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17/08/2013 at 02:10
I really want a baby, I'm soo clucky lately it's not even funny! I try to talk to my partner about having a baby (soon) and he doesn't want anything to do with it. It's so frustrating/upsetting and makes me feel worthless. The way he sees it in his head is ridiculous and if he keeps looking through that window I have no idea if we would ever have children.
Last night we were cuddling in bed for abit and I brought it up, the conversation didn't end very well... He smashed a few things into the wall, shouted at me and I ended up crying on the floor in front of the door.
I need help, I don't know what to do. I want a baby
Anyone have a stubborn partner like I do and somehow fell pregnant??
17/08/2013 at 07:19
i don't have any advice really chick, it's a decision that needs both of you to be on the same side for, just wanted to say be careful, sounds like he's got a temper on him. Has he given any specific reason for not wanting kids? X
18/08/2013 at 10:11
For the moment chick I'd forget about the 'wanting a baby' side of things & start looking at your relationship in more close focus. You are engaged to marry & yet there are obvious issues if a conversation about whether to start a family results in things being hurled against a wall (Why were things thrown? Is there a chance they could be directed at you/your desired children in future?) You need to start thinking hard about what you want 'long term' here. Is this partner really the one you want to spend your life with (knowing you may need to sacrifice certain things you want to make it work such as your desire for a family) or should you accept that you want different things & maybe go your seperate ways.
22/09/2013 at 20:17
Hi JessicaJones, Thats a difficult situation especially if when you talk about it ends up like that. Has he said why he is so against it. I think you need to think about your relationship and whether you can stay with someone who may never want to have children, especially if it is something you desparately want. Im sorry to hear how he reacted and i hope it works out for you
27/09/2013 at 19:01
It's difficult but you mustn't insist!
It's obvious that he'd love your child if you had one, but that kind of decision should be made by both of you equally, it's too important.
try to talk to him, maybe there is a reason..
30/09/2013 at 20:58
I dont get why his reaction is that strong! Smashing things an making you that upset over that kind of subject just doesn't seem 'normal' to me!
What exactly made him smash things up u said u were only talking about the subject of having a baby, i dont see how that could cause that kind of reaction.
I think u have two options tell him u feel strongly about this and no ur not going to change ur mind u want children, if he doesn't want them then u might have to leave this relationship an settle down with someone who reacts appropriately doesnt treat u disgustngly and doesnt makes u feel like sh!t!
Or u stay in the relationship an come to terms with the fact u might never have children with this man. U deserve to be treated better than that hun, no one should react like that.
Please DONT try and trap him an stop taking ur contraception an get pregnant on purpose without him knowing, that would be the worse thing u can do especially with the reaction he gave u just talking about it.
I hope everything works out but to be honest an maybe ill get shouted out or slated for saying this but i wouldnt want a baby with someone who is violent like that an makes u cry like that either xx
05/11/2013 at 14:27
21/11/2013 at 13:30
you really need to look at your relationship.... do you really want to bring a baby into this world with someone that cant even have a conversation about them without throwing his own toys out of the pram!
You both need to want a baby and if it is not an option for him ever...is he an option for you forever?
Big hugs and hope you resolve your issues. x
22/11/2013 at 16:17
Only just realised the date on his! oops
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