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30/10/2013 at 12:50
Do you take your pregnancy tests with OH? I don't - I don't even really say I'm going to do one, I don't see the point in getting H's hopes up, and building 'suspense' up over something as if its a BFN I like to try and not make a big deal out of it. I think that would be even more difficult if we had made a big song and dance over the fact I was taking the test!
30/10/2013 at 12:56
I never have. I've always done it alone for the same reasons as you. I think it's easier to shrug off a bfn if you haven't built it up so much.
No, he rarely knows when I test. I can just about handle my own disappointment, I couldn't cope with his too.
30/10/2013 at 13:07
Good god no! He didn't even know I was pregnant with Isaac for 2ish days lol
30/10/2013 at 13:09
They have it easy really don't they? :-)
30/10/2013 at 13:21
30/10/2013 at 13:28
Erm no! Given that I tested from 8dpo he'd have got a but fed up he didn't even know I had a bfp with Isaac for 2 days, I just didnt see the point in telling him as we'd had a few sh1tty experiences and watching your h cry is just heartbreaking so I didn't want to get him worried again iyswim
30/10/2013 at 14:13
H knew when I was testing, but I did the test on my own and let him know the outcome after the time elapsed.
30/10/2013 at 14:16
God no! He thinks my POAS is a bit much - mainly because it usually ends in disappointment. Last month we had some pretty strong evaporation lines and the disappointment on his face was too much for me. Have told him I won't POAS this month useless I'm late.... Hmmmmm...
30/10/2013 at 14:24
First time round I tested and told him. This time Ive only told him a handful of times because hes not a fan of testing early. However, now we're trying more actively I might tell him.
30/10/2013 at 15:06
No, he would always say theres no point in testing until I'm at least a week late and would moan I'm wasting money...... he's always right!!
30/10/2013 at 15:45
no way he would think i was a complete nutter haha !
30/10/2013 at 18:55
No. I tell him after the month is over that we haven't been lucky that month, and he has an idea when ovulation time is since I'm all over him LOL!!. Since the m/c the poor love has learnt more than he ever thought possible about my body and hormones, and he knows I've ordered more cheapy test strips and they don't just test for pregnancy. He doesn't need or want to know more than that, I don't think.
30/10/2013 at 19:24
No. Never. He only ever knew about the time that were positive.
30/10/2013 at 23:01
Same here (apart from I've never had positives) The only time he knew I was testing was on our anniversary because my chart was amazing and AF was due on our anniversary in a nice hotel with spa etc, and we had champagne with us, so I was gonna test so I could either get bladdered or behave myself.
30/10/2013 at 23:15
Clearly I'm in the minority! When I was TTCing for number 1 he was usually in the bathroom with me. This time he's not in the room but he knows when I'm doing 1 in our ensuite and I always tell him the outcome. As far as I'm concerned we're in it together & at some point it will be a BFP & I would want him to be there to see it! Just me then!!!
31/10/2013 at 06:33
I usually test on my own and tell him the result if it was positive. There has only been one occasion when he was with me as I was waiting for the result to appear and thankfully it was positive, but I felt a lot of pressure for it to be this result, iyswim.
31/10/2013 at 08:45
If I was still in the early days of TTC when everything is exciting, AND I was late so there was a real possibility, I could see us doing a test together and everything being glowy and lovely.
Fact is, 2.5 years later and a year of investigations down the line, I just don't feel the need to share. I don't have cycles so don't have the 2ww to test in, but do test before I start drugs or have procedures. He doesn't need to be disappointed.
I'm sure I'll sneak a few early tests in our IVF 2ww too! I'm a terrible person!
31/10/2013 at 13:05
I never tested with h, but I always left the tests lying around so he knew I was testing iykwim?
He’s been there a few times while I’ve been testing but not deliberately, he’s just wandered in at the right (or wrong!) time.
01/11/2013 at 10:59
The first couple of cycles H wanted us to test together because he thought we'd get pregnant just by sneezing but since then he gets bored just waiting for my cycle to happen nevermind the testing part!!
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