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09/07/2014 at 22:07
I've been with my fiance for 5 years and from day 1 he's always told me he wants a house full of children! Before I met him, I was determind I'd never have any kids as it wasn't something I wanted to do.
For the past 4 years he has been bringing up babies alot and asking when we can start trying for a child. I was cautious at first but over the years I've grown to love the idea of children.
The past 6 months, babies have been on my mind constantly. I've been yearning for the right time to stsrt trying, my fiance has been as excited as myself when I told him I want a baby.
We now have a stable home and are both working full time in stable jobs.
We took the first step and I went to have my copper coil removed yesterday. He came with me to the clinic and he was so excited.
Today, he's been like a totally different man. He ranted earlier and told me I've been making these choices on my own and I'm not thinking of how a baby effects him.
I'm so confused!
He's always wanted children and I never have.. now it feels like we've both swapped mind sets.
It's only been one day since I had the coil removed and he's freaking out already!
Please can someone give me some advice?
I really want a baby and he's making things difficult. I don't know why he's acting this way all of a sudden.
13/07/2014 at 08:13
18/07/2014 at 15:33
Your message made me smile, thankyou!
Since that day he has been excited about starting a family. He's even told my dad (who was a single parent to my sister and I), that he may become a grandad soon.
He's also thrown all condoms in the bin and refuses to use them.
I believe (like you said), that he was just scared and acted out a little.
That was the only negative experience he's had about the whole thing!
He's now treating me as if I'm made of glass (not that I'm complaining!) and I'm not even pregnant yet!
Thankyou for replying to me, you were definately right!
19/07/2014 at 11:28
Hi Beca Mary,
Happy to read that your fiance has gone back to his normal self as was proved I think it is just nerves of the actual started process as it is all so easy to sit and talk about wanting a baby etc but putting it in to reality is a bigger deal.
I am actually 32 weeks pregnant at the minute and me and my partner obviously talked about trying for a baby and then it took us 6 months to conceive which was very stressful but I also know in reality to conceive in 6 months is probably pretty good to be honest as I know it can take a healthy couple up to 1 year. The fact I am now pregnant and little girl is due in 8 weeks time I am now at the nervous stage of thinking 'Oh my goodness we are actually going to have a little baby and have to care for her'.
I know my OH is obviously scared at times as he often doesn't really say much about the pregnancy/birth etc but then other days he will rub my belly and say he loves it. So don't be surprised if during the trying to conceive stage and then the pregnancy stage your fiance has bad days again as I think it's the shock and reality of the whole thing. A baby is a life changing event and I think men get more nervous/scared about it than we do (and I am rather nervous and scared myself) haha.
Good luck with the trying to conceive stage x
19/07/2014 at 20:03
Thanks very much for replying, I'm putting his outburst down to nerves!
It's really great hearing other people are going through/have been through the same motions.
I'm hoping you're right! And thankyou for taking the time to comment.
Goodluck with the birth and I wish you all the best with your little girl
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