe in God or not... But I would remind myself that God only gives us trials that he knows we are strong enough to face... That again gave me strength to know I would be ok.
hoping all of you ladies start to recover soon.
18/01/2015 at 17:32
SW2 thank you for the ideas. I will definitely write the letter as only myself and my husband know about the MC and he doesn't like to talk about it. So feel that writing my feelings down will help.
I have good and bad days as I'm sure most of you do. This week I have really put my head into work and have come out of it feeling really well. I finished my first period after my miscarriage on Friday so we are discussing whether to try again this month or wait a another month.
How are you feeling today lmcp14?
18/01/2015 at 18:08
Smith0108... Im glad you found my post helpful. It really does help to have an opportunity to talk to people that really do understand what you are going through. Glad you have had a busy week that kept your mind occupied.
19/01/2015 at 13:56
Im good today, bit of teary weekend, met up with all my friends inc the 2 who are pregnant so was very hard to not be emptional but i think i got away with it.
Very positive today and hopeful that it wont be too long before i have my own good news.
How are you smith0108 are you going to TTC?
any sickness with your pregnancy SW2?
19/01/2015 at 14:44
Glad you're feeling positive today lmcp14... The positive days are what will get you through the tough ones! 😊
Nope... No sickness yet... No major symptoms really... Just feeling very tired & having bad headaches! Its still super early days though so i'm hoping to start getting more symptoms soon.. Hopefully that'll stop me worrying so much!
hope everyone else is doing good.
20/01/2015 at 21:14
Yes we have decided to start trying again. I finished my period Sat am. My husband is away for work until Friday so will start then. I have brought ovulation sticks so will give them a go again. Wouldn't it be lovely to share some good news together?
Thinking of you all! Hope this is a sticky baby SW2! xx
20/01/2015 at 22:26
Thankyou smith0108... Good luck for you ttc.
21/01/2015 at 21:31
Thank you! Will keep you all posted! x
26/01/2015 at 09:42
Hey how is everyone?? Im now in the TWW. Very excited and hopeful but nervous at the same time. x
01/02/2015 at 21:14
me too! I think I'm symptom spotting which is annoying me. Just wish the two weeks goes quickly. fingers crossed everyone! x
03/02/2015 at 14:43
Hi, how is everyone. I got my BFP today, so happy I could burst, hoping this is a sticky bean but nervous at the same time. Due in October. x
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