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02/12/2017 at 08:25
I have never done one of these before but I’m just feeling very lonely and desperate now after getting another negative pregnancy test - I really thought we had done it this month 😓 just wondering where to go from here? I went to the doctors the year before last when not ttc and part way through this year when we were with an awful pain in my left pelvic area which I worked out is every time I ovulate - I had tests done and was told it was nothing- but I’m still in pain. Me and my husband have recently been to the doctors again as it’s been a year of trying and a very unhelpful doctor told us we had to wait 2 years. I had a blood test done with no explanation why, when I asked the bloods lady she told me it was for testosterone levels and things like that and these came back ‘no action’. Am I just supposed to wait another year now? I feel so low! I have told my mother and my sister worked it out for herself that we were ttc. My sister, sister in law and friend all fell pregnant this year and have had their beautiful baby boys. Im so jelous and feel like I can’t talk to them as they have new babies- why would they want to listen to me? I feel like I don’t know me anymore. I’m annoyed we put the whole year on hold hoping we would have a baby and it’s christmas and here we are with no baby! I have come off Facebook I’m so sick of seeing pregnancy announcements pop up. We got married over a year ago so we’ve also had the whole ‘when are you having a baby’ thing off everyone- it’s been a daily question I get asked 😫 Sorry for the rant, just feeling extra emotional as it’s xmas and officially a year of trying.
02/12/2017 at 08:35
Are you tracking when you ovulate? Pee stick temps ect? I've been with my partner for 14 years (young when we met) and so i know the pain of the when are you two and being around everyones new babies if your really worried they ask for another doc and demand a referral. Good luck and try not to stress just enjoy all the dtd every couple of days when you ovulate and see what happens
02/12/2017 at 09:18
Hiya hun, really hope your feeling a little better now. I am sure it is one year of trying with the same partner is the line where you can be referred on so like becksta says get yourself into another doctor and say you would like something doing, if no luck change GP. It may also be worth ringing your local fertility centre and asking whether they would see you and explain soc wont refer, theyll know whether he should be.
Please dont get discouraged, relax and enjoy xmas as much as you can, and always remember to think it WILL happen xxx
02/12/2017 at 18:28
Hi both- thank you for your reply’s 😘 I have been using ovulation kits from the start and I’ve been charting my temp for 4 months. Took all my charts to the doctors and they didn’t even ask. We baby dance every other day, have used preseed, tried vitex and eating pineapple, tried legs in the air 😂 i know I need to be patient, just a big kick in the heart when you get another negative. I think I will go the doctors again in the new year and speak to a female who might be able to relate a bit more to me. Also my periods have been 26 days each month and 3 odd months throughout the year have been 42. This month is going on 40 so far, did a test this morning which said negative so I’m guessing af will arrive soon. Thank you both x x x
02/12/2017 at 22:25
Good luck with it clarkey12 hope docs actually listen it's your right to ask for second opinion if you think your doc is fobbing you off. But just keeping enjoying doing the baby dance sending baby dust your way for BFP in 2018
18/01/2018 at 00:10
myself and my husband understand 100% what your going through as were in the same situation. we have been married for 15 months now and ttc and no joy iv tried trackers ovulation strips( which have never worked for me and iv been using them for 6 months) Iv had ultrasounds bloods and other tests which all came back clear. Friends and sister in law have recently had babies both within 2 months of ttc and we have had to deal with the "when are you having babies????" question from so many nosy people including close family. Its tough at times to stay positive bite our tongues and say when we can even though its hurting deep down and try not let the jealousy and anger creep in as we had hoped christmas would have been spent celebrating a bump instead we just had to deal with another negative test followed by another irregular period. We are becoming more positive this month and if its a negative test again we have to live in hope that nows not the right time. As long as we support each other I think we will get through this little hump in the road and just keep trying.. It is comforting to know that we arent the only ones who are going through this. I just wosh there were more answers for how to deal with the constant disappointment of a negative test
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