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02/10/2014 at 19:06
I'm brand new to this forum and still not entirely sure whether I belong here as I'm not pregnant, don't have children and am not currently TTC..... So I hope you don't mind me joining and posting on your forum.
To give some background - I've been married approx 6months, together for over 10 years and both approaching 30 years old.
I've joined because I've increasingly become broody and whilst my OH and I had originally decided to have a 'honeymoon baby' we then decided to wait due to one reason or another (including a change of jobs on my part) and I'm hoping that this site and you guys might be some comfort to me now and when I do eventually become pregnant.
Has anyone been in the situation I am at the moment in that their partner wants to wait for a year or two for kids when you're really broody now? I feel as though I don't want to tell him how broody as I am as his reasons for not having children right now make perfect sense, eg, have a couple more luxury holidays before and I've only been in my new job less than a year. How did you get over the broodyness? Or don't you?!
02/10/2014 at 21:45
Welcome to the group! It's a little quiet here at the moment but I'm sure more ladies will be along soon! I would of had children 5 years ago but my H wasn't ready until 2yrs ago... felt like hell waiting and a few friends just told me to trick him into it by not taking the pill anymore but I wouldn't ever do that to him!
By waiting we were both ready and when she came along she was even more special :)
02/10/2014 at 22:08
Welcome to MD! I've been ready for babies for ages but hubby wanted to buy a house first. Once we had that he was happy to progress the family. I do think their needs to be clear expectations though so you know where you stand.
03/10/2014 at 10:19
Hello and welcome to MD :)
I don't think there's anything wrong with being honest with your H about how broody you are feeling, he might not feel quite as ready as you but it won't hurt for him to know.
I was ready a while before my H, he was the same and wanted to go on a nice holiday before we settled down to having a family. In the end, we started trying a few months before we were due to fly out to Cuba thinking it might take a while. As it turned out, I fell straight away so I was 9 weeks pregnant on holiday. I wouldn't have changed a thing but it was a bit of a bummer having to avoid the mojitos and sunshine!
Keep yourself busy, plan a nice holiday and get stuck in with a couple if projects and all of a sudden, you might find that your H catches up with you ;)
04/10/2014 at 14:43
Thank you all for your replies.
I think that I will try to approach the subject in a light hearted manner to gauge where exactly he's at with it. He had been more keen than I was to have a honeymoon baby so I do know he wants them in the next couple of years or so.
For me, as well as feeling broody I also have the thought that I'm growing concerned that my mum's health is not getting any better and I would be devastated if she wasn't around to see any children I might have as I know how much she wants grandchildren. I also have family abroad so started thinking I'd like to tie a baby in to when they're in the uk next, although I do appreciate I shouldn't plan my life around others.
I probably won't post on here again really until I am TTC so just want to wish everyone on here good luck and best wishes in the meantime!
06/10/2014 at 11:02
Only just saw this today, just wanted to welcome you and wish you the best with your plans in the future x
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