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12/09/2013 at 11:31
why is infertility such a taboo subject still ?
12/09/2013 at 11:34
I dont know. I wonder this about Miscarriage and baby loss. Noone seems to talk about it.
12/09/2013 at 11:39
I guess maybe people don't know what to say or how to talk about it.
12/09/2013 at 11:48
I think half the problem is that no one knows what happens/what the treatment is unless you're actually going through it. So no one has a clue what to say or ask. Then nothing is said it asked.
12/09/2013 at 11:59
Because it's such a sensitive subject. It's like mental health, no one knows what to say so they don't say anything at all.
12/09/2013 at 12:07
What Peanut said. Too many potential eggshells I suppose
12/09/2013 at 20:24
I know I don't talk about it because it upsets me. Even now. I was telling somebody at work yesterday about my mc and I still felt some tears welling up.
I guess it might a mixture of that plus there is a large portion of the population that have never experienced it and just won't understand how it feels. Not sure really.
12/09/2013 at 21:31
I am guilty of being rubbish at this. Even with my own sister. I am scared to ask questions in case it's upsetting for her, but am interested and worried. I want to understand so I can support her, but hate her to feel like she's being grilled. Sometimes she's really forthcoming when we talk, other times I get nothing and feel terribly guilty.
I've had mental health issues and am delighted and grateful if people have been brave enough to ask how I am, or what happens next or about treatment.
I've read threads on Hitched where people are furious at the pressure they feel put under by family to talk about having children. So I tend to steer clear even though my instinct is to show interest/concern.
12/09/2013 at 21:52
I think people don't understand it. I found a lot of people surprised at what was actually involved in ivf, and had no idea what hell we went through for 7 years.
12/09/2013 at 22:10
It's just such an emotive subject isn't it? Plus not everyone goes through it, so often sympathetic comments can seem hollow. It's also linked to your sex life, which people tend to be private about, and when you can't have a baby you feel such a failure, like people are judging, so it's easier not to talk about it.
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