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15/10/2012 at 18:16
So I had a miscarriage last month. I was 12 weeks but baby stopped developing at 5weeks. I am a nurse in the Military. I understand that misscariages happen for lots of reasons...usually reasons that are out of our control. However my GP has told me that when I want to try again (which is right away) I should ask my boss to carry out a pregnancy risk assesment to ensure I no longer work 12 hr shifts or take part in Physical Training etc. He advised that as soon as I start trying I be downgraged to give me a better chance of carrying a baby and that the stresses and physical strains of my job are not conducive to a healthy pregnancy! Very helpful Dr. However the reality is that I dont want to tell my boss that I am pregnant until I have had a 12 week scan which confirms that the baby is well! This means I will continue to work 12 hr shifts and continue to take part in PT at 7am with everyone else. If I dont take part in the PT it will be obvious why...people will ask questions. Yes the Dr will downgrade me but they are not the most subtle with their gradings and being medical myself it is a very small world.... gossip central!!! As well as nursing and Military duties there are also the extra duties which we do outside of our nursing roles. At the moment these are really stressing me out and making me totally misserable!
So is being pregnant and being in the military really a healthy option? So many of my friends have miscarried... some more that once! All of them military and all of them in busy stressful positions! I try not to let things wind me up but i come home feeling so stressed some days and Im sure that next time the stress will be cause of another miscarriege. I intend to put my notice in next month (earliest opportunity) which will allow me to leave this time next year. However in the mean time if i become pregnant am i putting myself at risk of another MC?
Thanks for allowing me to rant/vent here!! xx
16/10/2012 at 19:41
I don't really have anything productive to say hun just didn't want to read and run!! My hubby is in the royal engineers we live on the patch so am well aware of army life etc.. I have female friends who are soldiers and can't imagine doing their jobs whilst pregnant, I struggled going to work as a receptionist at the doctors surgery (busy but on my bum most of the day fortunately lol!) I also work in the pharmacy however when I was pregnant before my mc I had to have a risk assesment as I couldn't climb the steps to get to higher shelves for patients prescriptions. There were also medications that I was unable to handle- so a lot of people at work knew I was pregnant before I would have liked to announce!
I have one friend who has just gone back to work after mat leave, she is in the army but is a clerk so not the same situation I know- but I do know she had to take her mat leave fairly early...
It must be such a worry for you and an extra one that you don't need espescially with everything else. If I were you I would want to be downgraded and let the gossip happen, people should respect that you don't want to make it public knowledge/talk about it openly until you are past a certain point in pregnancy.. Dealing with gossip but being able to take it easy far outweighs the alternative lovie xx
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