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19/04/2013 at 20:44
19/04/2013 at 20:45
20/04/2013 at 09:00
I would say I had a lot of the same worries as you before having my Son.
I would worry about my job, money, space etc. This is definitely a personality thing too and something typical for high achievers/worriers too. You are used to having life work around hard work and planning.
Jobs, studies etc all work like this but families don't.
You do need to plan in terms of making sure it isn't completely the wrong move and you wouldn't be completely without the necessary to survive but I think with children the plan doesn't need to be perfect. You also see how things never become perferct for a baby.
In terms of career, I worry about this still. But you can ALWAYS pick up a career if you are that way inclined. What you will find is that it for having children there is a window and it takes a while and that window is a different size for different people and you won't know how big yours is until you try.
If you were to go back to work you would still need to justify your career break as you would after having had a baby. Study would be harder and you might have to put anymore off for a bit but once your child is older or even left home you will have time for this.
It is true it is very hard to have your first baby without family and friends nearyby. I would say especially without family. But people living in the UK still have this problem (we are 100 miles form closest family) due to work so I don't think it is an LA thing.
My advice would be go with your heart. If you know the finances work and it feels like it could be a good time then do it. You will always work it out.
To do this thought you will need to not worry about things being exactly right and go with the flow.
Good luck x
20/04/2013 at 09:03
Ps: I forgot to say that you also don't know how you will feel once a baby arrives.
It is no doubt a pressure on your relationship but also a fantastic experience.
People often feel differently about work after too. I have lots of friends who wanted to be SAHMs and then found they needed something for themselves to stay sane and also career minded friends who wanted to go back full time and now happily stay home.
Its very unpredictable
Personal experience is I thought I would want to work mainly but I have found I am hapiest working just 3 days a week.
22/04/2013 at 21:56
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