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28/06/2013 at 23:06
Hi, haven't been on since the birth of no. 1 which despite a blissful pregnancy ended up with a traumatic birth and a lot of physical and mental after effects including PND ... Anyway despite that I really want a second and have finally got hubby to agree (he was adamant we were sticking with one!) and now I'm bursting with excitement but equally petrified of history repeating itself that - so much so that I've delayed getting to the doctor to get my implant out ... How do I get over this mental block?
29/06/2013 at 00:32
Hiya, how old is your first? I really sympathise with u. I was really lucky and had a great labour but had SPD from 20 weeks pg and sickness until 38 weeks. I am planning on TTC no2 next month. All I can say is remember that no labour or pregnancy is the same! just think of what is at the end of it all - your beautiful baby!
Im dreading TTC again it took us 2.5 years and clomid to concieve my last girl. the process was so emotional really worried that it will be a nightmare again.
Good luck! xxx
29/06/2013 at 07:46
I have similar concerns as I had obstetric cholestasis and a horrid induced labour. I am just going to take it a day at a time.
This time you know what to look out for and will be able to ask for support earlier if necessary. I'm sure the midwives will help talk things through during your pregnancy.
We are probably going to need another caesarean but if we get the choice I am strongly considering an elective to rule out the possibility of a horrid labour. So there are choices which might help you feel more reassured.
Are you horing to try as soon as the implant is out? Perhaps talk it over with the gp before making your appointment?
30/06/2013 at 23:48
Thanks ladies - I'm taking the fact that I think I will be more in control the 2nd time around as my comfort . I got pushed into choices that I didn't want and they caused a lot of the problems so hoping I can stand my ground and say no!
My lo is coming up to 2 and I wanted a 3 year age gap so going to start trying in the next month or so in case it takes 6 months like it did first time around - how are things going for you ladies? When star you starting?
01/07/2013 at 10:18
I think it is very easy to feel pushed into things during labour as it all seems to be happening so quickly and so much of it is unknown first time around.
I agree that we will all probably feel more prepared second time around. I also think we will be more forceful in getting our opinions and wishes across. I am hoping I can get my dh a bit more involved in what I need next time so he will be on my side.
We are in a similar position and hoping for a 3 year age gap. My Son is 2 in September - when is yours 2? I recently stopped my pill in the hope of getting my cycles into a regular pattern.
In all honesty I would like it to take a little while to happen this time.
Good luck with your journey, x
01/07/2013 at 13:34
Good luck to you too - my lo is 2 at the end of July. I want to fall pregnant at the start of 2014, give some time for body to get back to normal from the implant and have a bit of time to get emotionally ready - easy planning it that way but these things rarely work out exactly to plan x
01/07/2013 at 20:29
Teapot you are so right!
I am hoping for the first half of 2014. I would prefer to space out their birthdays but then i would avoid being too close to Christmas and Ethan the excuses keep coming.
But really I would like to get a few bits of DIY done that would really make life a bit easier in our two bed house. Things like new wood floors and a garden with grass! But we will see what is meant to be.
01/07/2013 at 22:01
Exactly, so easy to come up with various reasons why it's not the right time and maybe it's just about letting nature take its course and worrying about everything else later (including my birth/post birth hang ups!) ... I could come up with endless jobs that need sorting with the house and there will always be something else once they're done - need to stop stalling as I know deep down now is the right time (plus need to get on with it before hubby changes his mind again!) - Good luck hun x
06/07/2013 at 18:14
I had a horrible labour and felt really strange and anxious for a while afterwards. For about 6 months I was adament I would not have any more children. But as they say with time I forgot how bad it was and when we started trying for number 2 at the beginning of the year I just tried not to think too far ahead (although I was still a bit scared when we first started!!) I have just recently got a BFP and I am not too worried yet, I wanted another baby and unfortunately that is just something I will have to go through again to get it! I hope you start to feel better about things and good luck when you do start to ttc xx
06/07/2013 at 21:10
Thanks Magpie and congratulations on your BFP! I'm like you, I always saw myself with two and know its what I want ... I'm sure once we get on with things, a lot of my fears will start resolve ( or at least I hope they will! ) Anyway, I have bitten the bullet and got the implant removed but want to give my body some time to get back to normal before we start.
Good luck and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy x
06/07/2013 at 21:58
Good luck teapot.
pregnancies and labours seem to all go their own way so who knows what we can expect. Doesn't seem to be much logic involved. ;)
06/07/2013 at 22:21
Thank you very much Teapot
I am sure you are right and once you get going your fears will lessen, I do get the occasional little wave of fear but excitement is over ruling it at the moment!
Yay great news that you have had the implant out! Great to get your body back to normal so when you decide to go for it you will be ready xx
13/10/2013 at 22:14
14/10/2013 at 22:12
hi ladies! congratulations to you both! didn't take either of you long, so much for 2014 lol.
our lo was 2 in august and i've always wanted a 3 year gap. oh is very non commital, sometimes he will talk as if we're ttc at the end of the year. its strange because i dont really feel broody, just a sense that we should get on with it so our lo's have something in common and so the hard work doesnt last forever. awful thing to say and a 2nd baby will be every bit as loved as a 1st, i just find it harder to get excited about. i hope when i see the bfp (if we're lucky enough) i do feel excited. dont want it to happen if oh isnt fully happy of course but at the same time i think sometimes you just have to have some courage!!
I am lucky in that i had a good pregnancy, not a great labour and birth but i had lots of tlc and don't really dread this again. to be honest, i dread coping with 2 without all the naps i had first time round and i dread going back to work as a mum of 2 and making it all work.
but more than that i fear never having another, or having a huge age gap where it's like having two only children.
wishing you both happy and healthy pregnancies xx
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