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20/08/2014 at 17:49
hi everyone, i am new to this so i hope i am writing in the correct forum.. i suffered a early miscarriage on the 30th of june i was approx 4weeks.. the bleeding wasnt heavy it lasted about 5days. since then i have not received a period,, i was worried and decided to do a home pregnancy test two days ago, to my surprise it was positive. i was happy but scared at the same time. my partner of four years is the only person i have told, as my family werent supportive when i told them about the first pregnancy as i am young and they want me to wait till i am older. i havent gone to the doctor yet as im still getting my head around it. im just worried as i did not have a period since the m/c bleeding.. im also nervous about what the doctor will say about me getting pregnant so soon again.. it wasnt planned to happen so soon but i am extremely happy it has, as i work with children and i cant wait to be a mom.. im wondering if anyone can give me advice on dating my due date? do i consider the m/c bleeding as my last period? and is there a risks involved getting pregnant after a miscarriage. thank you for reading and i would appreciate any advice.
20/08/2014 at 18:48
The advice that i have had is that you treat the first day if bleeding as cd01... & given that your loss was super early its even more likely that your body got straight back to normal so i wouldn't worry about things. Get yourself to the docs to confirm & take it from there.
21/08/2014 at 10:21
Agree with sw2 get to the docs and ask for a blood test, good luck!
it can happen i had 2 m/c last year and after my 2nd one i fell pregnant again about a month after xx
21/08/2014 at 23:27
thank you. i have been to the doc today now just have to wait for my scan. fingers crossed
10/09/2014 at 21:50
hi there everyone. i am 6weeks pregnant and since lastnight i have been getting brown blood/discharge when i use the bathroom.. theres no red blood thank god. can anyone give me advice as my scan isnt for another two weeks.. i hope im not having a miscarraige as i suffered one in may.. is what im experiencing normal? Im not having severe cramping just a little discomfort in my lower back time to time..
11/09/2014 at 02:40
Lynn... firstly that's such good news to hear you were infact pregnant again so soon after your loss.... I understand you must be worried given your earlier mc.... That is totally normal to be anxious.
Brown spotting can be perfectly normal during pregnancy... Many women do have that so it might not be anything at all to worry about. I would though speak to your doctor about it anyway as its always recommended that you report any spotting. Given your previous miscarriage they may be willing to move your scan date up to put your mind at rest sooner.
Good luck lynn... I really hope things go well for you x
11/09/2014 at 22:23
thanks so much for the reassurance. ive been to the doc today and i have gotten a scan for the morning to see how things are going. fingers crossed really hope everything is ok and that i will see and hear a heart beat. xx
11/09/2014 at 22:57
12/09/2014 at 01:06
Good luck! Keep us posted x
12/09/2014 at 22:58
so i went for the scan today.. nothing showed on the scan so i was given a vaginally scan cant remember the proper name for it.. what showed was a very small sac and yolk.. she said as it was so small i would be very early in the pregnancy and only about 4weeks,, but since i tested postive on the pregnancy test over 6weeks ago she was abit worried.. my blood was taken to check the hcg level and i must go back on sunday to get it checked again.. unfortunately i wont receive the results untill monday afternoon so im spending the whole weekend wondering and worrying about whats going on.. the bleeding hasnt stopped and has turned red from brown now im just so confused.. i have no cramps in my tummy but do have in my lower back.. if i have miscarried again is there any tests i could do as i miscarried very early on last time aswell.. feel like my body cant carry a pregnancy.. very emotional and confused.. xx
12/09/2014 at 23:05
13/09/2014 at 01:07
Oh I'm so sorry Lynn that your scan didnt go well... I echo entirely what Sarah has said. I too have had 2 miscarriages (my 2 & only pregnancies so far). With my first I had no tummy ache, just backache & the tiniest bit of spotting prior to mmc being confirmed. With second, again I had no real pain until I started suddenly bleeding heavily at 91/2 weeks.
tif the outcome on monday is not good... Please please try not to blame yourself... I'm sure I speak for 99% of women who have been in this awful situation in that we all have moments of blaming ourselves... But in reality there really is very very little we can do.... It's just a cruel fact of life that some of us have to go through this multiple times. Good news is... As Sarah & many others can attest to, having 2 miscarriages does not mean the end & the odds are in our favour that we will have healthy pregnancies in the future. I know that might not seem like news you are able yo hear at the moment but in time it will hopefully give you the strength to carry on.
there are tests that can be done. I had a series of blood tests after my 2 losses to check for clotting disorders & was also offered a scan to check for structural abnormalities in my uterus. some doctors are happy to do this after 2 losses while some won't start testing until after 3. Be prepared though, as my OB told me, that the most common result of the tests is that things 'look fine' & there is no answer to be found to explain the losses.... This is what happened to me.
wishing you well lynn... Take care & keep posting if you need to talk more x
14/09/2014 at 16:52
thanks so much to you both for your kind words and advice i really appreciate it. the bleeding is terribly heavy today alot of clots and alot of cramping.. Tomorrow afternoon i am receiving a phone call from the nurse that done the scan on friday shes going to let me know what the hcg levels are from the blood test taken friday and the one taken today.. unfortunately i know the pregnancy has already passed as ive bled so much this weekend. will keep in touch, again thank you so much for your support.
16/09/2014 at 22:43
so the pregnancy fully passed yesterday as i had to be rushed into casualty as i had extremely heavy bleeding with large clots the hospital kept me in over night as they were concerned that i was bleeding too much,, i lay awake all night thinking and worrying about what was going on inside my body,, the cramps were terrible and the clots i seen were so scary, i went for a scan first thing this morning and they felt the pregnancy had fully passed and that i could return home if i felt up to it which i did,, i couldn't bear another night there feeling lonely and isolated. so now i have miscarried for the second time and cant bear to face this again as i felt i was going to die with the amount of blood i was losing.. unfortunately the nurse told me they could not do any tests until the 3rd miscarriage to see if there is anything that may be causing these early miscarriage's.. i dont smoke and have a healthy lifestyle.. i dont think i would be able to risk this happening again that ive sworn off getting pregnant ever again incase this happens.. i love children its what im studying in college so now im at a loss at what my future may hold.. xx
17/09/2014 at 00:00
Lynn... I have had moments of feeling that exact same way and I'm sure everyone who has had multiple miscarriages has too.... For you it is still super super early days after your losses and your feelings (both physical and emotional) are still so raw. I must say that so far, I don't feel like my emotional scars have healed... I still cry thinking about my babies that I've lost and thinking about how happy I had been at my 8 week scan when I heard the heart beat... I still feel the loss immensely. But, after a period of time I knew that I wanted to try again as I just cannot imagine my life without children in it. I can honestly say I know that I will be terrified when I do conceive again.. worrying about losing a third baby... but... for me I just have to try... have to know if I was just super unlucky with my first 2.
I have heard stories from many women whose first 2 pregnancies ended in miscarriages and they then went on to have healthy pregnancies (both personally and through this website) so I am holding onto that hope that I will be the same.
Give yourself some time to heal and then reassess... it may be that you don't change your mind and will not want to conceive again but that does not mean that your future has to be one without children in it... there are other options... providing a stable and loving home for a child is something that any 'mother' can do whether it be your biological child or not (and I call us that because I truly believe that women who have been through losses ARE mothers... they're just mothers without their babies to hold yet).
in the coming days just try your best to look after yourself.... eat whatever you like (if junk food is all you want to eat rather than nothing... than that's better than nothing... I had days of eating chocolate for breakfast and cereals for dinner following my mc's!)... rest up, keep a cuppa tea in your hand (preferably supplied directly to your hand by someone else while you stay snuggled on the sofa), & do your best not to bottle up your feelings, talk to people.... be it loved ones, or us on the website.
Thinking of you.
17/09/2014 at 12:18
SW2 thank you so much. i will take your advice and rest up and think about babies and conceiving another day.. as thinking about the future right now isn't practical for me as my emotions are all over the place. i know deep down i do want to get pregnant some day im just scared of that thought at the moment.. i know time is a great healer and i know how im feeling right now will be get easier as the weeks go by. again thank you i am so grateful for this website. xx
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