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11/06/2015 at 09:22
Hello ladies, I'm in need of your help. I am totally and utterly clueless and have read so much my head is spinning! I've never really wanted children and then this year the overwhelming broodiness has arrived and i'm now in the space place you all are! Does anyone else think it's totally ludicrous to say you should have sex every other day, or is that just me.... (obviously I love my hubby but life is stressful)
basically i came off the pill at the end of last year and my periods are regular but they're never the same amount of days apart (i am learning this is the cycle?) - so when on earth do i know i am ovulating in order to get pregnant, and do i have sex when i am ovulating or before? I am so clueless so sorry for annoying post
11/06/2015 at 09:24
Oh and I've put various details into various online ovulation calculators who are saying different days... so am very confused!
11/06/2015 at 11:18
Hi and welcome to the confusing sometimes frustrating but greatly rewarding world of trying to conceive . I have been ttc for 11 months and have gathered a fair amount of info but I am no expert at this so I'll try and break it down for you
1) Ovulation- This occurs usually in the middle of the cycle but its different for everybody. Your best bet at trying to catch your ovulation date is OPK (Ovulation predictor kits) These are small tests that you have to take every day if possible twice a day from the last day of your period till you find your surge.This way you can pin point exactly when you are ovulating .
2) Doing the deed ! - Contrary to the belief that you have to do it everyday or every other day it is advised that doing it even once every 3 days is acceptable. Do it 5 days before possible ovulation then you can choose to do it once again after 3 days and then the day before ovulation . This can however be changed up based on your mood. I find its best to go with the flow. Just make sure you have done the deed at least 2 days before ovulation. Doing it on the day of ovulation is not a bad idea either its just its better that the egg is released when sperm is already in the body as opposed it having to travel and then reach the egg.
3) Let nature do its work: Honestly no matter how hard we try to pin point ovulation and match the deed with the timing its all upto nature. You can do everything right and yet not fall pregnant on that cycle . I also suggest you try 1 month trying and one month off where you dont do any opks and just go with the flow. Ttc can put a lot of stress on a couple especially if you dont conceive immediately. Just take a step back once in a while . Hopefully i answered all your questions without it being too long.
11/06/2015 at 12:09
Thank you so much, I feel a bit emotional that someone has even replied, and you have been really helpful, so thank you so so much. MandyN I hope you get the baby you deserve xxx
11/06/2015 at 13:19
Aww thats sweet of you..Good Luck
11/06/2015 at 15:26
let me break it down easy for you. I go pregnant SO easily. I downloaded a "period tracker" from the play store on my phone and kept up with putting in the exact day my period started & ended. It also tells you when you're ovulating. I had sex the day before it said, the day of, as well as the day after. and BOOM the next month, I took a test because I was 3 days late on my period and it said "pregnant" its worth a try, it worked so well for me and my boyfriend.
12/06/2015 at 17:08
Hi, you could also try monitoring the cervical mucus - not as bad as it sounds promise x
For a few days each month your cm will go like the white of an egg, thick and stretchy ( enouch to stretch between fingers an inch or two), and this is usually just before you ovulate so if you DTD when you see this you should be good to get his swimmers in place for ovulation.
I have used this successfully and know its worked for others
One nurse told me to know when the egg is ready (ovulation) look for broken eggs! Its much easier than opks as you can check the tp when in the loo!
Best wishes x
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