Good morning all

I was watching Supernanny on E4 last night and it was about a nine 9 year old who would just throw tantrums at the drop of a hat and hit out at her mum and dad if she didn't get her own way. The mum had lost a little boy at 23 months and had been told she could never have any more children - lucky she had her daughter and also a 7 year old son.

Anyway the mum was obviously made up to have had her daughter and wrapped her up in cotton wool and did everything for her, and I mean everything from washing her, dressing her to cutting up her food (I think she stopped short of spook feeding her). The 9 year old had no independence and the 7 year old was left out a lot and was begining to play up like his sister for attention. The mum had just thought she was being a good mum in doing what she was doing.

So this got me thinking - who my goodness what if I do the same when I get my BFP as obviously I am going to be so happy and I may think I am just doing things because I love my child so much etc.

So my question this morning to all you lovely ladies is - what makes a good parent? and how do I (we) get it right so that we don't need to call in supernanny!!!

I don't think there is an answer everyone dose things different the only thing i can sugest if you ever feel like you might be doing a bit to muc to have a work with a family member or friend any one just to get there opinion as well lol best thing to do is not to worry about it.

you do what you think is best. my parents have tried to tell me how to do things differently but i stick to my guns and i am raising my LO the way i want to. for instance my parents think its ok if my LO has pudding if she hasnt eaten all her dinner and i dont. if my LO plays up, she has time out at the bottom of the stairs and she has to stand there for 3 minutes, my parents think this is wrong and i should just calm her down and get on with it. i make my LO tidy up her toys before bed or before we go out and my parents and my hubbys parents will clear up after her which i my eyes isnt teaching her anything. so anyway everyone has different ideas about what is the best way to do things and when you have your LO you will make the desions on what feels good for you and your family x

I agree with you 'iwantanotheronepls' that is exactly the same as my family although my little girl isnt old enough to do time out yet!!! she is a right little maddam because mine and other halfs family try and take over and iv got to the point now where im sick of being the baddy becuse i say NO and all the arguements between me and oh because he doesnt see whats wrong because he hasnt got a child round him that is getting very spoilt, because he is at work all day!!!
I took her to boots yesterday and she saw somthing on the shelf playing music and flashing she almost screemed the shop down because i wouldnt give it to her!!! this is because hid parents give her everything and anything and i dont!!!
Does that make me a bad mom? just for wanting a curtious and well behaved little one???
(sorry for the rant!!! feel better now i have that off my chest though !!)

lol no you are not a baddy at all (im the same,lol) i wont even give my LO a snack until she says please. she has to say excuse me if she wants to walk pass someone and she asks to get down from the table when we have finished dinner. now i know i sound strict and i wasnt brought this way but i want what is best in my eyes for my children. i mean i was brought up to say please and thank you but we didnt have to ask to leave the table and i would just talk over people if i wanted to be heard but looking back on it i must have look so disrepectful to my parents and i dont want that for my daughter x

I agree with you too iwantantoherpls. I hammered pleases & thank you's into all of mine, the baby is still learning she is 2 but the others never fail to use their manners & everyone who encounters them for the first time comments on how nice it is to see kids with manners really makes me proud of myself for persivering (sp??) & proud of them for not having to be told to say please, thank you & excuse me etc.
I cannot abide bad manners they cost nothing & if you dont use them then you're just plain rude!! same as the no pudding if you dont eat your dinner, if they really dont like it then i'd make them something else if they're just being fussy they get no dessert simple as.

they also have to tidy their own room occasionally it gets in such a state me or hubby will do it, but when they are asked to tidy they generally do, its simple things like that, that will stand to them once they leave home, stuff like doing stuff for yourself shoudl be taught as early as they understand what it means in myopinion, obviously i woudlnt expect the 2 year old to tidy her own room & make her bed though ;\)