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21/08/2014 at 21:57
I've recently had a laparoscopy for endometriosis. The surgeon has advised me to start trying for a family asap, and said that if I haven't conceived within a year then I may need referral for fertility treatment. She's also told me I should only expect the effects of the surgery to last a year before I need more treatment for the endometriosis if I don't conceive (as it is, the symptoms are coming back already).
My partner and I are definitely ready for children, but I'd already booked a fortnight long trip to Asia with my younger sister for April next year. She's excited about maybe becoming an auntie, but it will also be the first holiday we've been on together just the two of us and I know she'd be heartbroken if I had to cancel our trip. The country itself wouldn't be a problem - it's not a high-risk location - but it would be about an 18-hour flight each way in total (we're going indirectly to save money, so one leg of about 11 hours and one leg of about 17 hours, plus transfer time). If we started TTC now, I'd be about 33weeks gone by the time we had to fly back to the UK.
This will be my first pregnancy, so I have no idea how easy/hard I'm likely to find it, but I know that my Mum had reasonably easy pregnancies with both me and my sister. I'm hoping that that means that I'll have a fairly easy time of it, although of course I don't know how the endometriosis might affect things (other than that I should expect severe pain in the first 3 months as the baby growing will tear the scar tissue and adhesions).
Can anyone advise how early we can start TTC and still minimise the risk that I won't be able to fly? The advice online is really confusing. Some sites say anything up to 34weeks, others say that it's a bad idea to fly after 6 months.
22/08/2014 at 09:44
Hi MadamRed welcome to MD!
Sorry I have no advice really only you can decide what to do. I would be inclined to start ttc now and cancel the holiday if you needed to but then again I'm probably only saying that as I have been trying over a year now so my thoughts have changed since we first started ttc.
I hope you can come to a decision you are happy with though x
22/08/2014 at 10:16
The airline you are flying with will have it's own specific rules about what they permit so start with their website. My understanding is that after 29 weeks you would need a doctor's note. That's the rules, then there's what you are comfortable with. If you do start trying you should also be prepared for the fact that you really might not want to travel at that point. You would need really excellent medical insurance whatever you decide!
On the other hand I wouldn't wait. Everything crossed you'll take first time but there are no guarantees and some of us here are over a year trying (myself included, even though my Mum popped out 5 kids in 10 years and I have 8 nieces and nephews). I pretty quickly learned not to try planning ttc around things. Similarly I try not to plan life around it. Would it be possible to change to less far away trip if you did get pregnant? Do you feel like you could talk this through with your sister?
22/08/2014 at 10:30
I was in Vietnam last May for my honeymoon and the heat & humidity was horrible so I'd never suggest being around that when pregnant! I would aim, assuming best case scenario, to be still in your 2nd tri when you return. Just think, if you're 31 weeks when you fly out, you'll probably start to be uncomfortable and most likely won't enjoy the holiday hence my advice would be to delay ttc a bit for a month or two.
The break in journey would actually be a good thing if pregnant as it would reduce the risk of DVT, etc.
However, bear in mind that some airlines may want a note from your Doctor to say you're ok to fly and, if you have been having complications (hopefully not), they may not allow you to fly anyway. Might be worth discussing this with your consultant / doctor before starting anyway?
22/08/2014 at 12:49
I can only echo what the ladies have already said some excellent advice. Good luck and I really hope your TTC journey is a short one.
22/08/2014 at 14:18
I agree with the ladies here, don't put your life on hold for TTC, but don't put TTC on hold for what ifs.
Hopefully you'll have a really short TTC journey and you and your sister can still have your trip or a modified version, Good luck!
22/08/2014 at 18:31
Thanks. The airline requires a note from my GP after 28weeks. My sister's been wanting to go to Asia for almost 10years so going somewhere nearer wouldn't be an option, and we'd lose our deposits anyway. I'll have a chat with my GP and ask their advice.
23/08/2014 at 08:54
Just to add that if you do go make sure your familiar with the medical care and your insurance covers everything. I'm nearly 16 weeks and have had several bouts of bleeding some of which I have needed hospital check ups. Also some babies come very early and without warning. That's something to think about as well.
03/09/2014 at 18:09
Late to this, but I was under the impression that long haul flights were a no no during pregnancy, due to DVT or something? Happy to be corrected.
03/09/2014 at 18:15
Just googled it, I'm talking nonsense, ignore me
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