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06/06/2013 at 09:02
I am very confused and after some advice. I got married a year ago at the end of this month and at that time had been convinced I'd be TTC or maybe even pregnant by now. However I lost my job at christmas and fortunately started a new one in January which I must admit, I absolutely love. Now that I am in a job I love, i am so confused as I think I'd really like to come off the pill by the time my 30th rolls around in a couple of months. I feel like my head is here at work but my heart is longing to have a baby. I just don't know what to do. I am going to start saving for when I am off work and my husband is in a secure well paid job. I am a FT member of staff at my work so I will be entitled to maternity but I know that they are not keen on having people here part time after maternity so i'd have to fight my corner. It's just hard - my heart is tugging for a family and my work is making me think shall I wait. If anyone else has experienced this or has any advice or words of wisdom I'd really appreciate it. Thank you xx
06/06/2013 at 17:34
I had the same issue back in July 2008. As you can see I'm now the proud mummy to a gorge lil girl who's almost 4 and preg with baby number 2. Don't let work hold you back or you may just wake up one day and find its too late and you missed your chance. Don't let life pass u by, go with your heart having a baby is the best thing in the world. You sound like u have ur head screwed on so I'm sure ull make the right decision that's best for you but personally I know what id do. Well I did it! Been at my job 8 years n being made redundant. Just another number in a file on a payroll system I guess. Family beats it any day if the week. Only u can decide
07/06/2013 at 18:49
Thank you so much for your reply it's really given me something to think about. I love that you're so positive and that's definately how I want to be. Thank you xx
07/06/2013 at 18:56
LH you are so wise! xx
07/06/2013 at 20:12
I do try! Seriously tho I do remember sitting worrying how they'd cope at work without me if i had a baby and scared they'd b cross. Then I thought hang on a minute!! Can't put my life on hold forever! X
16/06/2013 at 09:09
I really appreciate the advice. I know I am 100% ready to try! I'd like to come off the pill in November when i turn 30 but now my hubby and our friends are organising a ski trip for early January so now I have to decide whether to wait till January or just start in November - I feel like I am being selfish wanting to have a ski holiday but then I think it'd be my last chance to go on a holiday like that. It's so confusing! I feel like i am being selfish even contemplating it! xx
16/06/2013 at 10:45
I tried to reply to you ages ago but it clearly didn't post. Grr.
Anyway I was in a similar boat to you and in the end felt that it would've been worse to go if work had been rubbish as I would have felt insecure. My boss was also more flexible becausheathe wanted me back.
I suffere from endometriosis and whilst I am lucky that it does not impact my fertility my consultant did tell me not to wait until I was 35. In general your fertility does decline and whilst its still wry possible to conceive for most women it can take longer and may mean that you are limited. Eg if you wanted four it might be a squeeze time wise! ( no pun intended).
so the above helped me make the decision not to wait.
Being honest working part time in my job is tough but it has been the right thing for my family anWei am about to increase my hours. And maybe ttc again in October.
Wirh regard to your trip you should do the things you know you will miss although I know a friend took her two daughters aged 1 and 3. Poor little one was dumped in the nursery. But I would also say balaneither choice to delay with the knowledge that it can take up to six months to get regular cycles back once off the pill and then could take longer to fall. The average is six months. Consultant told me 80% couples will fall in tr first 12 months and 90% by 24 months. The other 10% have difficulty and if course a few sadly never can.
As long as you are armed with the knowledge, are practical and go with what you want and need now with a little of the near future you will feel happy with your choices.
We are very much terrified to contemplate two babies and tell work for a second time. it never ends! X
16/06/2013 at 12:10
Thank you so much for your advice Tulip rose - i think what i will do is go on the trip but its at the start of jan so i can come off the pill in december. I know i'd want a couple of kids so i dont want to delay things for years. i really appreciate your advice. xx
16/06/2013 at 17:31
Last time it took me three months to ovulate after the pill so you could even come off earlier and use condoms.
it definitely helps to know when you are ovulating with ttc.
19/06/2013 at 08:10
Well I had a really good chat with the hubby at the weekend and he said to come off the pill november time, and whilst i wait to ovulate and get my cycle back, we can use protection and then i can be trying when we go on holiday. He just didn't want me to be pregnant by the time we go as the risk of falling etc is pretty high on a ski holiday! I'm so happy i can't wait for winter to roll around now ha ha xx
19/06/2013 at 14:40
19/06/2013 at 15:51
I know! I'm soooo pleased! I almost wish i could start trying now ha ha! It's good i've got time to prepare myself - do some reading and take my vitamins and get healthy! I can't wait to be a mummy now! xx
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