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06/07/2013 at 09:42
Hey all, I said we would seek medical help soon but I had to go to the docs yesterday over bad cramping and low back ache which hasn't stopped since my period started 2 1/2wks ago, period was only here for 2-3 days which is unusual for me and the cramping just continues, (so our ttc journey was mentioned sooner). She told me to book a smear to see the outcome of that, which I have done for next week :( I laid on the bed and she felt my belly and I said at one point I could feel pressure, but she didn't say anything about that.
She didn't seem at all worried about my age (40) and I mentioned that we had a positive in Nov and it wasn't a sticky and so we know we have done this before. She seemed to cover all the bases with me, making sure I'm taking Folic Acid and Vit D (we funnily both said Pregnacare at the same time as it covers everything) and to keep off Ibuprofen (I think she said) as it could cause early defects in the early days of carrying, gotta get there first haha! I said since we started ttc nearly a year ago I've only had Paracetamol.
She said the best way to ttc is to have plenty of 'how's your father' and to be relaxed and not stressed, she knows my family history and what we've been through these past 6 months and basically told me to get out there and chill and have a good time and forget about everything!
The doc said to give it til the end of the summer and if we aren't pregnant by then to come back and they will start running tests.
On another note, a friend at work (who knows about our history) has showed me her pregnancy test with 2-3 wks pregnant on it, cor, that really knocked me for six but I held it together and cried driving home (silly I know and much too green!). That will be difficult I think when she starts to show and when everyone else finds out, just gotta get on with it, don't you.
Has any one else had cramping when AF has gone and it feels full of pressure down there and it feels like AF will turn up anytime soon? I'm really worried about when it does turn up, what bl**dy pain will I be in then I wonder and will it still continue after AF has gone.
Thanks for reading, it's all jumbled up, that's how it is in my head right now, sorry :) xx
06/07/2013 at 11:38
I'm glad that your GP wasn't bothered by your age, and that you have a deadlie now for tests etc. That's all very positive.
Hope the cramps ease soon, did she give any indication at all as to what they could be? It could be part of your stress maybe? Stress and upset does funny things to our cycles. I remember when I was at school I once had AF for the entire six weeks summer holiday (well, mostly spotting, but at 14 it was terrifying). I was too embarrassed to tell my mum and then as soon as I got back to school it stopped. I can only assume that the change to my daily schedule had somehow whacked everything out of line. Fingers crossed that once you relax a bit (easier said than done!) then everything should go back to normal.
Big weirdy internet hugs x
07/07/2013 at 20:06
Hi LL, glad you've spoken to your doc and you are sounding more positive about things. Did you ever take a preg test this cycle? Just wondering seeing as things have been a bit different. Have you ever suffered from pcos? Hopefully It goes away soon love and is nothing untoward. X
08/07/2013 at 08:10
I just want to comment on the bit about your friend. Its totally normal to feel like that.
When my best friend told me she was pregnant (she had only given birth 9 months previous to a little girl), i broke my heart for about a week. My MC was still very raw to me so i don't think it was the best timing for me. It was hard seeing her with the bump, trying to be interested in what she talked about etc, and i was dreading the birth of her new little girl, but honestly, it was fine, i was very brave and i really surprised myself.
In February my bro decided to tell me i was to be an aunty again, again i broke my heart, went on a bit of a breakdown i would say, i made myself ill. My OH wanted me to go to the doctors ot effected me that much. But one day it just kinda clicked, thats my niece or nephew, and if its anything like my other 3 nephews i wil be so lucky...and plus i can kidnap the baby for the night whenever i want to so i can get lots of baby cuddles!
The week after i found out about my bro, my other close friend came to me and said she was a week late, she actually got her positive BFP in my bathroom, i really didn't know what to think and what to say, i just laughed, Surprisingly i took that ok too and i didn't even cry which i was very proud of!
All 3 of them knew what had happened to me, and they have all been pretty amazing. They have only talked about things if i have prompted the conversation, i suppose they are generally just being really sensitive about the whole situation and i love them so much for that.
Sorry, got a bit carried away there! Just wanted you to know that whilst its not nice, you will get through that part of it. You are probably stronger than you think and its all still very raw to you, allow yourself to be upset if and when you want to be. And keep talking to us xx
08/07/2013 at 09:38
Glad you saw the docs and have a bit of a plan now. Did they say anything about the cramping? Like sweetpea said did you do a test? You've had some fab advice from the girls here so I echo what they say and hope you can start to de stress as you've really been through it recently. lots of hugs xxx
15/07/2013 at 07:21
Thanks Figaro; nope she didn't give me any idea to what the cramps are, but, after my Mum just being diagnosed about 3 months ago of having womb cancer, it got me a tad worried especially as my last period wasn't as long as it normally is. She just said that cramping after a period is normal, it maybe normal for some but for me this was a first. Thanks for the hug xx
15/07/2013 at 07:23
Hey SP, nope I don't even know what the symptoms are for PCOS, but, this has not been mentioned by the doc? I haven't taken another pregnancy test as I think we are out this month anyway, I'm unsure if we dtd around ovulation and I'm due on any day now too :( xx
15/07/2013 at 07:27
Hey Suze, don't ever apologise for giving advice and trying to help, honestly, that's what I need and I'm so thankful for it, keep it coming lovely :) You've been through a lot with all the pregnancy news with your nearest and dearest and I congratulate you on how well you are coping :) It's odd but I feel as if I'm distancing myself from my friend at work, it's awful I know, I don't mean too but the more I look back on the last week or so I think I am! I will try harder this week and get on with things, she said she's already started to gain weight and she is only a size 8 with a flat belly and I'm sure I can see a little bit of a swollen belly going on there awww :) Take care matey xx
15/07/2013 at 07:28
Hey CO, thanks for your words, yep some great advice here as always and I'm grateful, I'm due on in a couple of days, well today could be the first day but after last month, I'm not sure when it will arrive this week :) xx
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