Your story sounds quite similar to mine! We got married in Nov & decided to start trying in Jan as we are aged 30/31 so didnt want to put it off. 1st month we both had really bad colds so only bd'd once but spent 2 weeks feeling sure I was pregnant, constant sick feeling. Anyway I swear to spite me AF came early which ruled that one out. This month I bought some ov sticks off the Internet but DH was poorly again so not up for it when it said I was ov'ing! I got so disheartened that I had it out with him & told him we should put off TTC till the summer. His reply shocked me but made me realize something. He said that he didn't want to put it off at all, he really wasn't feeling well that night & that he just wanted things to be a bit more natural without all the pressure of me telling him when he had to bd etc. I realized that I was putting so much pressure on him by talking about it or texting him all the time that it stressed him out. So decided to try & be much more laid back about it all this month. Plan to bd every other day around the dates I am due to ov, will also just test using ov sticks the days I am most likely but not mention this to him. This whole process should be fun & enjoyable not a time where we expect our partners to perform on certain days etc. Taking it easy is the way forward I think

good luck Hun and hope it all works out for you