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09/09/2012 at 19:03
Feeling bit fed up tonight. My sister is getting married next weekend. Her h2b only proposed a few months ago and wedding was booked up all very quickly. They have been together a long time and have a 4 year old. Me, my mum and other sis all think the rush to get married may well be that they will soon try for another baby.
I feel frustrated cause obv me and hubs and trying for a baby and its something i have wanted for so long (hubby wanted to wait longer that i did so i had to be patient for a long time!) and i feel like now its finally our time to try and hopefully be pregnant before too long and now my sis may well be trying again, i kinda feel like the focus will be taken off of us and i will be fed up if she is pregnant before me (esp as after my niece was born she was pretty sure she wouldnt have another). I want it to be a special time for us and i feel like if my sister gets pregnant too the shine will be taken off it if that makes sense???
Am i just being incredibly selfish and immature???!!! Its just shes the sort of person that everything seems to go her way she got pregnant straight away last time and i bet the same will happen again. Doesnt seem fair to me when i have wanted it so long
09/09/2012 at 19:54
I totally get where you're coming from but don't think you need to worry at all. Whatever will be will be and if you both got pregnant at similar times it would be fab for your LO to have a cousin so close in age. Every baby is special in a family and when your time comes it will be perfect for you.
Hope that helps a bit
09/09/2012 at 20:00
Hope so thanks feeling close to tears tonight had other frustrating (not related) family stuff going on tonight, im sure i will feel bit better in the morning. Its just its first time round for us too x
09/09/2012 at 20:15
09/09/2012 at 20:58
Thank you for your opinion x
10/09/2012 at 08:00
Hope you feel brighter this morn? x
10/09/2012 at 15:31
Hi kitty kat
if you've been ttc a long time i think your fears are natural, however, as others have said there is no baby like your own and nothing will take away from that when it happens. Plus, its all speculation at the moment - you don't know for sure your sister is ttc or that it will happen before it happens to you.
Life is short and all these weddings, pregnancies and babies are worth celebrating. there's enough misery in the world so try and feel happy when something good happens (even if it isnt the best thing that could possibly happen) Im sure you will get your good news soon enough,and it wont feel the same at all as having a niece or nephew.
Plus, im sure people get that little bit more of a fuss made when its their first baby too hope you have a lovely time at the wedding, and you get your bfp soon x
10/09/2012 at 19:28
thanks @Alfie222 and @Minieggsno1. Feeling much better and postitive about it all today (think mainly just a bit tired and hormonal yesterday) and feel a little silly now for making a fuss. Will keep you updated on it all although like alfie says, we could all be wrong about my sister but we will see! lol
10/09/2012 at 20:54
No worries, we all have our moments, you probably feel better for getting it all out. Fingers x for your BFP soon x
yeah def, its helps to talk (or rather write!) lol x
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