ok i temp, i use a cbfm and i use cb digital opks

i also use IC opks !

im an addict

i have cycles that are totaaly unpredictable and up the wall crazy

however this month has broken me with my scan etc.

so i want to take a break and not do any of that stuff, but how do you do it ?

how do you just stop ? im an addict i like POAS, it would be unnatural now after this long to not take my temp ?

I am sorry that you are feeling broken :( (Sending a big internet weirdy hug) 

Not sure how your going to stop doing all that. Can you put it in a shoe box and get your H to hide it, so you don't know where it is and it's out of your sight? Might help take your mind off it if you can't see it everywhere?

Plan things, keep busy, dont come on here! It worked for me for a bit. I also try not to come on here too much just in case. I turn off fb notifications for certain groups too.

Good luck. Talk to me whenever you need to xxx

Agree with Rod, Trying to come off here too :)!

Sorry that you are feeling this way.

I had to take a six month break because of the molar pregnancy. At first it was hard being told I couldn't TTC - in fact it broke me. But then I made sure we had lots of plans. We saw friends, went on holiday, I redecorated. I gave away my CBFM and sticks to a friend, all my pregnancy books went to another friend,  I stopped coming on here. I unsubscribed from people who insisted on putting endless updates about their pregnancy on Facebook. I joined the gym and started to lose weight.

I can honestly say the break has done me the world of good. It's hard at first but it's brought me and H closer - we are not DTD to order! AF doesn't bring tears.

I am at the end of my six months in September. I'm trying not to think about it. Won't be tracking, temping Or POAS. I'm (hopefully) just going to see what happens. I know it sounds easier said than done but once you get it into your head that your not or can't try it does get easier.

Hugs. Xx

I agree with GB. I think if you decide that you really want a break from it all, then youv'e got to try and focus on other things in your life.

I'd try and stay off md, I'd also do what Rod said and turn off the notifications on any Facebook groups you're in.

It's not easy, but you can do it if you really have to/really want to.

Hugs for you Monnie.x

thanks ladies, iv just spoken to hubby about it, and he disagrees he thinks i should carry on as we are so close to our GP referral to the fretility centre he thinks the more data i have got and the more current it is will help us !

When do you go back to the gp? If its very soon then I would perhaps agree with your hubs. As long as its not going to drive you mad in the mean time?

i was supposed to go on saturday but i cancelled it as i didnt feel up to it, ill probably book an appt once AF shows. i really just dont think i can do it right now

Oh sweetheart, which bit don't you feel able to do? The doctors or the ttc?

It's so hard all this ttc, I just wish we could press a button or wave a magic wand to fix it all.

i think its a bit of both. every time Af arrives it reminds me of another aspect of my life that im failing at.

my doctor totally disregards me, and never listens to me or my concerns.

basically i see an endocrinologist at the hospital for my PCOS, he said i need to see my GP for a referral to fertility for clomid and the gynea department to make sure everything else is alright.

that was in November last year.

when i saw my GP she disregarded everything he had said and told me i had to wait a year. i went back after 6 months begging to be referred and still told me to go away.

iv now got a copy of the guidelines that say people with a known fertility issue should be referred under a year. but im so disheartened by her that i dont want to go and ask.

Monnie, I am so sorry your doctor is not helping you, is it a large practice could you ask to see a different GP. When my husband has had health problems in the past the response from different GPs in the same practice has varied hugely, from chocolate teapot to supportive.

TTC is very draining, I really hope things start to look up for you soon x

the thing is iv checked on the clinics website and she is the only one who is trained in obstertricians, so i feel like when she finally agrees she will be able to offer me the best advice?

It's a tough one if she's the most experienced. Am I right in thinking that once you've been referred then you would be seen by a consultant for sll the fertlity stuff?  So would it matter so much if a different gp referred you? All I'm thinking is, that if it shaves 3 months off you waiting, I think i would fight tooth and nail to get referred earlier. It that means seeing a different gp and taking the guidelines with you, or writing to your pct to complain that the guidelines say one thing but your gp says another.

Yes I think what Imp says makes sense, if she is going to refer you to someone else for treatment then does it matter what experience she has in this area?

It may be better to have someone who offers more understanding or emotional support.

i guess so ! ok once Af arrives ill make an appt.

thanks ladies xxx

Anyway, hopefully you won't be making an appt if AF doesn't arrive!

Imp

Anyway, hopefully you won't be making an appt if AF doesn't arrive!

This defnitely!!

Monnie what Imp and Dolly says. Half the battle is having a good GP. Mine openly admitted she didn't know what a molar pregnancy was (it's fairly uncommon) but she has read up on it and done extra research. She rang me to see how I was after the ERPC and has been an absolute rock. I won't see anyone else. It doesn't matter what your doc is an expert in as she won't be the one who treats you. Might be worth seeing someone else.

Also hoping AF doesn't show for you. Xx

thanks ladies xx