Hi all,
My OH and I already have a daughter (who wasn't planned), but he was so happy about becoming a dad and always wanted kids. Our daughter is now coming up for 2 years old, and we always said we would start trying for our second child around her 2nd birthday, so they would be born when she is around 3 years.
In recent months, my husband has found out he is going to MD'd from the army, and potential amputation of his leg. Obviously this is a very stressful time for him and we both agreed we would put off having another child until everything else had settled.
However, we were having a random conversation the other day and he is now saying he is happy with just the one child, and why do I feel our daughter "isn't enough". I feel really unhappy about this. Obviously I know there are more pressuring issues to deal with currently, and although I wasn't happy about putting our original plans on hold, I accepted that there were more pressing issues with his job/leg. But now to be told he doesn't want another one at all has completely broken me, as we had always said we would have two.
I'm guessing the pressure of everything that is happening may have got to him, but I'm just surprised seeing as I am one of 4 and he is one of three. Whenever I mention kids he just gets annoyed with me so I didn't mention it for ages, until of course he raised that he is happy with just one child.
I don't really know what to do; as I said to him, I don't want one NOW, but expect to have one in the future. There is 5+yrs age gap between me and my siblings and I always made it clear that I didn't want a large age gap between our daughter and the next one, as me and my siblings aren't particularly close, but at the same time I don't want her to be an only child.
Any advice from anyone who has been in similar situations would be great!
Kel