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15/06/2016 at 19:53
Hello, so I had a miscarriage 3 weeks and 2 days ago on the 23/05/2016 at 5 weeks pregnant. I wasn't trying to get pregnant and was totally shocked when I fell pregnant as was being really careful. After it happend I was absolutely mortified, although I didn't want to get pregnant, after having a miscarriage I wanted nothing more than to be pregnant. I'm 19 and have been with my partner for 4 years. We live together and have a very mature relationship. We want to get pregnant again as soon as possible and I'm just wanting some advice as have had no help at all from doctors. They literally told me I'd had a complete miscarriage and to test in a weeks time and as long as the test was neg they didn't need to see me again (the test was neg). They offered no emotional support or any advice at all so I took to the Internet for coping advice as I was a complete wreck. I had 2 weeks off work and then went back thinking I was ready, I was so wrong, I had a complete meltdown in the office in front of everyone and was sent home and signed off for a further 2 weeks. I'm due to go back in 5 days time and just hoping this time I am completely ready but don't want to look like I'm taking the mick with how much time off I have. So can anyone help with how much time off is acceptable and how to tell wether I'm ready to go back or not?
Also when should I do a pregnancy test? We've been having unprotected sex almost every other night since 29/05/2016 as I'd completely stopped bleeding by the 27th. I have done a test today and it's negative so just want to know how long to wait? I feel like I have a few more questions but have rambled abit so might add more later. Any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks
15/06/2016 at 20:16
Hi chell. Sorry to hear of your loss. Unfortunately early mc and chemical pregnancy is quite common and most of the time is due to the chromosomes not being right, and is no ones fault. This happen to me last cycle too. For me I wasn't massively effected as I knew it just wasnt meant to be that time. Everyone deals with it differently. I think you need to find a way to deal with your grief like by doing something nice. maybe let a ballon go up to the sky with a message on.
15/06/2016 at 20:18
It maybe a little soon to test do you know if and when you ovulated ? Sending hugs xx
15/06/2016 at 20:27
Hi emy0001. Thank you for your support. I don't know when/if I've ovulated as I haven't done an ovulation test xx
15/06/2016 at 20:39
i would recommend waiting at least 4 weeks from your mc before testing. Do you know how long your cycles were before your mc ? Xx
15/06/2016 at 20:50
I hve no clue, I was on a pill where I didnt have periods but wasn't agreeing with me so had to go on a different one. (I conceived during the crossover) so as I didn't have periods before getting pregnant I don't know anything about my cycles because I didn't have to think about them. Xx
15/06/2016 at 21:38
hi chel11, sorry to hear of ur miscarriage, I too had one on 20/4/16 was completely devastated but after 4 weeks off work I was ready to go bk. So on 27/5/16 I knew my body wasn't da same done a test and I guess what I'm pregnant, a few test later and it sunk in, had an scan today amd had it confirmed that I'm 6 weeks pregnant. So suggest test again in a week r so apparently it's very common to fall again quickly after mc, I'm just delighted we did and I was chuffed to see dat little heart beat today
15/06/2016 at 21:43
Aw tiny I'm so happy for you! Congratulation! Yeah I was also told its common to fall quickly after a mc that's why I'm so eager and can't wait to test! I will wait a week or so to do another test and let you know!
15/06/2016 at 21:55
Chell I hope it happens quickly for you.
Tiny it's lovely to hear your success story after mc. Wishing you a happy healthy 9 months xx
15/06/2016 at 22:52
Thank you Emmy xx
Chelsea wishing u best of luck keep us updated xx
16/06/2016 at 22:46
Sorry meant Chel, stupid predictive texts
16/06/2016 at 23:07
so I've been having quite a lot of pregnancy symptoms according to google. since last Thursday I've had the following: sore boobs, stomach ache, lower back ache, strange taste in my mouth, really dry mouth, stomach twinges, loud stomach gargling, lots of wind!(tmi sorry!) Weeing ALOT. can't get comfy in bed and can't sleep properly (got up at 3am this morning as was so uncomfortable it was irritatin) also to add to the list (I know this next part is tmi so sorry for anyone reading!) I went to the toilet about an hour ago and there was light this slightly brownish gelly on the tissue?? dont want to get my hopes up so trying not to overthink too much. Fingers crossed
16/06/2016 at 23:22
Good luck chel are you going to wait to test ? X
17/06/2016 at 16:54
Good luck hun hope u get the out come u want. I also miscarriaged last week only blead for 4 days and me and my partner are also trying we sat 2 days after stopped bleeding so I am also hoping for the same thing .
17/06/2016 at 20:04
Yes I'm going to try and wait at least another week! I feel like if I don't wait I'm just going to end up driving myself mad! Hope you also get what you want Ngreen!
17/06/2016 at 21:10
Thanks I want this more than anything . But going with the follow . Good luck hun
21/06/2017 at 06:50
Hi all, I had a miscarriage on the 29th on may this year. It was a couple of days before my 12 week scan. It's been 3 weeks and 2 days and I'm itching to take a pregnancy test.
me and my partner have been naughty and not waited very long to try again despite what it says online about waiting untill your next period.
i don't know how long to wait to take a test.
dont want to get my hopes up to high!
21/06/2017 at 09:34
Hi all, been a while since I posted as had forgotten all about it but just wanted to share my story to give you all hope! After this post I had a complete breakdown, I took everything out on my boyfriend and moved in with my cousin. although he was trying to help me so much and was being so loving and caring I just lashed out and was totally unfair! After realising what a huge mistake I'd made a month later I went back home and thank god he wolcomed me with open arms as he knew I just needed some space. After deciding it wasn't the right time to try again as I was still abit emotional and trying to just enjoy being back home we decided to put pregnancy on the back burner...but on the 4th October 2016 I was having a clearout in our bedroom and came across an unused test, instead of throwing it away I decided I'd just do it (no inclination I was pregnant what so ever) did it purely just because I was going to throw it out anyway, I put the test on the side and carried on tidying only to catch a glimpse of it about 5 mins later and there were the words ' PREGNANT 1-2 WEEKS'...safe to say I just stood there like a complete lemon in utter shock, I didn't know what to do. After going to the doctor it was confirmed that my little rainbow baby was growing just nicely. We were totally over the moon and as I'm writing this I'm currently sat here 21/06/2017 2 days overdue waiting for our little princess Lily-June to decide she's ready to meet us! I hope that my story has given you some hope as I honestly thought my world had ended after my miscarriag! There's light at the end of the tunnel I promise and me and my partner couldn't be happier!!
Love to you all xxxx
21/06/2017 at 09:37
I'd do one now but that's just because I'm totally impatient! If it comes back negative though I wouldn't give up hope, it might just be too early and I'd test again in a few weeks.
Fingers crossed for you xxxx
21/06/2017 at 16:02
just been reading your posts and I thought I would also share my story after a miscarriage.
I sadly miscarried early December and around the time of the bleeding I was also signed off 3 weeks off work. it lead up to xmas time so I was very emotional and unsteady with returning to work but I took it easy and kept positive.
I too was in the same boat, seeing all the signs of pregnancy but yet had negative results.
In January I found out I was pregnant again. Went to a reassurance scan at EPU and was told that we were expecting not one but two little miracles and I was further along then we thought. I must of fallen pregnant within two weeks of stopping my miscarriage bleed.
We did go through the stress and the worry of hoping both would stick and hitting that 12 weeks mark was a massive achievement.
I am now 27 weeks pregnant with two healthy baby boys growing (and kicking) away.
Don't ever loose hope. Everyone is different, some do take longer to conceive but never give up and always think positive. Christmas time I was very down about everything but I looked at the new year positively and little did I know that two babies were growing inside.
Take care ladies and lots of luck xXxX
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