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23/10/2014 at 16:08
Hi, I had a natural miscarriage last Friday 17th October. So so traumatic, nothing can prepare you for what you are going through at the time can it! I wish that you were forewarned what may happen if and when you miscarry, then it wouldn't be such a mad dash to A&E and everything...
My bleeding stopped on Monday night/Tuesday morning before I went for the scan to double check all had passed, the scan was clear and my body is thankfully fine, no signs of infections or anything worse, so basically all the Drs etc were saying as soon as we feel like it, to try again as soon as we are mentally ready - I was also told no need to wait until a period has taken place, as this is an old fashioned method started before we had invented scans!!
We are nervous at the moment, scared incase we fall pregnant (as we catch on quite quickly being a good match) and it all happening again. Anyone else been nervous too? Or were you straight back in the game so to speak!
Big hugs to you all, now having gone through a miscarriage at 11+4 weeks I know how heartbreaking this is...
23/10/2014 at 16:25
Hi alfiesmummy... So sorry that you have had to experience this terrible heartache! As you can see from my ticker, i have been through this twice... It is such a traumatic thing physically & emotionally. my first was tough because we were just not expecting it at all...with my second, we had had scans at 6 & 8 weeks which were good... Even had the sound put on so we could hear the heartbeat at 8 weeks & told to stop worrying as all was perfect.
What I can tell you is yes... The thought of conceiving again is the scariest thing in the world... I am so scared of getting pregnant again because of the thought of possibly losing another... BUT... Despite that, the huge desire to be a mum overtakes the fear of pain again. I think even those women who have no children on this earth but have lost babies are already mums & feel / act that way... We will do anything... Risk pain & loss for the sake of our children (past & to be).
everyone is different of course... Take as much time as you need to heal & do what you need to... Whether that be talking to oh / friends / family / here or bereavement counselling. Stay healthy physically & try to get yourself in a strong place emotionally so that you can face the inevitable anxiety if you do decide to try again.
take care & if you need to talk... I am always here x
23/10/2014 at 19:02
06/11/2014 at 15:18
Hi again, I am ready to try again, but Hubby is too nervous to even think about falling pregnant again...
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