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18/10/2014 at 15:57
Hi guys (relative) newbie here.
OH and I had talked about children, sometime in the future, but we weren't in any hurry for them. We were thinking maybe 5 years' time or so. Then I was diagnosed with "significant" endometriosis and told to start TTC asap. We put it off for a couple of months, partly because I had a horrible time recovering from my endo op (which hasn't worked ). I was absolutely terrified at the prospect. I have an anxiety disorder, so changing plans (especially so dramatically) freaks me out.
We started TTC at the end of last month, and I feel completely overwhelmed. I thought it would just be a case of "have lots of sex", but the more I read about it, the more it sounds hideously complicated! All this stuff about "basal temperatures", what to eat, what not to eat, whether one position is better than another etc etc. And now I'm approaching AF (which I'm dreading anyway because the endo pain is horrific), and all of a sudden I'm really depressed by the prospect that I might not be pregnant. I was even hoping that my horrible temperature, headaches and nausea were very early pregnancy symptoms because I've read that it can feel fairly like the flu. We've only been TTC for a month and I didn't even want children yet! I already know the endo could be affecting my fertility - I hate the thought of months or years more of this!
Please tell me it gets easier!
18/10/2014 at 18:10
Hi, I don't have much advice to give as I'm only in month 1 myself but agree that it can become quite overwelming quite quickly. We are just going for the lots of sex method for the time being as I don't want to get too hung up on it just yet.
I have read a fab book called the Impatient woman's guide to getting pregnant- written by Julia Twenge. It was written by a dr who has had 3 children herself and writes everything in easy to understand language. It has really helped me to worry less.
Here to chat if it helps x
18/10/2014 at 23:11
Big hugs. Try not to get too caught up on positions, diet etc as this stuff has v v weak evidence base. Best thing is plain and simply lots of sex. It almost sounds like you need some support to come to terms with the condition. And also immediately TTC isn't the right thing for everyone, unless it is what you both feel like doing. Like you I was amazed at how desperate I was not to get my period, even on the first month.
19/10/2014 at 08:06
Hi Madam, I have s stress related disorder so I can empathise with you over the changing of parameters can cause you upset without adding in TTC. Regardless of mental health issues the 2 week wait is a head F*ck where any little symptom makes you hopeful - even when you have symptoms prior to implantation if you were pregnant... I think the way we are taught sex education does not help with our expectations. You do it once and Ta DAH you're preggers.
I would find temping too much for me stress wise as i don't really control my waking up time and can be up a few times in the night. I do however find using OPKs helpful, it helps me to know that I have ovulated and that we had or didn't done the deed at the right time for there to be a chance. Also helps as my husband has a low sex so dtd all through the month is not for him.
Hoping your journey is a short one.
20/10/2014 at 18:25
Cheers for the replies. I'm being referred to an endometriosis specialist, so hopefully I'll be able to ask them about whether/how much it's likely to affect my fertility. There's loads of potential complications from tubes being blocked/adhesions preventing ovulation through to hormone imbalances which can make implantation harder (I do way too much reading!).
I'll look into OPKs, but the endo also makes me quite irregular (my cycles can be anything from 21 to 28 days), so I don't know how accurate they'd be.
I'm trying to relax about it, but I'm finding the entire situation a complete mindf*ck.
23/10/2014 at 15:33
hi love ... if it helps, a friend of mine has chronic endo, and has a beautiful wee baby boy :)
24/10/2014 at 18:54
Thanks SW. That does help a little.
Had a total rollercoaster today. Found out a friend of mine is pregnant (I'm one of about 4 outside of her immediate family who knows). I'm absolutely thrilled for her, but felt like crying when she told me. Then, to make it even better, I had a meeting with my boss about my occupational health referral for my endo and to update him that I am getting a referral to a specialist clinic, and he started going on about will the discussion with the specialist be along the lines of considering whether a hysterectomy might be a suitable treatment for me!! This is the second time he's mentioned a hysterectomy when talking about my sick leave. Apparently, he had a friend who had a hysterectomy for the same reason when she was 35, so I don't know if he thinks he's being helpful or if he's deliberately being a ****. Either way, it put me on a massive downer for the rest of the day.
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