Me and my husband have been married for over a year now - he is 26 and i am 24 in March. I am currently working full time and stufying with one exam left until i am qualified - we both really wanna have kids but i am so scared of taking that step - he doesnt want to be an old dad and i dont have a clue what would happen with my work as i would only want to go back part time - and i dont know how the money situation works - also worried about view of my family including the famous line when i mention babies of "you dont want to do that yet" which really doesnt help. My husband parents are so supportive so i know i would have their support 100%

any advice would be great.

Thanks guys

Im not going to give much in the way of advice sorry, but i will say, there is never a right time to have a baby. But if i were you i'd wait until i was qualified and have my maternity leave and see how you feel. you may want to go back to work or you may realise that you can afford to have a bit more time off with the baby, or work may suprise you and let you back part time.
Its also your life so dont worry about what anyone else says, do this for you and your husband.

good luck with whatever you choose to do xxx

hu hun im 24, hubby 29, we are gonna ttc next month, only u can know if u r ready, u will never get this time alone back so dont rush if ur not ready i have been broody for 3 years, weve been married 2, and im glad we waited a bit. check out citizens advice website for info on maternity leave, pay, and child benefits, but as for the other stuff, only you 2 can decide, tell him 26 isnt old, u could wait 3 years and he'd still be a dad in his twenties! men 20 years older than him are having babies so he will def be a young dad xxx

[Modified by: sianyp77 on October 24, 2009 09:11 PM]



[Modified by: sianyp77 on October 24, 2009 09:12 PM]

Hi there,
I'm 27 and my husband is 35. We've been married for 18 months now. We've decided that we're going to start TTC in the winter. I've been on antidepressants for a while and want to come off them first. All I can say is that you have to do what's right for you and your husband, and do what feels right.
For us, we wanted kids but "not yet", then suddenly it just felt like the right time, and we were just ready all of a sudden. Don't worry about your family - like my dad, they're probably just thinking that they're too young to be grandparents. In terms of job - like others have said - there is never a right time, but i also think that there is therefore never a wrong time. I used to be a surgeon (gave it up cos i hated it, and am in the middle of a career change) and know that if i was still doing that it would be almost impossible to find the "right" time, and a time when i wouldn't face lots of opposition from the bosses.
So what i'm trying to say is that you'll know when it feels right, and above all talk to your husband, and make sure you do what's right for both of you. Oh and I think the thought of having kids is scary for everyone!
xxx

Thanks for the great views guys! WE have decided just to go for it as its what we both want and i think there will always be a reason not to! Bit scared though but like you say im sure everyone is! His parents wil be soo supportive as well so i just thought why not and well lifes to short at the end of the day - i will keep you all posted

xxx