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13/03/2015 at 07:30
Sorry I haven't made it back on since Wednesday. The seminar was all in Danish which meant I had to focus doubly hard - when I got home I ate dinner and fell asleep watching Netflix! Work is calmer, though still busy.
Lottie - congratulations. Really hope this one is your sticky one. X
Lulu - hope you're feeling a bit better. I know four weeks seems like ages but it does actually go quite quickly. But it's awful when you just want to get going and you have to wait yet another cycle before an appointment. If you do decide to go privately, things do move a lot faster.
Hopeful - sounds like you're thinking positive which is great. I'm like you with the IVF - it is a daunting and invasive process but there is absolutely no doubt in my mind that if that's what we have to do, then it's what we have to do. I don't care how many times I need to be prodded.
Sally - huge hugs. I used to get spotting - it is such a kick in the teeth.
Peanut, Tayto - thinking of you both. Hope you're both ok.
Veecee, just in case you still lurk - I often think of you and I really hope that you're doing ok. If you're reading this, would be great to hear from you. X
AFM - Today I am 6DPIUI and very glad I have a lot of things planned to keep me focused. I'm due on on Wednesday/Thursday next week, so glad that the weekend is here as it's going to be a busy one. I predict PMS symptoms will start from tomorrow. I have to admit I'm absolutely terrified of AF next week but more for how I'll react rather than not being pregnant. I'm trying to pre-empt this by practising yoga every single morning before I shower, just ten minutes or so of some form of sun salutation. Also taking classes and working on coping strategies with my psychologist. It won't help deal with the actual disappointed feeling but it hopefully will help me not to react with anger. On Monday I'm expecting my colleague and good friend to make the announcement that his wife is expecting their first so I'm considering working from home that day, but not sure if that's OTT. I just don't know if I'll cope with a lot of the reaction as I really wanted it to be me next. I know it sounds awful but I'm just a little jealous, although of course happy for them. But I'm concentrating on being kind to myself. I'm slowly coming round to the fact that none of this is my fault - it's just one of those awfully sad things that happens to some people and of course I'm allowed to feel sad about it.
Non-TTC wise! We are redecorating our living room this weekend! H bought yellow paint for our walls yesterday so tonight we're going to be in the process of moving furniture from the lounge to the living room, rolling up mats, covering sofas etc. Then getting takeaway pizza, yessssssss! Then tomorrow and Sunday we'll aim to get those walls painted! Going to paint our doors white so they really pop. Really looking forward to it, will be a welcome distraction. Tomorrow morning I have a two hour pole class and then we're having dinner with BIL and SIL after Painting Round 1, before going to the boardgame cafe in the city (wonderfully nerdy). Sunday I have a Pilates class in the morning then it's onto Painting Round 2.
13/03/2015 at 09:02
Enjayee - Glad to hear you've got a nice busy weekend to take your mind off things, decorating sounds good! I really hope this is your month and you won't need to worry about your reaction. You're doing so well so far and are much stronger than you think remember that lovely xxx
Hopeful - Glad the open evening went well, I agree IVF is so daunting and alot to get your head around there is lots of support out there and we are all here for you as well. I hope things start moving for you soon.
Also thinking of Peanut and Tayto and like Enjayee I've also thought of Veecee! I hope you're ok, we started trying at the same time so I do wonder how you're getting on, hope all is well xxx
AFM - Feeling slightly more upbeat today, boobs are sore which is normal pms symtom for me so sure I'm out and now sure it's not going to happen until we get help. Appointment letter still hasn't arrived (it's only been just over a week I know I'm impatient) maybe it will arrive today on Friday 13th lol! That would just sum things up! Got another quiet weekend planned, H and I have been so unsociable recently which I've actually really enjoyed, I know I need to get my head out of the sand and start seeing friends again but it's just so hard as they all have children.
Hi to all who follow x
13/03/2015 at 09:33
Enjayee - Glad you are nice and busy, your weekend plans sound lovely! The Boardgame cafe sounds amazing. I'd probably work from home as well if I was in that position, I don't think it's OTT, at least you can prepare yourself a bit better then. I LOVE the sound of your decorating plans, yellow is my favourite colour.
Thanks for the hugs, feeling a bit better today I think! x
Lulu - I do both OPK's and temping now. Because I've been ill this month ov was delayed, and it's confused FF. I shall rant if I need to, it's just so frustrating sometimes, plus as time goes on you start to worry there is a problem don't you?
Glad you are feeling a bit better today. I'm sure the letter will arrive soon. I enjoy having anti-social weekends too! x
Hopeful - glad you got on ok at the clinic and that you feel more reassured.
AFM - still spotting. expecting AF any day now. No weekend plans here, the FIL is popping round to help with a plumbing problem and I might make some red velvet cupcakes as a thank you, but that's it!
13/03/2015 at 10:09
Sally - this is the cafe. It's brilliant! Hope MD lets me post it, as it's called B*stard Cafe which I find amusing
13/03/2015 at 10:36
Glad you're feeling better today Sally. Yes being ill can confuse ff. It is really frustrating, how many cycles have you had now?
Enjayee - I have to go there if I ever go to Copenhagen!! I really want to take H but just haven't had the time or the money, maybe later on in the year!
13/03/2015 at 10:57
It looks fab Enjayee!
Copenhagen's on my list too Lulu - like a lot of places!
This was cycle 8 - so still got time, it just knocks you. I don't think anyone really expects it to take a while.
Oh you should! I will happily show you round as well!
Forgot to reply to you and Sally which was rather rude of me ...
Lulu - glad you're feeling a bit more upbeat. I hate the sore boobs, not just because it hurts but because I always think this *could* be it. Torture. Hope your letter arrives soon. The waiting game is awful, whether that's waiting for the appointment or an actual pregnancy! I love anti-social weekends sometimes. I'm craving them at the moment as my state of mind hasn't been too great. I've pretty much gone teetotal, apart from one beer yesterday and two glasses of wine last Saturday, which has definitely helped said state of mind. Arranging exercise classes for a weekend morning is a good strategy that I use!
Sally - Sorry to hear you're still spotting. I used to get that and it's awful. Not physically of course, but for what it means :-( Hope you're doing ok. On a more positive note, I LOVE red velvet cupcakes. If I hadn't have eaten so much rubbish this week I would get one on the way home from here. Screw it - I might do that anyway. Once our lounge is newly painted I'll share a pic - I'm so bored of having white walls now, so clinical! Still - t'was a good idea at the time when we had no idea what furniture we would own!
13/03/2015 at 10:59
You're totally right that you don't expect it to take a while. And then you get the 'helpful' crowd with:
"just relax, you're probably stressed" (ok, so it's MY fault, is it?)
"if you don't think about it, it will happen" (yes, it's THAT easy)
"I know someone who knows someone who knows someone who did ABC, followed by XYZ, she cast a spell, drank a potion and hey presto - baby"
"You can always adopt"
The last one in particular drives me nuts.
13/03/2015 at 11:49
You're right Sally you never expect it to take more than a few months, I started having complete meltdowns from 6 months onwards so know how you feel xx
Yes hate all of those, I was looking on FB yesterday and found lots of sayings from an infertilty page I was so tempted to share them but then chickened out! I just want people to at least try and understand or when they are moaning about thier baby or pregnancy remember there are people like us who are so desperate for it to happen. Sorry for the mini rant there! Love the saying helpful crowd lol!
13/03/2015 at 13:27
Would love to see some pics when you are finished Enjayee!
You are so right with those sayings!
I knew you ladies would understand. xx
13/03/2015 at 13:51
Sore breasts have started to kick in now, right on schedule. I know there's just under a week to go but I'm not holding my breath. Am feeling very hormonal, which is also bang on time for PMS. I wish I could look into the future and know it would happen and when. I'm not sure I can cope with another failure.
13/03/2015 at 13:57
We are at the same stage Enjayee I really hope these symptoms don't mean anything bad, I always try and remember what a friend told that you can't ever know until af arrives. I know how hard it is to keep the hope but I am still hoping for you xxxxx
13/03/2015 at 14:22
I'm hoping it's just early symptoms rather than AF Enjayee. xx
13/03/2015 at 15:27
As my post in the intro thread suggests, I am new here. We are at the opposite end of the TTC line to most of you - we haven't officially started yet, but I've come off the pill so have stopped preventing. We'll start trying properly after our wedding in May.
Obviously I don't know everyone's back stories but (I don't mean to sound patronising...so I hope I don't), it really sounds like some of you are having a rough time of it. I really hope the TTC journey ends for you all soon, and you move to the baby stage.
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