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04/06/2009 at 15:08
Hope you don't mind me posting on here. I've just found out I'm expecting in Jan 2010 but my very good freind has been TTC for a while now and had no joy. I had been toying with the idea of getting an Ovulation Test and was just telling her it might be worth her looking into - I thought I'd ask you ladies what your experience of them is.
Many thanks and good luck to you all.
04/06/2009 at 16:59
04/06/2009 at 20:42
04/06/2009 at 21:14
Hi,i've bn trying for 11 mths now,with no joy have contemplated ovulation kits but the stress of testing made me very uptight so have decided not to.
I have heard they work and are worth the money,a friend used them 2 cycles and got lucky. CONGRATULATIONS to you and all the very best to your friend x
05/06/2009 at 10:09
hmmm i think they seem a bit too cinical really!my friend whos been trying for over a yr with no luck has trid them afew times but for the expense and still not being pregnant not to mention feeing so uptight about everything she didnt think they were worth it.
i guess we can all try and up the chance by using ovulation calenders which i tried this month that way she knows when shes most fertile and the chance of concieving is higher.but to actually pinpoint ovulation would leave you such a small window of time and i prefer to think "hey i might not of ovulated yet lets give it another go." the hope lasts longer and i feel if i only had 2-3 days to give it a bash i'd have so much time to worry about whats not happened.the calender way you can have 1-3 happy wks thinking this could be it rater than 2-3 dys!
i wish her all the luck in the world and to yourself with your bump.my mate told me shes expecting in nov and her son is 3mths younger than mine and despite feeling upset (and a bit robbed I was supposed to be first!)at the time i couldnt be happier for her,so even if she does get upset i'm sure she'll come round.
11/06/2009 at 15:57
11/06/2009 at 22:08
Hey Anne,I won't try and tell you it'll happen and so forth-It is a NIGHTMARE every month pretending it's ok,when if your'e like me you just want to cry.
When I was trying for my first,I had a'cut off'point,that was easy to do as I couldn't long for what I'd never had,luckily he came 2 mth before that.
Trouble is,when you have 1 you feel cheated you can't conceive another,I made up my mind I'd never have ivf,but if I hadn't had number 2 I think I would have.I think it's sad the nhs won't fund your treatment,but if you don't want treatment I totally see where your'e coming from.
It's horrible,I know,cos once you know the joy of being a parent you do feel robbed. Anyone trying feels robbed don't get me wrong but then you have added pressure of the'are you having more brigade'
When you want to scream I've been trying for f~#)^*g months!!!!!!! But no we smile sweetly and say one day maybe.
Rant away hun,I hear you x
12/06/2009 at 13:06
Thanks so much for your honesty mummabear. It's hard to find other mums in the same boat that want to talk about this issue openly. It's understandable that any woman going through difficulty conceiving or fertility treatments want to keep it private. We are afraid to talk about it as it will be known that we have failed where other mums have succeeded, afraid to be judged or talked about. At least I have practical parenting mums who give me advice and support. Just someone to say it's ok I am having the same problem, I cry about it too.
Your sons are adorable. I pray you will soon get your longed for gift too. What a rollercoaster of emotions it has been since we decided to start trying. I think I have wrinkles just from crying every month at yet another failed cycle.
I hope my holiday away for two weeks will give me time to rest my baby brain and come back refreshed with a new perspective. You never know a bit of sun, good food and getting away from the mother-in law could do the trick - fingers crossed!
Thanks again for being so friendly in this lonely world of ttc.
12/06/2009 at 14:25
Thanks for replying and being so honest yourself,wanted to post the usual-take your mind off it and it will happen,but thiught you'd be like me-HEARD IT BEFORE!!!!!
Seriously tho,that's what happened,gave up sitting on the loo seat every month sobbing,started planning a kitchen and bingo along came Tom! Got a nice kitchen too!!!
I hope you have a fantastic holiday and break,try and relax,and yeah who knows. My fingers are crossed for you. Just don't start what I did-seeing myself as a failure as a woman-we are NOT. As my fella jokes-we're just mad for them!!!!!!!! Have a good break hun x x
I'm Rachel by the way! x
16/06/2009 at 11:31
16/06/2009 at 13:26
hi girls ....
how is the ttc going ???
im heading into month 6 and still no luck any tips on helping it happen ??????
17/06/2009 at 11:08
i'm heading into month 3now...going to try an ovulation kit this month from zoombaby so we'll see how that goes.I'm praying I'm going to be pregnant by christmas but who knows!fingers crossed!do you have any little ones yet or is this your first?i wish you lots and lots of luck
17/06/2009 at 13:47
Hey girls,still trying!!!
Lara you dont sound spoilt at all,3 month or 3 year its a nightmare when your'e longing for something.And for me it was quicker 2nd time round so why is it not happening now????? Have worked out my cycle is very different,so now am totally confused as which is 'best time' ie ovulating,because it changes every 4 cycles,how weird is that? How sad am I that I know this.
Started trying when Joseff was 4week old,he was 13 months over a week ago thinking someone on gods team has decided just the 2 for me. Does anyone else wish they had a crystal ball? Just want to know if I will have any more,and when roughly,so the stress could end basically.
I want to wish evrybody good luck who's trying lets hope it happens for us all soon x x x
17/06/2009 at 14:14
Lara cant believe you were late this time as well-you must of been on a high bless you.
Af due thurs,got backache already so guess not my cycle YET AGAIN!
17/06/2009 at 18:39
hi girls am still ttc its nearly 4 years now i think keep your chin up it is hard but i have got the the point of not letting it rule your life as i know all to well it does
mummabear there is a web site i use and it is quite good for ovulation
sending you all baby dust and good luck
17/06/2009 at 18:48
ohhh no and dont you think that the back ache tummy pains and generally feeling s**t feels ten times worse when you're trying? i was almost two wks late...couldnt believe it....so disappointed.my sisters just had her little girl aswell on saturday so it brings it all back!
btw i dont think you are sad for knowing your cycle?!i wish i knew mine more than i do....i only know bk the last 5mths,3x30days 1x34days and then my last extremely weird one!i think it may have been the fact i was on penicilin vk,i've heard a rumour that this can delay a period....unfortunately i only realised this after i got my baby hopes up!if you find that crystal ball i'll lend it off you!gonna try the ovulation kit fr next couple of months just because ive no idea no when i'm ovulating...here goes nothing!
17/06/2009 at 21:47
17/06/2009 at 21:54
Lara I wish you well with the kits,let us know if you find them easy and stress free hun,check out the website address Jade posted,I thought it was great.
Yes hun this twingey backache feels 100% worse when I just get the feeling I'd got it right this time I even thought about going to a clairvoyant!!!!! Just wanted to know if I will only have 2,then I could stop with the O.C.D and look to foster or adopt.
Just wanted to say though,and I know you all may think it's weird,I'm desperate for another but I really hope Jade,yourself and Anne get there before me,because I do have 2 children and I know I'm blessed,and want you guys to have the same. Baby dust to everyone-off to sulk with my pathetic pain now x
18/06/2009 at 10:07
18/06/2009 at 13:25
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