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03/08/2015 at 14:16
im looking for some advice. Me and my husband have been trying for a baby for a few months now and I'm struggling to keep positive. Things are starting to change as I'm a full time student and my husband is just about to start university in September. We are still working so I'm not worrying about money as such I'm just worrying about both being full time students and with a baby. Is this the right time to have a baby?
I am going into my second year of university so I know it will be a lot harder than first year. My husband has said he will help and support me to stay in university but I just worry when baby is here and we both have exams or whatever. Has anyone been through this?
03/08/2015 at 14:50
There will never be a right time but you both sound very busy at the moment. If you're both still young (which it sounds like you are) then it might make sense to wait til your studies are over. At the end of the day though, only you know what's right for you and your husband
03/08/2015 at 14:52
my friend is a full time student and works, she is about 6 months pregnant. I want to warn you though, a few years back in the same exact situation she is now, she got really stressed. She told me her stress was so bad it caused the cord to dry up and it killed her son at 8 months
03/08/2015 at 15:57
I think everyone has a different ' right time', my mom told me children come when they are ready and no amount of preying will make it happen any sooner! And after years TTC I know she's right!
As to studies...I had my kids earlier than my sil who went thru 3 yes at uni...I had the late nights with baby and she partied! Now however my oldest is 17 doing his own studies and I'm happy to be working p/t while being a mom to all 5 kids and expecting #6, my sil however chose to work 50 hour weeks, she has had 2 kids but apart from holidays she is a pretty hands off mom. They are delivered and collected from school and do after school activities with a childminders, my sil barely has time to say goodnight in the week.
My bro also went thru uni and works long hours but also away a lot so his time with the kids is very precious and often daddy fun days etc are activity packed.
My point is - have kids when you feel ready, in life nothing is gaurenteed. If your long term goals including a family the go for it. Everyone struggles at some point - job / career changes or illness etc just support each other and move forward as one, if the life u want need uni then do it x everyone's life goals are different - I wanted a huge family and to be at home as much as possible....my sil wanted a career and a family and they make it work best for them...we sacrificed a big house and a high end car that they have for extra kids and I wouldn't swap lives for anything but u have to be true to yourself and do what's right and what works for u x
Sorry for the essay but sometimes it needs to be discussed
03/08/2015 at 17:32
Thanks for all the messages. I have just turned 21 so I would hope I Still have plenty of time. I'm just worried to wait until after my studies and maybe have problems trying to get pregnant. I don't want to rush into anything so I suppose when the time right I'll know.
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