oh called tonight (started another course, in plymouth this year, so is away still through the week) to let me know that he has been given a really good oppertunity to join a sub possibally in oct/nov (he is ment to finish this curent(sp?) coure in sep) but it would meen that he would be at sea from then till feb/mar 2010!!!!!!!!!! the sub would come into ports and stuff and even maybe back to plymouth but it would deffinately put ttc on the back burner.
he might then go onto a sub in barrow, which he has wanted for years and would be really good for his carreer,I knew what i was getting into when i married someone in the forces but we will be married three years in april and spent 90% of that time apart. i just want to actually find out what it is really like to live with the man i married!
And now i might be pregnant (got a vvvvfaint line on sat and tryed a ov stick whick came back possitive to) i just don't know what to think. i know i will have my mum and family for support but i want him here. not just for me but for our wee baby.
I don't want to tell him no to doing all this because i know how hard he has worked to get where he is and i just couldn't be like that, he wouldn't hold me back from acchieving my dreams and goals.
AAAAARRRRRHHHHHH!!!!! i just want him home 7 days a week so i can get a cuddle when i need it, like now,
sorry for a depressing post but had to vent it all before i cry.
love fiona

Oh god hun i know how ur feeling right now....doesnt matter how 'prepared' u r no-one can imagine whats its like to be a forces wife til ur living it. Its so hard like u id never get in my husbands way of his dreams, which alot of the time have to come before mine, ttc has been put on hold many times because of his job, but what u need to ask yourself is when will it be enough......we have to do alot of the giving and get nothing back, but there comes a point when there needs to be a compramise. Only u to can decide that though, just want u to know im hear if u need a chat, my oh is away at the mo and i also didnt say a word about my faint positives as he needs to concentrate while hes away, am just praying there will be a 14wks bump when he back..!!! Its really hard being on ur own all the time, doing the parenting for the both of you, but like u i have accepted thats what my life is like, but even i dont know if i could handle him being away like ur oh may be, kim xxxxxxxxxxxx

Awww babes,
if i was you i'd tell him u might be pg and that u want him to have 18 months out, i know it means he'll miss they ''trip'' but sympthise (sp?) with him and just explain you want to live like a family for a while, there will be other jobs and plus he is only young, plently of chances left. am sure he'll understand and perhaps you could come to a mutual agreement.

thanks kim, hope it is a possitve for both us atleast then we would have someone to keep us busy and to cuddle. God that sounds terrible, like a rag doll would do the same thing! but didn't meen it in that way. More that wee would have mini oh as well as the big oh to love too.

Oh hun what a dilemma. You need to let him know its a maybe and then you can decide together. If he knows about the baby there may be a compromise if he speaks to his work. Don't have first hand experience of forces but brother in law is in army and so is his girlfriend so hear of their troubles.
Good luck and i hope you manage to work this out whats best for both of you. Filo x

oh hun i really dont know what to say never been in your situation. i think best thing to do is sit down and tell him how you feel and take it from there x

hi sweetangelemma, i wish it was that easy but sometimes they don't have much choice in the matter. About 5 years ago oh got a call on his mobile but it was unknown number, it was someone telling him he had 24 hrs to get his stuff together he was needed on a sub that was ready to leave. needless to say he dosen't answer unknown numbers anymore!!

i was due af today, but not showed yet, and was nervous about testing again cause of some things that clairevoyant said last night but do you know what, bugger her i am going to POAS tomorrow. There i have finnally made up my mind, i will hopefully find out one way or another in the morning if i am BFP or bfn.
will let you know. have to go to bed now before i fall asleep on keyboard, love a slightly more poositve fi*

HI Fiandrup,

Completely understand your point of view and perhaps this is a little tongue in cheek, but I wish my husband would bugger off for that long!!! Swap ya!

But perhaps I'm married to the wrong guy!!!!

Confused x