I've had enough!!! Fed up spending a fortune on OV sticks and CBFM sticks and tests and all the rest, just to get annoyed when we always seem to miss ov date. so, from the end of this cycle i'm packing up the cbfm and putting the thermometer in a draw. I can't cope with this desperate feeling of failure each OV and AF, it's crippling me!

(ps, got my peak today but dh seems to have yet another cold and be in no fit state to bd - maybe that's why i feel sooooooo fed up) :cry:

oh KatRob I am so sorry, I began with the sticks and quickly gave up! I am not organised enough for the CBFM either! I still want it sooooooo bad just does not fit with me that's all. It will happen! think we both joined at a similar time and it will be our turn soon I know it! Finding OV is tricky I just use those free ovulation calendars online and try to BD before and around that date. Fingers crossed hun your BFP is around the corner x

sorry you're feeling so fed up hun; I also felt like that for about 2 weeks after af arrived! really fed up with the whole thing!! maybe not testing for ov this month might help you to relax a bit and take away a bit of pressure, see how it goes and FC it will do the trick xx

thanks ladies! it's the feeling like i'm just throwing my money away on all this stuff. not told dh yet, i will do though - when i'm in a real grump cos we missed it (although a lil bit of me is hoping he's ok enough to bd tonight) just annoyed more than anyhting that i now know my cycle and will know when ov is happening without all this stuff. i just want to feel like a normal, sane human being again!

Katrob - i was thinking of you earlier , thinking where you had gone !
Oh no , sorry to hear dh is ill again , maybe try to explain to him how important it is to u , maybe he coukd manage bd if u tell him its your peak today .
Im also sick of the whole process , taking a more relaxed approach this month and seeing what happens xxx

Katrob I abandoned my sticks and cbfm about 6 weeks back and I feel so much better for it. This was the first time in months that I didn't sit and howl when AF came. I hope it helps you to relax a bit too. I still have the thermometer but that may soon have the same fate because I have had enough. Sorry that DH isn't well. Last year we lost a whole cycle pretty much when I had the flu. Its horrible to feel you've missed it but I guess a healthy hubby is a good part of the plan xXx

Yup- same here! Have jacked in the ov sticks- cheap ones don't seem to work for me and as I was stood in tescos, about to pick up another pack, I noticed the price again- ??10! For 7 sticks! I think I've been in denial- I honestly thought the we're about a fiver.

Bugger that for a game of soldiers. Maybe we can start a no-stress, relaxed TTC thread?

Hi hun. this ttc is horrible at times. i def know how you feel. This is month 12, and if no success then we are going to take a month or maybe two off ttc.

A month or two off may help you feel a bit better, I stopped trying November/December time, just felt so much less pressured. Back on it now though! xx

wow, i thought it was only me who was giving in the props! it does make me feel better that i'm not hte only one. i think the money i'm saving too can go towards something for the lil one when it finally happens - might start to put the money i'd spend on stick in a jar and see how it mounts up!

hiya mummy, i had to have a step back from it all whilst i was getting more and more annoyed with everything - i've been checking in each day, but too wound up to make any helpful comments!

Broody_betty, i can't wait to feel a bit more relaxed about it! in the back of my mind i do still hear my clock ticking but i just cannot carry on like this - just means i might not have my 4 children by the time i'm 35 (i'm 31 now, so it is most unlikely anyway!)


thanks for letting me vent, i always feel so much better after talking to you lovely ladies xx

Glad u feel better hun , thats what we are here for ,vent as much as u need to hun.
Ive an argument with dh today so no bd ing for me ,just hope i dont have early ov this month !!
Xxx

i know everything i've said, but still cried this morning as my temp did its 3rd rise and cbfm dropped to high - another lost chance :'( only 2 more days of sticks then it's going in a cupboard! hate feeling like this xx

G/C with a story. My cousin tried for a baby for two years. She used all of the ov stuff and tracked her temp and nothing. She knew she was bding on the right days but still, she couldnt land her bfp. She went to the docs who agreed, on account of her age (she was 35), to refer her for IVF. The doctor have her a load of bumf to read, which she did, but convinced IVF was the only way she would conceive she stopped all of the charting and temping. Anyway, two months later she goes to the clinc for a consultation. She couldnt remember when her last period was because she hadnt thought about it being so focused on IVF. So they tested her and she was pregnant! You are right to give yourself a break from all of that pressure and just be. You never know, it might be what you need xx

thanks glitterbug, i know you're right. i just hope that i can sto thining about it when i put it all away! xx

Hi Katrob You will still think about it but hopefully will feel a bit more relaxed, I've felt better this month not thinking and analyzing all the time.I've also decided not to mention anything about TTC or babies to DH I think it takes the pressure off him.
babydust to us all this month xx

BTW, I didn't have DS til I was 31. I only wish me and DH would have tried sooner to have a baby together!worried we will have problems, He's 40 and I'll be 40 in may!!

well i've packed my monitor away! so much for it needing 10 sticks per cycle, i've got 2 left over and it didn't ask for one this morning. typical.

I know what you're saying carioke. I just had my ideal in my head - like we all do! I was meant to be married and having my first child at 27, but didn't meet DH til I was 29 so that plan was dead and buried before I got anywhere with it. we only got married in august and I hadn't even given children a thought - wanted to just enjoy being married for a while first. it was DH who said that he wanted to start for a family straight away. he wanted me to come off the pill before the wedding and start trying then, but i told him no - didn't want to risk being pregnant or having af on our wedding day, so i made him wait. I told him then I either wanted 1 for 4 children and nothing in between but in my head i don't want to be trying for kids after 35, it's not my ideal. who knows, i probably still will be and i know that you very rarely get what you want. just wish dh would take this ttc lark seriouly! hate the 'it will happen when it happens' attitude. my frind at work had her little girl last month and she said when they were ttc, they were bding more then you do in smep! he'd even wake her up when he got in from a night shift just to try and increase their chances. wish my dh was like that.

anyway, i've rambles enough now. time to find a home for the thermometer so i won't go hunting for it in the dark tomorrow morning, like i have done for the last 5 months.

sending you all my potent baby dust xxx

Your story sounds quite similar to mine! We got married in Nov & decided to start trying in Jan as we are aged 30/31 so didnt want to put it off. 1st month we both had really bad colds so only bd'd once but spent 2 weeks feeling sure I was pregnant, constant sick feeling. Anyway I swear to spite me AF came early which ruled that one out. This month I bought some ov sticks off the Internet but DH was poorly again so not up for it when it said I was ov'ing! I got so disheartened that I had it out with him & told him we should put off TTC till the summer. His reply shocked me but made me realize something. He said that he didn't want to put it off at all, he really wasn't feeling well that night & that he just wanted things to be a bit more natural without all the pressure of me telling him when he had to bd etc. I realized that I was putting so much pressure on him by talking about it or texting him all the time that it stressed him out. So decided to try & be much more laid back about it all this month. Plan to bd every other day around the dates I am due to ov, will also just test using ov sticks the days I am most likely but not mention this to him. This whole process should be fun & enjoyable not a time where we expect our partners to perform on certain days etc. Taking it easy is the way forward I think good luck Hun and hope it all works out for you

I am thinking of putting my CBFM away as I havent had a peak again this month. I bought it after reading all the good reviews n people getting a BFP after using it a couple of months but it hasnt done anything for me apart from cause me more stress! I have had signs of ov but not had a peak this month n this has happened a few times although I have been using it for nearly a year.

I know how u feel my OH says he wants kids but when it comes to AF arriving n me feeling crap he just says 'oh well' as tho he is not bothered. He is so laid bakc about things it is annoying. He is 35 as well so its not as if he is young times getting on. Sometimes i ask myself does he really want kids or is he doing it to make me happy but i think he does he just doesnt go on about it as much as i do!

All my friends have settled down and have kids n i was hoping the same as u that it would have happened to me by now but it hasnt. Hopefully we will get a little bit of luck soon x x x