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20/07/2013 at 22:00
Hi everyone! Im very new to this site, so we'll start with an introduction; My name is Amy, im a 21 year old wife and mother of 1. Dh and I are currently ttc baby #2.
While trying for our 2year old DD we quickly discovered that actively "trying" to conceive was just slowing things down, so we put the brakes on, relaxed a bit and took all of the stress out of our sex life - low and behold, the next month we got a bfp! So this time, we're just letting things take their own course and hoping AF takes a year-long holiday and leaves behind a sticky little bean. Speaking of AF, she was due 5 days ago and all we've had so far are bfns.
Dont want to get my hopes up yet, as I had a few complications last month which resulted in me in the operating theatre, so I guess that could have held old af up a bit this month. Hoping for the best though!
It would be really good to get to know all you ladies out there whether you're ttc or m2b so come say hi and share something! love and baby dust to all x
20/07/2013 at 23:27
I'm loitering around as a graduate from long-term ttc/pregnancy/due in August12 (we are very fortunate!). Our dd is now 11 months and I would love to start ttc for number 2. Although its not ideal financially, nor practically (we have a small 2 bed house) and I would like to spend more time enjoying our much-longed for 1st child....BUT....I am 35 and as it took us 3 years to concieve our first, I am reluctant to leave it too long. I would prefer to compromise all of the above in order for our dd to have a sibling.
Anyway, I have just had my first af since concieving (excited!! I've not had many in the last few years) so we would have to actually start using contraception if we don't want to ttc. Not something I am used to, it feels so wrong! Don't actually think I can, so that might make the decision for us!
Also, I have "issues" down there also, and have been referred for a scan next month. I've had a fair bit of pain in my abdomen, so I am cocerned its something to do with my ttc problems. My other theory is that its my body trying to work, despite all my problems! As the pain did escalate when I may have ovulated.
Anyway, I have waffled enough. Glad to hear all your issues have been sorted out and good luck with your "relaxed" ttc!
20/07/2013 at 23:53
Ahh hello! Belated congrats on the birth of your dd, and also on your visit from af, hopefully on the right track for #2
I completely understand the financial complications as we're not exactly stable ourselves and also live in a tiny 2 bed shoebox haha! But we have decided to put all that aside and have come to the conclusion that baby #2 will be well worth any financial risks. Whatever happens, we'll manage
As for the down below issues, I havent a clue whats going kn! They did a laparoscopy and found that id been bleeding into my abdomen instead of erm, down there, so they cleaned me up and that was that. Havent told me what caused it or whether it'll happen again/cause any long term problems. So im a bit in the dark really, hence the confusion about late af. I think I'll test again on monday and if still bfn I'll make an appointment with the doc and see if she can shed some light.
Good luck for your scan next month, and I hope you get some good news really soon, they say the best way to try is to not try! Keep me posted x
21/07/2013 at 13:20
hello hun im lauren im 19 and 23 weeks pregnant i have my fingers crossed for you goodluck hope you get that bfp very soon how are you? xx
21/07/2013 at 14:14
Ahh Lauren thats lovely congratulations do you know if you're having a little boy or a girl yet?
Thankyou I cant wait to be peegnant again! And im not too bad thanks, will be better at 5pm when I finish work though haha. Hows pregnancy treating you? xx
21/07/2013 at 14:28
thanks hun and yeh im a having a little boy
its okay hun aww bless haha not bad quite good latley thanks for asking when are you going to test? make sure you update me xx
21/07/2013 at 18:50
Aww bless bet you're so excited, so happy for you! I tested on thurs and yesterday morning and both bfns, thought af had arrived today at work so ran to the loo and still nothing. HcG is supposes to double every 2 days during pregnancy if I remember correctly so I'll test again tomorrow and if still bfn I'll have to book an appointment with the doc and get a blood test and maybe some answers! Its so frustrating though as dh is adamant that im pregnant and when I tell him my doubts he just accuses me of being negative, then refuses to talk about it anymore. He just sees a missed period as a good sign, cant seem to understand that I havent had one since my op so if im testing bfn but still no period I need reassurance that everything's still working ok if you know what I mean? Crossing my fingers for a + tomorrow but if not then im hoping af arrives soon so I know im still in working order lol crazy that im ttc and im actually hoping I DO get my period, should be the other way round! God, I do waffle. Sorry haha xx
21/07/2013 at 21:06
yes i cant wait after having 2 miscarriages and one a missed mc it was really hard untill about 16 weeks dont worry hun its good for you to get it off your chest and men dont understand us like other women i would say i hope you get a positive hun make sure you book doctors and they will test and take your blood do you feel like af is going to a arive i did have alot of period cramps and discharge tmi so thought was period and nope it wasent it was my little boy inside xx
21/07/2013 at 21:17
Ok tmi alert:
last saturday (2 days before af due) I had cramps low down and in my back, thought af was on her way, by the next day they had gone. Since then ive had discharge everyday ranging from watery to stretchy, and mild cramps here and there, also had a random bout of diarrhoea (VERY unusual for me I havent had it since I was a young child) on thursday. Everytime I cramp I think this is it, af's rearing her ugly head - then it's a no show again everytime. Its been almost 3 years since I fell pregnant with dd so I cant really remember the early signs, or if I even had any! I only remember noticing them after I got my bfp. Confused! Xxx
21/07/2013 at 22:28
Im TTC number 2 after i lost beging of july
Im worried il start planing our sex life round dates!
I have a beautiful little boy aged 11 months who is my world and would love to give him a little brother or sister,
My next af is due in a week or so as i still had both of my af whilst pregnant and going through my m/c im hoping my body has already recoved and my partner and me are very active as we soooo want a possitive result....
Its so hard the m/c didnt really hit me hard as i was yold there was never a heart beat i had 2 early scans so they where able to show me at 6 and 7.4 weeks no heartbeat.
I feel guilty as i know alot of people go through hell qhe they m/c but i didnt....i hope that dont make me sound hartless or cold?
I just want a possitive out come soon would love to be in the 2014 baby boom
21/07/2013 at 22:44
So sorry to hear about your m/c sarah, feeling the way you do is not at all heartless or cold. Everyone deals with loss in their own way and if you've found a way to cope with this then thats great and its not for anyone else to judge anyway! Apparently you're 40 percent more fertile after a m/c so lots of baby dust for you and fingers crossed that this is your month.
My dh and I didnt want a sex life based around dates either so this time round we're just sooo relaxed, worked for us last time haha! 8mths of tracking and testing and bfn after bfn, then as soon as we stopped trying so hard I fell pregnant with dd good luck to you sweetie! xxx
21/07/2013 at 23:49
That sounds like a good plan iv gone on dates this month but next month i wont be able to....i have my mum staying with us for 2 weeks from devon im in scotland and then we are down in devon for a week so wont be trying next month, it will be september again beforw we try so i think il give the dating thing a miss for a few months see if that helps
Oh rite 40% i didnt know it was that much
Maybe il be shocked next weekend....just maybe xx
22/07/2013 at 00:20
Im not sure if 40 percent is right or not, I just read it somewhere, can still hope though lol!
Aww fingers crossed for this weekend, if no bfp this month then just try again!
For next month why not just estimate your ovulation date, try (very quietly so mum doesnt hear haha) having sex 1 or 2 days before your ovulation, then let it slip from your mind until af is almost due so theres still a good chance but no stress. Its always made sense to me to have sex a day before ovulation as it gives the swimmers time to er, swim. So when you ovulate they'll already be there waiting and hopefully bam! Fertilisation
Im going to test again tomorrow so I'll post results as soon as. Keep me updated xxx
22/07/2013 at 07:57
Thank you Bellasmummy il see what i can do for next month if i dont get my result for this.month lol
Good luck with the testing i hope u get the result u want xx
22/07/2013 at 13:41
I did a cbd this morning and still bfn seeing the doc tomorrow. Hope you're ok hun xxx
22/07/2013 at 15:17
Have u done a first reaponce thay are ment to be better than cbd
Im ok today peeing like a race horse so hoping its another early sign the weekend cant come fast enough of my to test! Away to but my first responce kits thursday as they r on offer in boots at the moment
22/07/2013 at 17:29
Hi Sarah! Soo lovely to see you back on here and ready to try again! Everything crossed for you hun! Xx
22/07/2013 at 18:37
Thank you ickle katie its like lets go go go at the moment lol
The docs think my m/c was when i bled for 15 days and my af which was due on 7th of july came as normal and i bled for 6 days so iv left it 1 cycle and im ready to try again
Excited and nervious at the same time xx
22/07/2013 at 21:52
No I havent done a fr, but going to docs tomorrow anyway so will ask for a blood test to confirm. Sounds positive for you! xx
23/07/2013 at 00:07
Hope so bellasmummy but iv been having period like pains in my left side tonight....
Some people are saying maybe im ovulating later due to m/c yet some people are saying maybe in ovulated early im so lost right now i just want a sticky bean xx
Good luck at docs tomoz
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