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23/10/2012 at 10:59
23/10/2012 at 11:01
23/10/2012 at 11:25
It honestly drives me crazy knowing that some people dtd once and bam they're pregnant!! My cousin was using condoms and she got caught, they even contemplated having a termination but realised it was meant to be.
Once you start this journey it's very hard to stop thinking about it and stop trying because ttc should be such an exciting time! yeh right, for the first couple of months!!!! and each 2ww you think this could be it!!
I've found that because of the internet there's nothing I don't know about fertility and ttc and like you say you really get to know what your own body is doing.
It's good to know all your tests are fine and the docs do say if you dtd every 2-3 days it will happen. I'm still waiting 13 months later!! (I am 40 though)
wishing you lots of luck xx
23/10/2012 at 13:46
Dya know hwat - i was going to post about this aswell! I am on month 6 and starting getting paranoid which is ridiculous as it only took 3 months last time and to be honest month 1 of that wasn't really trying properly. I keep googling secondary infertility and researching whether my csec will have had an effect. It's so difficult to just switch off to it isn't it!!
Although - the month I fell pg - i was really busy at work and hardly thought about it so there is something in that. BUt to replicate that is ipossilbe lol. I am very busy at work now but still think about it every second of the day!!
Sorry there was no advice there - but like carioke said - at least the tests are fine. x
23/10/2012 at 16:21
23/10/2012 at 16:31
Oh it's impossible - if you're trying for a baby, you're trying for a baby!! But you can take it easier by DTD every 2-3 days rather than manically doing body temps/opks I guess it makes it a bit more 'natural'?
We're in month 5 now too and never thought it'd take this long, I think the initial excitement of 'trying' has definitely subsided now and i've calmed down a lot now I realise that just because I have sex at the right time i'll be pregnant. Every month that passes though I also sort of think that i'm more likely to be pregnant this month if you know what I mean because i've already been trying for a while. The average is 5 months isn't it so i kind of think this month will be it......but really no more likely than any other month!! x
23/10/2012 at 18:37
23/10/2012 at 22:51
24/10/2012 at 10:24
Well I am CD21 - I got my smiley on CD18 and I THINK I ovd on CD19 - but we are dtd again tonight just to be on the safe side lol. I foind wen I looked back at my charts that I was dtd up to ov but then not after . . .so thought I would make sure both sides of ov were covered this time lol!
Like you said - I know it's daft and we should chill but it's so hard!!! I did well last month until 2 days before AF when I went out and bought some supermarket tests ha. I even tried to use my ov sticks to see if they would show up a potential pegnancy lol.
I just keep giving my self reasons each month to not be down about it - like if we got caught this month, it woud actually be v bad timing for maternit - as I am a teacher. But i'll still get upset I imagine.
Ah well - I guess it will happen when i'ts meant to!
24/10/2012 at 11:00
Generally it means taking the focus off 'wanting a baby' which can actually have a negative impact when DTD as both you & your OH start focusing on 'needing to' rather than 'wanting to'.
The normal cycle of a woman will see you most fertile shortly after your AF ends, a point at which most OHs are only too happy to DTD as many will have gone without whilst AF was around. Take time out to remind yourselves why you're together, what it is you love about each other, enjoy a romantic evening & let yourselves get lost in each other (nature will do the rest).
It will happen when you don't 'expect' it too. Best wishes & lots of babydust.
03/11/2012 at 14:12
It does start to get fustrating though I've been trying for nearly 3 years (2 years and 8 months) and sex does become a mission for ensuring that the sperm meet the egg... Lust is replaced with babymaking, plus you have the extra worry of trying to have sex in a timely way so that you do it around ov and not as often or mor than often... I completly sympathise with you all.... I just hope I get my BFP soon as I really dont want to do IVF in April I am dreading the needles...
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