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12/12/2013 at 15:06
I'd had a busy week at work and thought I was ok but today I got a Congratulations your 12 weeks pregnant email! and it hit me I should of been at my 12 week scan today, it brought me back onto this website and I've been crying for an hour reading the sad MC stories ...
I had a early scan at 10 weeks but there was no heartbeat, my little baby had died at 7.6 weeks, the hospital booked me in the following day. The hours waiting were sad and very confusing, because I had no bleeding I felt that my baby was holding on and wanted to be inside me, it just seemed weird and not real. The next day I didn't go down to theatre till 11pm because the maternity ward had emergencies as I was upset the lovely nurses put me in a side room to wait, everyone was so kind.
Happily married for 18 years with a DD age 17 and DS age 11, I always said I'd only have 2 children then from nowhere I suggest trying for a baby, at 41 years old I shocked myself how excited I was and my family were thrilled when after 8 months of trying I found out I was pregnant.
Following my MC I have 2 thoughts playing on my mind now
1) I should be grateful for the 2 healthy children I have and my body was telling my I'm too old and stop being silly!
2) My husband heard the ratio of 1in 4 pregnancies are MC's. Looking on the positive side I've had my 1 and number pregnancy 4 could be a bundle of joy. Ofcourse I know many ladies suffer lots of MC's and my heart now more than ever goes out to them.
My main question is now I've stopped bleeding do I really have to wait 2 months to try again and if I did catch quickly does this cause any long term damage to the baby? I'd hate to be told my baby had a problem because I didn't wait but because of my age if I do decide to try again the sooner the better.
Thank you for reading my post and all your stories have been a good support today x
13/12/2013 at 00:06
hi huni didnt want to read and run, i think they say wait a few months so your cycles can settle and it makes dating again easier.
im sorry to read about your loss, but its nice to read that the midwifes looked after you well xx
i had a m/c june/july this year and found out i was pregnant again in november but sadly for me its not looking too good again, iv had 2 scans 1 showed just a sac the 2nd 5 days later showed a sac and yoke but the last week iv been bleeding and today i passed 3 blood clots so i have a scan tomoz to see if there is a heart beat or not, by my periods i should be almost 8 weeks but by the scan im just coming up to 7 weeks.
13/12/2013 at 10:39
Thank you for talking Sarah x
I never imagined how ladies felt after a MC, now I do and I send you heart felt best wishes for now and your future xx
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