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14/11/2012 at 06:45
Its come to the year mark, and who knew it would be so hard to concive! Its sooo frustrating, sometimes i wonder if theres something wrong with me
Guess its time to make a appointment with the docs!!!
Hate the fact that i could been blossoming with a 8 month bump by now, i was due 18th of december
14/11/2012 at 21:27
We tried for DS for 18 months and shortly after a year I went to the docs and he was really nice. His advice may sound patronising written down but he was far from that when I saw him - he told me to stop worrying about it and to just have fun trying. He said to stop the charting and OV tests etc and just do it lol. He was what i refer to as a 'proper old boy' - he was awesome and sadly he was just filling in for someone - i would have loved him to be my doctor. In the end i stopped all the charting etc and even got to the stage that I didn't know when was the 'right time' to be ttc - we went on holiday and we didn't care when we bd and it wasn't even a thought or concern if we didn't lol i think THe first day we were too shattered and then 1 more day in the week but apart from that we took the doctor's advice lol and it worked. this time i never even thought about charting or anything - we just decided we were going to try and i never expected anything to happen for a while but after just 1 time we are now 12+2. the whole science of it baffles me because 18 months last time compared to just 1 time this time??? it makes no sense - unless it really is that simple that you have to stop stressing and worrying. I know that's easier said than done and sadly - I think it wasn't just that i'd stopped stressing last time - its that i had given up hope and decided to just forget about trying and if it came to it and we got to a certain stage then we would have to consider alternatives. I think it helped my husband aswell when he could see that i wasn't getting up every morning and doing ov tests or taking my temperature etc - because that just made him feel like he was under so much pressure that i think it took the enjoyment away. He told me at one point that he felt so much pressure that he felt like if we didn't get pg then it was like he was failing me so i think when i just stopped it all and never mentioned it - it must have made a massive difference for him too.
I hope that helps and I know it really isn't that simple for eveyone so please don't anybody be offended because I mean maybe what it all boils down to was that simple in our case.
GOOD LUCK and I really hope you do get a good sticky bfp real soon
14/11/2012 at 21:33
Hi thanks for your advise, funny enough last time i fell pregnant we only dtd once and that was at the point id given up...and i fell pregnant! but now i feel even more underpressure. i just want it soo much and every month ticks by with nothing..
ive relaxed for a while and tryed to forget about it and nothing....but my periods are very irregular, my periods nearly a week late and i even over estimated the dates to allocted a few days to being late! but had alot of stress to deal with this month.
I dont have the bigest of libedo's as it is- so im wondering if its all connected, low pogestrone mabe? something just dosnt seem right
15/11/2012 at 10:36
Hi ladies, I went to the docs last month as we'd hit the year mark and to be honest up to now I think I've been quite relaxed and not got obsessed with ttc. This is the first month I've done proper chart, done the ov tests and took my temp every day, therefore part of me thinks I must be out already!! (I've charted just for something to show a doc if needed and all looks ok and normal to me).
Got my 7 day pre- period blood tests done yesterday and a swab test, back next week for day1-5 blood tests and hubby will hopefully go for a sperm test. If all comes back ok I will then ditch all the charting etc because it does take over your everyday life.
Princess- you are one of many that has said you got pg the month you didn't think about it but it does drive you crazy thinking you can dtd at the right times each month and still not get pg.
good luck supersquish, hope your late period stays away!!
keep us posted xx
16/11/2012 at 07:25
hey girls, AF got me! but im glad we can get onto the next month now lol
carioke- hope your results come back ok xxx
16/11/2012 at 09:28
thanks supersquish! so sorry af got you xx
16/11/2012 at 10:13
16/11/2012 at 12:59
I'm so glad it happened for you princess85, how are you feeling? That's why I've never charted before and I don't like doing it now but I just thought I'd better give it a month just to see if I could pin point where we were going wrong and I can't see anything!!! I'm not sure how after a year I can now say "that's it I'm giving up" when my time is running out anyway!(turned 40 in May) Even though I don't think I'm stressing I did feel down this morning because I've had a temp drop (CD25 9/10dpo) so I suppose if I wasn't temping I wouldn't know either way!!
I suppose I'll wait to see what the blood test results come up with and go from there! xx
16/11/2012 at 13:22
16/11/2012 at 13:41
I came off the pill at age 30 and bang pg in that first month (my wonderful accident) so I think I must have thought I would be ok and it woudn't take too long! While I don't think anything is wrong (hope) deep down my biggest worry is I've left it too late and it's never going to happen!! I've spent so long looking after other people's children I should have thought about my own needs first!! xx
16/11/2012 at 15:49
16/11/2012 at 16:14
16/11/2012 at 17:09
what a lovely story tashelby! you've given me hope xx
20/11/2012 at 13:41
well ive been here two years and two months! and its been the hardest time of my life but i really believe this next time will be the one that sticks. four mcs is hard but i'm willing to give it one last chance!
27/11/2012 at 18:28
hey girls, sorry havent been on latley had trouble with my internet (all good now)! have no idea where in my cycle i am, i have a calander but not looked at it for ages! where planning on relocating and will have to start a new job, so we should stop trying really, and have disscussed it, even tho i really dont want to! may have to keep trying and change my mind, its taken so long already that i dont what to miss a month lol how you all doing? xxx
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