Just received an email telling me that a close friends is pg......omg I am so upset ....and can I be honest? I feel so jealous and not happy for her at all. God I am a bitch. I feel so unheppy, I am just so gutted. I just want to run away :cry:

(((((((hugs)))))))

You are not a bitch at all. You have just gone through a really traumatic time and lost your baby - it is only natural to feel upset and jealous, honestly. It hasn't been long at all since your MC and I am sure that in time you will be happy for your friend.

Sitting with you, sending support and understanding.

Go easy on yourself.

Take care, NN xx

[Modified by: NattyNik on October 22, 2008 01:03 PM]

Thanks NN.....just feel so down but i feel that even my hubby thinks i am being silly ......i feel that he is sick of my tears...but thats prob me being para bcos he has been nothing but supportive.

anyway .....

xxxx

I know what you mean. I was so sure that everyone was sick of hearing me crying and talking about the 1st MC. Sometimes I think that men and women just have different ways of dealing with things...as women we tend to need to talk about it a lot more and analyse everything. I am sure that you husband doesn't think you are silly at all.

Have you thought about having a bit of counselling? I saw someone a few times after my 1st MC and it just helped to get my thoughts and feelings in order and to have someone to answer my questions (although of course not all can be answered sadly). I think it just helps to have someone who isn't emotionally involved hear you.

I also bought a book called 'Miscarriage: women sharing from the heart'. It was REALLY helpful and made me feel much less alone. It also has a really good part in for partners and family members to help them understand that everything you are going through (your emotions and thoughts etc) are perfectly normal.

Take care, NN xx

I have thought about talking to someone but I have tried to get on with it myself. I thought I was doing really well until today.

I am 28 yrs old and acting so irrational....I feel so mean to not be happy for her. I do not wish anything bad on her pregnancy at all but I just feel so jealous.

Thank you for your advice and kind words and I am looking for that book as we speak.

How you feel is totally understandable. I feel on a knife edge all day every day, just waiting to hear someone else I know is PG. I just don't know what I would do if it happened. I couldn't be happy about it- I just couldn't, and I would feel like the biggest bitch for that

A friend found out she was PG the same time as I did and I haven't been able to see her since my ectopic as I'm so jealous I feel sick, and it would break my heart. Apparently when I came out of hospital she wanted to come see me and her mum told her not to. I'm glad she did. My op was four weeks ago Monday just gone and I still can't bring myself to go to the pub as I know she will probably be there

Big hugs xx

Hi Kimmy - its such an awful feeling. I actually wish all my friends had kept it from me - i'd rather be in te dark on this one!

i wld be the same as you and not go down the pub!! :\(

xx

Yes I would probably feel the same about wanting to not know

Did they just come out with it, or did they tell you nicely as though they realised it might be hard for you? x

Yes I would probably feel the same about wanting to not know

Did they just come out with it, or did they tell you nicely as though they realised it might be hard for you? x

One girl just emailed me - like it was just gossip. ButI have told her now that it really upset me - so hopefully she will be more sensitive next time! x

A few of my friends are pregnant but where further along that me, and inside i am upset and so jealou and question why is there baby still there and mine isnt. but i could never let them know this is how I feel, I love my friends and it isnt there fault i m/c'd so I just try make life much easier for everyone and just pretend, but to my oh tell him how i feel and that gets it all out so my head doesnt explode! and don't worry too much, i believe in fate and that things just arent ment to be, the sticky bfp will come to you when the time is right and you'll see that soon xx

Thanks hun,

And thank you for putting it in perspective for me! It isnt anyones fault especially my friends...and I tell you what they have been great, so I shouldnt be too harsh on them.....well my AF is coming to an end so fingers crossed for this month !!! xxxx