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29/11/2015 at 19:36
I'm 26 years old and have been married for 5 years. My husband and I are doing well in our jobs and make good money, we bought a new house and everything is going great except for the fact that I'm ready to start a family and my husband is petrified on the idea of having kids! He doesn't want to talk about it or even be near any kids. I tried several times to have a small conversation and maybe understand what is his point of view but he refuses to talk to me about it. His excuse is that everyone is pregnant right now and he doesn't want to be one more of the crowd.. I want him to be supportive and understand that this is very important to me. Is anyone else having the same problem or do you know what I can do ? I really don't want to leave my husband but I don't want a life without kids either And I'm starting to recent him for doing this to me..
30/11/2015 at 02:47
Did he ever want kids?
Didnt you talk about his before you got married?
30/11/2015 at 03:10
Yes, we talked about it before we got married and we both agreed that we wanted to have a couple years alone together before having kids. I finally was able to talk with him today and he said that he wants to wait at least 3 years or more. I really don't want to have kids on my 30's but I guess at least he is now accepting the idea of having kids in the future.
30/11/2015 at 03:39
That is super frustrating :(
At least he is on board with having kids though!
If you are waiting until you are 30, I would recommend both of you getting checked out to make sure everything is "workin" the way it should.
Just because you're waiting until you're older...
Best of luck to you! :)
30/11/2015 at 15:31
I completely understand the feeling, my husband and I have been together for 6 years we just recently got married but he also does not want kids. I actually think I might be pregnant now. So hopefully he will warm up to the idea and be supportive rather than push away.
30/11/2015 at 19:06
It's hard when u want it and he doesn't but this kind of happen to me my husband Wanted to wait till he pass a exam to try and I am 30 and he is 26 so I stop taking my pill and we got pregnant he was so happy so they come and round but couple weeks later I had a miscarges and now we are trying again so u never know what will happen ! alana good luck
01/12/2015 at 01:36
Thank you so much everyone for all the replies. I really don't want to wait until I'm 30.. I would like to have 2 kids before im 30!.. I stopped getting the shot 7 months ago and my husband knows that I'm not taking anything but he is very freaked out about it and he is being super careful when we are together... He told me he does wants kids but not now . I am running out of ideas of what to do or tell him to be on the same boat with me.. It is very frustrating because Im ready for kids and my husband is scared of Having kids.. does anyone have an idea of what I can do to convince my husband to start trying to get pregnant?
01/12/2015 at 16:52
Well we had our pregnancy scare, I am not pregnant. I started hurting yesterday and started my period lots of clots. And I took this test the morning after I started since I was curious and it said positive, darker lines this time. Dont know if it was a miscarriage or not. But I can say one good thing came from it. My husband seeing me so heartbroken so early on when I wasnt ever sure I was certainly made him view having kids as a good thing. So one small step in the right direction.
01/12/2015 at 19:10
I'm so happy that your husband in ready for kids and wish you guys the best . Hopefully you get pregnant very soon!! If you had a miscarriage I would recommend you to go to the doctor just to make sure that everything is ok... my husband is still against having kids and we haven't had any pregnancy scares because he is always very careful when we are together!..
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