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04/03/2014 at 09:51
04/03/2014 at 10:01
When we were TTC last year, H said he wanted to skip the month that would make baby due in December, whether we would have or not I don't know as we conceived in Feb!
04/03/2014 at 11:17
It wouldn't bother me as such, and chances are your baby wont be on time and you may go into Jan anyways. I had such a crappy Dec last year thst I would love to make it a fab one this year.
04/03/2014 at 11:32
I personally wouldn't skip a month to avoid Christmas or any other date. If it was to happen that we had a baby on/near a big event, I'd just make sure it was doubly special and twice the amount of gifts!
CC - massive hugs for you xx
04/03/2014 at 11:36
04/03/2014 at 11:57
Sorry took ovee your thread then haha thank you!
I would do what t4yt0 said make them extra special
04/03/2014 at 12:06
don't apologise!! I really hoped I wasn't being insensitive, I just wondered what other peoples thoughts were. I'm pretty sure we wont take a break, H has mentioned it but we'll make that decision if nothing has happened this month. Just wondered if I looked back in years to come and wonder why 1 month mattered IYSWIM? Who knows with due dates though- eggy face if the next month catches and then arrives a month early!!!
04/03/2014 at 12:17
No not insensitive at all :)
Would it really bother your husband? Is there a real reason for him to want to skip that month?
I have just asked y hubby and he said no he wouldn't.
The problem is what if your baby comes early as in like 30 + weeks? And you arent due until Feb roughly.
Wouldyou skip a few minths too avoid that possibility too?
04/03/2014 at 12:26
I wouldn't skip a month to avoid anything, be that Christmas or another event. As ttc isn't always straight forward you don't know how long or how easy your journey might be.
Hopefully it will be very straightforward and 8 months after your bfp you'll be holding your baby safely in your arms.
04/03/2014 at 12:27
haha, no absolutely not. Its just a statistics thing. It wouldn't be a terrible thing (obviously) to be born within a few days of Christmas, but possibly not preferable. If the due date is say 25th Dec itself there is a high chance of being born within a week of Christmas. If the due date is Jan, Feb, whenever there is obviously a chance of being born at Christmas but much less likely (and not the most pressing issue of a preterm baby!!).
I should not have days off work, I overthink!!
With regards H its just the same thing, if we know the due date for that month is very near Christmas, is it worth thinking about waiting.
04/03/2014 at 12:32
Well it is up to you both but personally I wouldn't miss a month just for that reason but if you feel strongly about it then do what suirs you both :)
04/03/2014 at 13:32
i have honestly never understood why people would want to skip a month, i just seen it that i was ready to have a baby, not on any conditions of 'o i want a baby but not a december one'
theres events in every month usually, what if you had an easter baby/valentines baby
what if you had a january/feb due date but ended up going very early?
it honestly puzzles me.
the only date that i would be slightly twitched about is if i was due a baby on the anniversary of my sons death, i got a bfp a few years ago and the dd was 2 after his anniversary, i was worried that his anniversary would be overshadowed by the birth of a new baby, but as it happened i had a mc anyway.
04/03/2014 at 13:48
you see I find it odd that Christmas is in the same boat as Valentines to you. Christmas takes over more than just the day, and everybody is celebrating for a week or more so the child's birthday would be more difficult to stand out; organising birthday parties etc is always difficult as everyone has other plans and theres the issue of combined presents, or at least 2 presents in the same week then nothing the rest of the year. Not exactly the same issues with Valentines day.
Also I'm not saying I'm suddenly not ready to have a baby in December! Its not the birth year that I'm thinking of, its the future birthdays. And again, if the due date was Jan and it was early so what, its really not a huge issue.
Meh, everyones different, I just see a difference with if we fall pregnant this month the due date is Dec 25th compared to other months. Plus I still have the blind optimism of thinking it'll happen soon even if we skipped a month.
Obviously I'm the odd one here!
04/03/2014 at 14:06
haha, I can't believe this is quite so controversial!! of course my biggest concern isn't that it will happen in December!! Yes, I am ready to have children, but I have been ready for a very long time now so one month here or there doesn't strike me as the worlds hugest deal at this early stage in trying. I can imagine that if I had been trying for longer I would be less inclined to hold off for a month than I am now, which isn't strongly inclined, just a consideration. I don't see the leap personally to whether I am ready for children because in an ideal world I have a very rough preference for a birthday.
04/03/2014 at 14:08
Oh, has your comment disappeared? My reply now makes no sense.
04/03/2014 at 14:12
I really dont understand your post anymore?
You posted this -Also I'm not saying I'm suddenly not ready to have a baby in December! Its not the birth year that I'm thinking of, its the future birthdays. And again, if the due date was Jan and it was early so what, its really not a huge issue.
I dont see the issue anymore??
It seems really contradictory now.
Are you also saying your child wont be getting presents in the year just xmas and birthdays?
My niece is 4 her birthday is the 18th of December and she has a seperate birthday and xmas and we have a special day out for it, its what you make of it at the end of the day.
I think your over thinking this lol
04/03/2014 at 14:15
Rioja, there's a few people on these boards that have had a difficult time of TTC, and so the thought of skipping a month seems ridiculous, when all they want is to fall pregnant, if that means the baby would be due 25th December then that would be marvelous. I am sure people born around Christmas don't feel that their birthdays are any less valued, you make it work, and you have a life time to get used to it. You never know where the TTC road will lead you.
04/03/2014 at 14:22
Right, point taken I shouldn't have started this thread that was supposed to have been lighthearted. I am sorry people have had troubles ttc, it is truly, truly awful and I have absolutely no idea whether I will be one of them.
Of course you make it work, of course their birthday will be of value and any baby born any day is marvellous.
I maintain though that having a preference for a birthday is not tantamount to not being ready, or not really wanting children. My most recent comment makes less sense as it was a reply to a direct question of whether I feel I am really ready for children in light of my original question, it was then withdrawn.
04/03/2014 at 14:23
My birthday is Christmas Day. Since I was teeny my parents celebrated 6 months later instead, and I still do now - I like having a birthday that's separate from Christmas. I wouldn't try to avoid having a Christmas Day baby myself though, there's not much I'd have skipped a month of TTC for.
04/03/2014 at 14:27
The post your refering to was mine asking if you was ready for kids if your main concern was that it may be born in christmas week. I deleted it becayse I then posted the above.
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