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31/08/2015 at 11:08
I'm after some advice....We recently started trying for a baby and got pregnant after 2 months. Unfortunately, we suffered a miscarriage. After a very upsetting time, we have decided to continue trying straight away...
My question is...is there anyone out there that has been through the same thing and is now terrified to get pregnant again?
I'm so scared that it will happen again. I'm scared that it will happen again because I'm so stressed out about it happening again. If you have been through this and got pregnant again, how did u cope?
31/08/2015 at 11:48
Hi tori, I had a mmc in march 2014, due to some medical issues we had to wait until October to TTC again. We got the bfp in April 2015
I was if course anxious and worried but my midwife said that this pregnancy dosnt have any higher risk of loss than any other lady my age and that was reassuring x
We are now 24+2 and everything is going well so far and I know many ladies who have gone on to deliver healthy babies after a loss.
I hope you can look forward and see this as a new beginning, nothing can replace the angel you lost but the future is open and waiting,
Best wishes x
31/08/2015 at 12:03
I'm sorry for your loss as well. Congratulations on ur pregnancy :)
can I ask...were you a nervous wreck up until ur first scan? Is there anything u did to help urself not stress out? x
31/08/2015 at 14:11
sorry for ur lose I know how u feel this happend to me found out I was pregnant in June loses it I. July just waiting for my period to start again I feel this same it's it to fast to try again but if u don't try u will never know x good luck x alana x
31/08/2015 at 20:36
I know its hard to deal with and different for every woman but for me, I had to do something....not only to remember our angel but to mark the event so to speak, I decided on a small butterfly tattoo - in a bright colour...to remember our baby, mark the date as a sort of memorial and to also symbolise our new chapter in life.
Strange that I had this done at the 1 yr anniversary of the mmc and I got the bfp the next cycle!
I feel its important to acknowledge, accept and advance....I think remembering is important but not to dwell on what we lost so when we got pregnant again yes I was always conscious of the fact something could go wrong but with midwife and hubbys help I took a day at a time
I had a scan at 10 weeks and saw a heartbeat, I had scans at 12 and 20 weeks and all has been well and now I can feel baby move its more reassurance for us.
Some one asked me if I would have rather not have gotten pregnant instead of loosing a baby and it made me really think as we were TTC for over 2 yrs and eventually my answer was this, for the 8 or so weeks I had that life and soul, it was loved, wanted and cherished and the memory will never be forgotten so I'd rather have the chance to love than not.
It's bought my immediate family in closer than ever and helped friends open up about their experience s too and its made us appreciate our kids that tiny bit more.
I don't think its something any one can get over but like any death, you must grieve and it becomes easier to deal with x
We still do something small on anniversary s just to remember the date and for us that helps too, I also know a lady who just ignores it and that works for her so I think as long as you work thru your feelings and acknowledge them you will be fine if you do TTC again.
Sorry for the essay but I hope it helps xx
31/08/2015 at 20:46
Thank you. That's actually really helped me and my partner.
It probably doesn't help that I'm now in that 2 week waiting stage and so a bit overwhelmed and emotional anyway.
Thank you for ur story. :)
01/09/2015 at 00:47
Wishing you all the best x am here if u need a chat tho OK
You are defiantly not alone and there are some fab people on here who are happy to help, I know they have helped me since I joined
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