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11/08/2014 at 08:48
Tayto - Glad hubby is home. did he have a good time?
Mrs-T - Sorry AF showed up. Sending lots of hugs your way. Just out of curiosity, but when you say you put your life on hold every month, what do you not do that you'd normally do? The reason i ask is that I never really put my life on hold when we were trying for W. All i did was take folic acid and evening primrose oil (up to the point on OV) and continued to drink and eat what i wanted as we didn't want it to get to the point that it was consuming our lives. I realise that's maybe not as easy to do for everyone, but so long as you have a healthyish lifestyle, there's no reason to cut out things like pate, alcohol etc if you aren't a heavy drinker.
AFM - CD12 today, another neg yesterday, but i was expecting that to be the case. Not much else to report, just got work this week and that's it!
Hope everyone had a lovely weekend!
11/08/2014 at 09:18
RKB - Speaking of work, did you find out any more info about that other job that's come up? Hope you ov soon!
Mrs-T - Sorry about AF. I agree with RKB and I know it's easier said than done, but try not to put your life on hold for TTC. I have my fingers crossed for you that it will happen soon x
AFM - Yeah, hubby had a lovely time. His nephew is only gorgeous and was only 3 days old when he held him so possibly the youngest baby he has ever held! His buddy was over from Oz so he had a good night out on Friday night with him. I managed to get our 'guest' room painted so just need to tidy up the cornicing tonight - really proud of all the work I got done at the weekend. Have the dentist today - need to remove a wisdom tooth :-( In TTC news, I'm 3 DPO.
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11/08/2014 at 09:57
RKB - Hope you get a positive soon.
Tayto - Glad your h is back and had a good time. Well done you for doing the guest room! Welcome to the 2ww!
MrsT - I agree with the others, try not to put your life on hold when ttc. Hopefully your journey won't be much longer but it is good to have things to look forward to and to take your mind off it all. I'm so glad I still booked holidays and organised nights out, there were a couple of things h nearly didn't book us for incase we were lucky but we weren't and I'm glad we still booked rather than miss out altogether. Sorry I'm rambling now! Hope you're feeling better today.
AFM - Had a lovely chilled out weekend, had friends pop over saturday for a bbq and didn't do much else which was great! TTC news, well feeling pretty rubbish now :-( I'm 99.9% sure spotting is here, a little part of me really thought this would be our month how stupid after 14 cycles! It has been a slightly strange cycle though as I normally get sore boobs a week before af but nothing this cycle which I thought was a good sign but clearly not lol!
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11/08/2014 at 10:15
RKB - I've still got all those OPK's if you want them, I'm sure it was you that said you'd be interested?
T - Well done on the productive weekend, it's always a nice feeling when you got loads done isn't it. Boooo to the dentist. Hope it goes ok.
LuLu - Don't ever feel stupid about getting your hopes up, if you didn't have hope what would be the point! Sorry it wasn't your month but keep at it, don't give up the hope.
AFM - Well I was very naughty at the weekend, went to a friends BBQ on Saturday and got very drunk! I was not impressed with myself, especially since we are starting treatment in a few weeks, it was a one off but I paid the price by projectile vomiting all over the bathroom door and walls :( not one of my finest moments. Got asked by a few people "so when are you popping one out" to which I replied "we're having IVF" their faces! I did think against telling them but I thought there's far too much ignorance these days so I actually felt quite proud in a weird sort of way, they were very apologetic though. Serves them right! No news with TTC I'm just counting down the days now,
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11/08/2014 at 10:21
Tayto - That's good that your H had a fab time. and that's amazing work if you've managed to get the 'guest' room painted! I'm still recovering from decorating our house, so i stil don't want to look at another paintbrush!
Lulu - your weekend sounds fab. I love a good bbq! And it's not stupid to hope that it was your month. It will be one day, if it's not this month. Don't be too hard on yourself. xx
Re The job, i don't think i'll hear anything for a while to be honest. The job is PA to the vice dean of the school, and we currently don't have a vice dean...as he is acting dean. So until the dean post's are confirmed, i don't imagine they'll be looking to fill the PA post at the moment, but i'll be keeping an eye out. I'm actually starting to wonder if we should hold off the TTC until i know what's happening with that job as it would be beneficial to not be pregnant if it comes up - but not the end of the world either as i'm not planning on telling work straight away. And as i keep saying, the longer it takes, the better we'll be financially. Think i have some serious thinking to do...
11/08/2014 at 10:33
Sorry, missed you there Claire! Yes please, i'm still interested in the opk's if they're still going. That's good that you felt you could say you were having IVF. You're completely right, there is too much ignorance these days. I hope the countdown for you is quick! :-)
11/08/2014 at 10:44
Claire - Sounds like you had a good weekend! I Hope your hangover didn't last too long lol! Glad you were able to say you are having IVF, I agree there is far too much ignorance and people seem to think comments like that are ok. We have started being open with people as well, I think they need to know it isn't always easy for everyone.
RKB I'm sure whatever happens it will work out or the best, at least you won't be putting too much pressure on yourself ttc!
11/08/2014 at 12:01
Lulu - agree with Claire-lou - never give up hope. I've still got my fingers crossed for you for this cycle x
Claire-Lou - That sounds like one epic weekend! Hope you weren't feeling under the weather for too long! You're absolutely right about the ignorance regarding TTC - far too many people out there think it's ok to say sh!t like that!
RKB - That's a shame about the job - I'm a believer in things happening for a reason though so I hope that's cos your dream job is out there and it's just a matter of time before you get it!
As an aside, what are people's dream jobs? Mine would be to have my own craft shop - mainly papercrafting - with a massive area for doing classes and trialling new products. I'd have to win the lotto too though as I wouldn't want it to be a money earning job, if that makes sense?!
11/08/2014 at 12:38
My dream job would be one that made me happy every day and paid enough to justify me working 5 days a week away from my baby.
If money wasn't an issue, i'd love to have an animal sanctuary and look after all the unwanted bunnies of the country.
Businesswise, I'd love to run an adult softplay centre. Complete with restaurant and dance club included (on separate floors)
I'm pretty sure that regardless of my pregnancy status, I'll still apply for the PA job when it comes up. Not to blow my own trumpet too hard, but I am damn good at my job, and they'd be lucky to have me (Pregnant or otherwise) in that job. I've got plenty of experience looking after adults in my current job. It would actually be easier looking after just one!
11/08/2014 at 13:19
Hey all :-)
Sorry I've been AWOL, I'm ashamed to say that as soon as I was getting in from work we were turning on Game of Thrones - four seasons in two weeks. Achievement or disgusting? You be the judges! Anyway, that's all over until 2015 now so my laptop is getting used for internet friends again :D
RKB - hope you get a positive soon. An adult softplay centre sounds amazing!
tayto - boo to the tooth! You've reminded me I have to go to the dentist, not been in so long it's ridiculous, am fully expecting them to tell me I need to have my mouth removed and replaced.
Claire - I've started telling people we're going for tests, I do think there are people who think it's incredibly easy i.e. just looking at a willy like we were taught in high school, I actually think it's good to raise awareness that it is in fact NOT that easy and that it's NOT ok to just come out with those sorts of questions. Hopefully that serves as a bit of education to them.
Lulu - loads of hugs my darling. Like Claire said, if you didn't have hope then what would you have? It's so p1ssing difficult, I know, but we have to keep trucking. We will get there one day, I promise you. Xxx
Mrs T - I'm sorry that AF arrived. She's a witch! Definitely don't put your life on hold due to TTC. As long as you're living healthily you should be able to drink and eat what you want. H and I are planning a three week roadtrip across Spain in September next year, of course I'm hoping to have a bundle (or one on the way) by then but I don't want to not plan it, just in case. You know? I hope you're ok anyway, I know the gutting feeling of the arrival. So funny how we spend our early teen years praying for AF and then when it comes to TTC we're praying for her to stay the hell away!
AFM - tests kicked off. Well, smear test. I also thought "what the hell, whilst he's down there he can do a chlamydia test too". So in two weeks I'll have the results from that, just to rule out anything sinister, and then we'll be able to get on with bloods and the like. Hubby will get his SA results back this week, I think the poor lamb is a bit anxious about it. But if they're low I know it can be environmental so it's not like a low result will mean the end of the world. Away from TTC I am applying for a new job! I applied for something similar 18 months ago at the same company but they slashed their recruitment budget meaning that I didn't make the shortlist, was gutted! But I've learnt a lot more since then and the job came up again. It's a bit more senior than what I'm doing now but that's what I'm after! So I'm going to write a kick @rse application. Working from home this afternoon, am wondering whether it'd be a bit too cheeky to work on the application at the same time ... am really bored with what I do at the moment.
11/08/2014 at 13:27
Hi Enjayee! Lovely to see you! That's impressive with Game of Thrones. The H won't let me watch it because of the gorey bits (i don't like gore) but i'm going to try and read the books eventually. I hope everything goes well with the tests and that the results come back how you want/need them to be.
I don't think it's cheeky to write out your application while working from home...I used to do it in work! :-) I'm sending you lots' of good luck vibes for the job! >>>>>
11/08/2014 at 16:04
RKB - Hope that positive OPK comes for you tomorrow.
Tayto - Good luck with the 2ww.
LuLu - Sorry to here you think AF is on its way, holding on to that hope is a good thing.
Claire - There is so much ignorance, well done for standing up. Hopefully more people will start and people will realise not everyone is lucky to concieve so quickly and easily.
Enjayee - Good luck for all the tests, do you know when you will recieve significant answera to help? As for the application, can't be as bad as where I work, one guy used the computer but didn't shut down the screen so the owner saw before he handed it in, another used their envelope and another used their headed paper!
AFM - I guess putting life on hold may have been strong, it is more so that we have so many options that could lead us different ways I just don't know which path to take.
The whole work situation is bad for most of the departments but the owner doesn't care she is driving us to breaking point all they are seeing is money. I got offered a temporary 13wk contract in a totally different job and whilst I really want to take it am worried about what could happen if it doesn't lead to another job. But on the other side to that I really want to go back to college and having more feee time will allow me.
Never rains always pours!
Anyway CD2, lets see what happens this month!
11/08/2014 at 20:11
Mrs T, it does sound like you've got lots of options to think about.
Well this evenings OPK is still negative, but it's definitely darker than yesterday, so my body must be getting ready to ov! I'm guessing it'll be Wednesday or Thursday. We'll probably dtd tonight and Wednesday. Might tomorrow too, but will see. Had a rather rubbish day at work. Getting sick fed up of the moaning going on in the office. Honestly! It's like everything we do in the office is an issue, and 'not our job'. I nearly laughed out loud at the suggestion that we need office juniors in...eh...that's kind of what we are...but paid a shite sight more!
12/08/2014 at 09:25
How is everyone today? Sad new about Robin Williams today :-(
Tayto - hmmmmm not sure on dream job maybe something that involved luxury travel lol! I would like to learn a language and I might actually start to take mind off ttc. I've been in my job for a while now and I've only stayed this long as I knew we would ttc and I wanted the security and the good materinity pay. Feel stupid for staying for that reason but now feel a bit trapped here, the money is so much better than anywhere else even when I've paid for my travel. I probably wouldn't mind the job so much but the commute is taking it's toll and I find it really hard. What kind of paper crafting do you do?
RKB - Good luck with the application! Adult soft play sounds interesting lol!
Enjayee - Good to see you! That is good work on the game of thrones lol! I think we were similar with Breaking Bad! Thank you for your kind words, I really do hope we all get there soon it is so hard. Glad you've got the ball rolling with your tests, good luck for your h's results this week, my h said it was worse than waiting for exam results bless him. Good luck with your application!
Mrs T - Sounds like you have lots of options to think about, I'm sure whatever you decide it will be right for you and work out.
AFM - Well first sign of spotting showed up last night and yet again even though I was ready for it I was devastated. Had a good cry with H and still feeling a bit tearful today, not sure how to remain positive after one year and 14 cycles but I will try my best, these first few days of af arriving are always the worst so hopefully I'll be feeling better by the weekend.
Off on holiday in 6 weeks and I need to lose 7lbs so the diet starts now and I'm going to start running again tonight!
12/08/2014 at 09:38
Lulu - Sending you a big hug. xx Where are you off to again? I can't remember if you told us before and i've just forgotten...
Tuesday ladies! Why is it only Tuesday? It should be at least Thursday by now!! Spoke to H last night about holding off on baby #2, but in a weird twist of reality, he was the one convincing me that we should go with it. He knows what i mean about how will we cope etc, but he said that if we coped with W, we can cope again...So we baby danced a bit last night and now i'm shattered this morning. This DTD on a school night is not good for my energy levels! :-)
12/08/2014 at 10:48
Morning all - sorry I missed yesterday. Was certainly a busy day here!
RKB - nice to have had that chat with OH. I don't know how anyone with kids and a job has more kids!!
Lulu - really hope that's not AF on her way. Big hugs either way. Good luck with the running.
Mrs T - sorry to see AF showed. And those sounds like some tricky decisions about work. Best of luck with that.
Enjayee - lovely to see you here. Hope the test results all come back with positive results. Best of luck with the application and I wouldn't feel guilty about writing it while working at home.
Tayto - glad hubby had a great weekend. Hope the 2ww flies by for you. Do you any particular type of papercrafting? TBH I do really love my job. Obviously it has it's awful bits but overall I'm pleased with what I do. I might rather be in Ireland, but that's unlikely to happen . H and I are both academics in the same field and at the moment we've both got jobs in the same school which is kind of a miracle so I'm very grateful for that. That said a knitting shop/ café does sound lovely!!
afm - had a lovely weekend. Did very little but stayed up late to watch the golf sat and sun. Very sad about Robin Williams. Depression is such a horrible illness. In TTC news I think I'm either 6 or 7dpo.
12/08/2014 at 11:11
Glad you had a lovely weekend VeeCee. I was stunned to hear about Robin Williams. So, so sad :-( He really was one of a kind and he will be remembered for all the right reasons.
12/08/2014 at 11:14
Morning all! It is very sad to hear of Robin Williams; depression is such a horrible illness :-(
RKB - love the idea of the soft play centre for adults! Hope you're not too tired today after baby dancing!
NJE - good luck with the job app & I hope the tests come back all ok for you
Mrs-T - If you're not happy with your job, I wouldn't hold on there because of TTC'ing; I'd look for something else. If you get your BFP and are in the process of moving job, you will still have enough time to get the statutory maternity pay... I think?
Lulu - I'm a believer in job security & future planning (like for maternity pay) however I stayed in my last job which I hated and I would now advise people to leave if they're not happy. I know it's easier said than done but there is a lot to be said for a good job that you enjoy. I'm really sorry AF's on her way again; good luck with the diet & the running.
VC - Good that you had a nice weekend; I have my fingers crossed for you this month x
AFM - Am like a briar today because of my stupid tooth; the colleague I lift share with didn't get my text saying I would drive myself today so rung me at 7.30 and woke me - thankfully I missed it otherwise I may have got a bit cranky with him!! For those who asked, I make greeting cards, scrapbooks, paper-cut wall art and anything that involves playing with pretty paper! I have a card making blog which I badly need to update, when I do - I'll post a link on here!
12/08/2014 at 13:38
RKB - thank you, we are off to Dubai :-) That is great that you and your h are ready either way with regards to ttc.
Veecee - Hi! Sounds like you had a good weekend. Did you hear back about your refferal last week? Fingers crossed for you this cycle x
Tayto - Luckily I don't hate my job yet I'm just very bored and de-motivated, might see what happens in the new year then think about a change if I can. Oh yes please do post a link :-)
12/08/2014 at 13:59
I'd love to see what you've got Tayto! Post away! :-)
Dubai! I am jealous! My friends not long back from there and the pictures look amazing! I hope you have a fab time!
Just got an email from the husband asking how I am and that he's tired for some reason (winky face) So being me, i replied with 'Well! If you hadn't held back the first time, maybe you wouldn't be so tired and I might have been able to join you' And that was really because whilst DTD last night H stopped himself from ending the fun early and then took a wet week to actually finish. by that point i was knackered and just wanted to sleep, so i didn't really have much fun. Which kind of defeats the purpose of it...trying for a baby or otherwise.
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