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23/03/2015 at 10:02
happy Monday everyone!
im just about to go to sleep after my third night shift
looks like we've been fortunate in a horrible way it's a week since I found out we were pregnant and I've already got my bfn to prove the miscarriage is over. I've called the doctor to inform them but they don't need to see me which is another blessing. Hope everyone has a lovely day xxxx
23/03/2015 at 10:29
Hi all. Happy Monday, if there is such a thing!
Luna - glad that you have the BFN, sounds like a weird thing to say but you can move forward now. I have everything crossed for you for when you decide to start again and I hope that emotionally you're doing ok.
AFM - had my scan at the clinic, we're upping the dosage of the meds a bit to hopefully stimulate the growth of more follicles. The only thing is that we're flying to London right around the time of insemination so I'm hoping that my follicles grow a bit quicker than they have been doing so we can do the insemination before we go away! Otherwise we'll be trying naturally. I've also started to do fertility yoga in the mornings, I know that it is absolutely no guarantee to pregnancy but anything that can help us feel relaxed in this horrible journey I think is worth a shot. Decided not to go for acupuncture as they recommended two sessions a week which we don't really have the money for at the moment. The fertility yoga is all about being kind to yourself as well, there's lots of stuff about sending positive energy to your bits which I'm not sure I believe but if the meditative part of things will help my mindset then that's only a good thing in my opinion.
Non TTC wise I'm working from home this morning and the sight of my inbox made my heart sink. Not the amount of emails but the content of them. I really am being taken for granted here, I need to learn how to say no. I've done so today but am now worried that I'll be made to do something anyway. But people need to learn that I'm not just sitting here waiting for them to come through to me with last minute tasks. I don't feel supported either, I feel like I am expected to do it.
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23/03/2015 at 11:09
Happy Monday All!
Luna - that's good the BFN has showed up; what's your plans for now? I recall you saying you weren't trying when you got your BFP so will you do the same again; just see what happens? Hope you don't mind me asking. Huge huge hugs for you x
Enjayee - Good luck with the fertility yoga and upping the dosage of the meds; I hope something works for you this cycle. Re your work news, I feel a bit out of the loop due to my 'break' - where did things go with that other job? And the harassment that was happening in your current job?
AFM - I'm 3DPO as FF has just confirmed ov for Friday. Not holding out much hope really. Concentrating on the other things I want to get done. Have my first swimming lesson on Wednesday; seeing the personal trainer again on Saturday. Also hoping to get on to the driving phobia guy about my motorway driving. Have Pilates this afternoon which I've really come to love plus Zumba this evening so in great form really for a Monday!
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23/03/2015 at 15:02
Tayto - that didn't work out, unfortunately. Well, I say 'unfortunately' but it was in the sticks - I would have had to drive everyday, plus it would have been done in Danish. Not massive downers but it would have meant I couldn't walk or cycle to work, plus it goes without saying that I'm more comfortable in English. I need to chase feedback though - the recruiter just didn't contact me after the interview which I think is a bit off. The harrassment has stopped but mainly because one of the perpetrators is now on maternity leave. There aren't many jobs out here and to be fair, if it looks like it's the IVF road for us, it wouldn't be great to have a load of time off in the beginning of a new job. But we'll see. I'm slowly building up my Danish network (as in, people in Copehagen, not necessarily native Danes) which is important to have over here. And I'm trying to learn as much as I can out of hours which I can't learn here. I've neglected my learning a bit though recently - need to get back on it and I need to revisit my plan (I have a five year one in terms of career!). You sound a little down, am I right? Glad you've got other stuff you're focusing on. Huge hugs x
23/03/2015 at 16:01
Oh I'm sorry to hear that Enjayee - it's such a pity that there is so little out there. That's bad form on the recruiter not to contact you - I always push for feedback - even when I know the interview didn't go well! Good that the harassment has stopped although it doesn't feel very permanent, does it?! I know what you mean about not wanting to be taking time off at the beginning of a new job - when I first started in my job, I hated it and was really only holding out for the maternity but it got better over time & I like it a lot now.
I'm not that down to be honest - I think I was a lot worse! I just cannot understand why my husband won't do anything that was recommended for him - his response is 'I'm trying' but he's not really! Plus he keeps saying 'lets wait and see' which just drives me potty! I'm swaying between feeling angry or sorry for him!
23/03/2015 at 16:38
Honestly, it took the fertility doctor telling my husband that he should be taking multi-vits, upping his fish intake etc. - you might remember me ranting on here about how he wouldn't take a multi-vitamin when I was weeing in pots and taking three different tablets daily! But he's good as gold now (even though it took someone other than me to tell him) and things have improved. I hope your H sees the light soon. Feel free to use my H as an example!! The difference speaks for itself: September, practically 0 sperm; March, 30million post wash!! Only thing he's really doing differently is taking folic acid and a vitamin! Hope he comes around soon xx
23/03/2015 at 17:31
Just a quick one from me as I'm on my phone! Sorry I've been AWOL for a few days - work is manic.
Luna - glad you got the BFN. I hope you are doing as well as you can be lovely.
Enjayee - fingers crossed upping the dosage gets the follicles growing in time. Fertility yoga sounds great.
Tayto - hope you are ok. Sorry your H is being a bit rubbish. Hopefully he'll sort himself out soon enough!
AFM - CD10. Waiting for Ov. Nothing on the OPK so far which is a bit unusual but I'm sure it'll get here!
23/03/2015 at 19:11
Ooh enjayee I've never heard of fertility yoga! I'm pants at yoga and anything else that requires coordination tbh lol. My husband doesn't take any multi vits I wonder if that might help? Can't hurt really can it. Don't be afraid of saying no, you need to put yourself first, I can guarantee the people making demands of you are putting themselves first, your turn now lovely. That's horrifically bad form of the employers not to give feedback that's a huge bug bear of mine I actually feel quite positive, I'm obviously very sad, I look at C and think we've lost two children that could've been just as wonderful as she is and that's heartbreaking. But on the flip side I have her and that is the best comfort I could ask for, even if she is hitting the terrible two's a little early and has decided head butting me is the greatest form of entertainment ever I don't know how I haven't got a black eye.
Tayto we are basically not trying not preventing if that makes sense, but I'm going to continue taking folic acid as my folate is always a little on the low side anyway. Other than that I'm improving my diet and have an interview for a new job a week on Thursday. We are taking the approach that we are improving ourselves to make sure we are around for C as long as possible (we are both a bit on the chunky size although I've lost a stone in weight in the last month), I suppose because of our jobs we are both a bit health conscious although the takeaway tonight would suggest otherwise hahaha. If we manage to conceive again on the back of that we will both be thrilled. Other than that we have a plan to start actively trying again later in the year. I'm nearly 29 and I have a feeling my hormones have already begun to drop which worries me. We can obviously get pregnant, it's keeping the baby's sticky that seems to be the issue. Do you want me to come and slap your h with a wet fish? Big hugs lovely.
Sally Lou I don't normally ov until day 12-13 I wouldn't worry just yet. Fingers crossed hun xxxxxx
23/03/2015 at 19:14
Hey Sally - so was your last AF just a weird AF? Hope you get your +ve opk soon!
Also, tayto, I don't know how you guys split the cooking in your household but you could make lots of folate rich foods to accompany main meals. So spinach, kale, broccoli ... and lots of it! That's one thing my husband was very willing to do but because of the health reasons rather than folate ;) Best of luck honey, I know how rubbish it is when your husband doesn't want to play ball :( And honestly - please feel free to use my husband as proof, if it'll help! X
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