Hello everyone,

I apologise in advance for my very sad post but I have no-one else to turn to as no-one really knows that we are ttc. Ive tried talking to hubby but he just doesnt understand.

We got married in May and have been ttc since the honeymoon. We are now in our 4month of ttc and used the CBFM for the first time last month. Each month Ive convinced myself that this was the month that we would get our bfp and Ive had lots of pma at the beginning of the cycle and then it becomes an emotional rollercoaster during the 2ww and I am devastated when AF arrives.

I guess I thought that it would happen quite quickly as it did for most of our friends and although I know its only been 4 months and thats not long I cant help but feel frustrated. Ive always been worried that Icant have children, Im not sure why Ive just always had a niggling feeling, and the fact that it hasnt happened yet is just adding to my worry. Im also the type of person who needs to be in control of everything and find it quite hard to relax so Im also concerned that due to my nature I will have trouble ttc. Im so down in the dumps that Ive just said to hubby that I dont want to ttc anymore as finding it too hard and dont think I can carrying on this emotional rollercoaster for however long..... Im fed up of counting the days and timing BD already!!!!

Is anyone else feeling like this? Is it normal? If I feel like this now how am I going to cope if it takes us years ttc?!

Sorry for going on. :cry:

Hi Lizzy,

I feel the same as you but this is only my 2nd month TTC, I've been feeling so down as I didn't think I'd get a positive OPK this month and finally got my smiley today. I'm a real worrier and I also worry about having problems ttc and worrying if my body is working properly. Hope this helps!

Hey Lizzy. You're right... 4 months isn't a long time. There will be tough times especially when other things aren't going so well too.

Try to look at the whole picture, this relatively short time of all the up's and downs will sooooo be worth it WHEN (not if) you get your BFP.

I'm sure 99% of all the ladies on here regardless of how long been ttc feel like this sometimes - I know I do! I defo feel that I can't talk to anyone as like you no one else knows about us ttc. I just type away to you lot!!!

Sending so many ((((((hugs)))))) your way. It will happen - I promise!! xxx ;\)

Thank you everyone. I feel a bit better knowing Im not alone feeling like this. Loppylulu, Im a worrier too!!! Cant help it, its just the way I am. But I do know worriers that have got bfp's so there's hope for us!!!

I think Im also worrying that I cant envisage a baby at the moment. I cant imagine being pregnant either. But then guess this is because I dont know what its like to be pregnant??

I think some of us are just natural born worriers Where are you in your cycle at the moment?

hi hun you sound just like me. i have too be in control of everything and find it very hard not having control ove rthis. when we tried with our first i fell first month so i find 4th month in very hard. i know in the ttc world it isnt long but its not having that control. i got over consumed last month and broke down and this month we have just bdanced with no opk's. ovulation caught us by surprise by happening 10days earlier than expected so i think that helped a little as well. i just ahve to stay calm on my 2ww now. big hugs hun hope that bfp comes your way very soon.xxx

I am exactly the same, I am a natural born worrier. I constantly worry that I can't conceive, am I doing enough to conceive etc

I have told my close friends and family that we are ttc and they have been a massive support to me...maybe if you told someone close to you they would be able to give you the support you need to get through this low period.

I know that it can be hard at times ttc but just imagine when you do get that bfp and when you do have that bungle of joy and the happiness that will bring you, all this will be worth it.

Sending you a BIG HUG xx

Thanks again all who have replied. I am feeling less alone and abnormal! Im on CD4 od my cycle so still have AF blues but hoping to get some pma back. Angel100 I think I have been so consumed this month that I will give CBFM a miss this month. I am exactly the same as you, I dont like the lack of control i have with ttc!!! We just have to let go though and let nature take its course.....easier said than done!!!

ive been ttc 14 months now for my 2nd and i no how hard it is for you but it is still early doors for you chick so to speak,i think we all have pre-conseptions (sp) of falling right away when in reality a normal healthy couple can take 12 months to fall

it will happen chick,i just cant tell you when thats all xx

i will also tell you i always worried before that i would never be able to have children,dont no why but then i fell with my ds,a fantastic surprise xx

[Modified by: grudie on August 27, 2009 09:58 PM]

i completely understand where your coming from...me and hubby have unfortunately been trying "properly" since summer of 2007!....we got married xmas 2007 but have had no such luck!...its really hard....we have been 2geva 9 years since we were 14 and have always dreampt of having a family 2geva but now at 23 when we thought it would be so easy its becoming the hardest thing we have ever had to face......its really soul destroying........we are now in a whirl of spirm samples and blood tests....its all a scarey and emotional time. .......only 4 months in sweetheart, you willl get pregnant soon im sure xxx