Getting Pregnant <
Trying to conceive
15/06/2016 at 19:53
Hello, so I had a miscarriage 3 weeks and 2 days ago on the 23/05/2016 at 5 weeks pregnant. I wasn't trying to get pregnant and was totally shocked when I fell pregnant as was being really careful. After it happend I was absolutely mortified, although I didn't want to get pregnant, after having a miscarriage I wanted nothing more than to be pregnant. I'm 19 and have been with my partner for 4 years. We live together and have a very mature relationship. We want to get pregnant again as soon as possible and I'm just wanting some advice as have had no help at all from doctors. They literally told me I'd had a complete miscarriage and to test in a weeks time and as long as the test was neg they didn't need to see me again (the test was neg). They offered no emotional support or any advice at all so I took to the Internet for coping advice as I was a complete wreck. I had 2 weeks off work and then went back thinking I was ready, I was so wrong, I had a complete meltdown in the office in front of everyone and was sent home and signed off for a further 2 weeks. I'm due to go back in 5 days time and just hoping this time I am completely ready but don't want to look like I'm taking the mick with how much time off I have. So can anyone help with how much time off is acceptable and how to tell wether I'm ready to go back or not?
Also when should I do a pregnancy test? We've been having unprotected sex almost every other night since 29/05/2016 as I'd completely stopped bleeding by the 27th. I have done a test today and it's negative so just want to know how long to wait? I feel like I have a few more questions but have rambled abit so might add more later. Any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks
15/06/2016 at 20:16
Hi chell. Sorry to hear of your loss. Unfortunately early mc and chemical pregnancy is quite common and most of the time is due to the chromosomes not being right, and is no ones fault. This happen to me last cycle too. For me I wasn't massively effected as I knew it just wasnt meant to be that time. Everyone deals with it differently. I think you need to find a way to deal with your grief like by doing something nice. maybe let a ballon go up to the sky with a message on.
15/06/2016 at 20:18
It maybe a little soon to test do you know if and when you ovulated ? Sending hugs xx
15/06/2016 at 20:27
Hi emy0001. Thank you for your support. I don't know when/if I've ovulated as I haven't done an ovulation test xx
15/06/2016 at 20:39
i would recommend waiting at least 4 weeks from your mc before testing. Do you know how long your cycles were before your mc ? Xx
15/06/2016 at 20:50
I hve no clue, I was on a pill where I didnt have periods but wasn't agreeing with me so had to go on a different one. (I conceived during the crossover) so as I didn't have periods before getting pregnant I don't know anything about my cycles because I didn't have to think about them. Xx
15/06/2016 at 21:38
hi chel11, sorry to hear of ur miscarriage, I too had one on 20/4/16 was completely devastated but after 4 weeks off work I was ready to go bk. So on 27/5/16 I knew my body wasn't da same done a test and I guess what I'm pregnant, a few test later and it sunk in, had an scan today amd had it confirmed that I'm 6 weeks pregnant. So suggest test again in a week r so apparently it's very common to fall again quickly after mc, I'm just delighted we did and I was chuffed to see dat little heart beat today
15/06/2016 at 21:43
Aw tiny I'm so happy for you! Congratulation! Yeah I was also told its common to fall quickly after a mc that's why I'm so eager and can't wait to test! I will wait a week or so to do another test and let you know!
15/06/2016 at 21:55
Chell I hope it happens quickly for you.
Tiny it's lovely to hear your success story after mc. Wishing you a happy healthy 9 months xx
15/06/2016 at 22:52
Thank you Emmy xx
Chelsea wishing u best of luck keep us updated xx
16/06/2016 at 22:46
Sorry meant Chel, stupid predictive texts
16/06/2016 at 23:07
so I've been having quite a lot of pregnancy symptoms according to google. since last Thursday I've had the following: sore boobs, stomach ache, lower back ache, strange taste in my mouth, really dry mouth, stomach twinges, loud stomach gargling, lots of wind!(tmi sorry!) Weeing ALOT. can't get comfy in bed and can't sleep properly (got up at 3am this morning as was so uncomfortable it was irritatin) also to add to the list (I know this next part is tmi so sorry for anyone reading!) I went to the toilet about an hour ago and there was light this slightly brownish gelly on the tissue?? dont want to get my hopes up so trying not to overthink too much. Fingers crossed
16/06/2016 at 23:22
Good luck chel are you going to wait to test ? X
17/06/2016 at 16:54
Good luck hun hope u get the out come u want. I also miscarriaged last week only blead for 4 days and me and my partner are also trying we sat 2 days after stopped bleeding so I am also hoping for the same thing .
17/06/2016 at 20:04
Yes I'm going to try and wait at least another week! I feel like if I don't wait I'm just going to end up driving myself mad! Hope you also get what you want Ngreen!
17/06/2016 at 21:10
Thanks I want this more than anything . But going with the follow . Good luck hun
Continues below ad
Nice to see you! Please do nose around, sign up and join in.