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16/12/2012 at 21:53
17/12/2012 at 00:22
Hi, you dont say how old you are but my advice to anyone after my experiences would always be to start trying now. You never expect to have problems falling pregnant and hopefully you will be lucky but if there is a problem, it can take years to get to the IVF stage and if you want more than one child..... Tick tock. We started trying 7 years ago thinking it would happen straight away. It took 2 years. We have tried for our 2nd for over 3 years and i am now 17 weeks pregnant after some failed IVF then a wee mirracle shortly after that. There is never a perfect time to have a baby but it is a time limited oppertunity so just go for it.
14/01/2013 at 20:02
I wouldn't wait, i would just go for it. I already have a daughter and i put off our 2nd because of a job that was coming up and i didn't want to be pregnant for the interview. Well i never got the job!!! I really wish i hadn't waited. Now our circumstances have changed and i'm really stuggling now whether to try again or wait.
23/01/2013 at 13:22
23/01/2013 at 13:45
I would say go for it - both of you ladies that are asking (Nicki & Cherry)
I have just turned 35, took me ages to decide if I wanted children - got my head round it, and now sadly I have lost one baby at preterm (28 wks) and have just had a m/c at 8 weeks. I never in my life thought it would be so difficult (who does until the worst happens), and now all I have are regrets in my head thinking why didn't I do it sooner as I'm worried now that time is against me slightly.
Whilst I fell pg quickly both times, I am still no where close to holding my baby, and that makes me quite sad and cross with myself. My reasons for not wanting children were more fear and selfishness.....and now look at me. I wish I could turn the clock back even just 5 years and start from then.
No matter what, there will always be a reason to put it off - but when you least expect it, it might be too late. Go for it, everything else is insignificant. Everything else is fixable and you'll work it out when the time comes.
Good luck to you both!
25/01/2013 at 11:58
26/01/2013 at 23:16
27/01/2013 at 07:42
31/01/2013 at 15:17
Cherry - reading between the lines it sounds to me as if you might just prefer to ttc now.
You are very wise to imagine how your priorities change once you have a baby and unlike kids a career can be built on at any time (though of course it is harder after a long break).
I think you have done really well in getting things like your house and debt sorted - I had good plans but in the end we just thought we would go for it. Don't get me wrong there is a limit which would make life very stressful with a baby say if you were struggling too much each month to live but it doesn't sound as though that would be the case for you.
Go with your feelings. As someone else said the rest can be fixed.
31/01/2013 at 20:49
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